Positive Discipline: Early Years is a three hour workshop I teach locally here in the Puget Sound area.  This class is for parents with kids under five and designed to give parents the opportunity to learn a more about child development and a more about Positive Discipline.

When we start the workshop, I always ask parents what their biggest challenges are with their kids –  and it’s always the same list…

“They won’t sleep!”

“They won’t eat!”

“Tantrums!”

“Biting!’

“Hitting!”

“Sharing!”

“Potty training!”

“Won’t pick up toys!”

Parents shout out their challenges, and are met with nods and groans from the other participants in the class.  The list is always the same – and this is a good thing!!!  We don’t live in our own private freakshow!  Our kids aren’t monsters!  Parents all over the world are dealing with these behaviors, they just don’t talk about it.

This is what I love about teaching parenting.  I get to create a safe space for parents to let it all out - the good, the bad and the ugly.  We all love our children, yes, and we all want to be the best parents we can be, of course, and it gets really messy!

We are not perfect, we are human. 

We all come into parenting with our own stories and experiences – these will show up.  And our really proud moments aren’t going to happen when we are overwhelmed, sleep deprived and at our wits end – and guess what?  That can define lots of the time we spend with our kids before they turn five.

Once we realize we are all in the same boat, that we always love, yet sometimes don’t like our kids, then we can do the work needed to be better at this parenting stuff.  There is no judgment in parenting class, only support and solutions.  Lively conversation, role playing and remembering what it feels like to be a child, gives parents hope that they can move forward, and begin to enjoy their children again.

The program I teach is Positive Discipline, based on the word of Alfred Adler.  Adler says that behavior is always movement in the direction of belonging and significance.  In my classes, parents begin to understand that their children want to feel connected and capable, they want to feel powerful, and they need to make mistakes.  The parents role is to teach life skills, to model self regulation, and to understand that developmentally appropriate behavior is not the same as misbehavior.

If this resonates with you, join me this Sunday, September 8 from 12-3pm, at Eastside Natural Medicine in Kirkland.  Come add some tools to your toolbox as we dive into Positive Discipline, the Early Years.  Register online so secure your spot!

 

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