Teacher posted about a difficult class…
Response about “parenting style” naming “gentle parenting” and followed up with a post about “helicopter parenting, mom and dad are friends, no discipline or consequences….”
Lets talk about this:
- The swing from authoritarian to permissive
- What is kind and firm
- Authoritative – structure and freedom
- The most important tool we have for influencing behavior is the relationship we build with our children – that is what this week in the Academy is all about.
- No boundaries/limits – not a solid relationship
- No voice/ freedom – not a solid relationship
- Mutual respect?
- Problem solving?
- Dignity in tact? – Dignity, the state or quality of being worthy of honor or respect.
Helicopter/lawn mower/permissive parenting ROBs children of the discomfort of learning from their mistakes. It robs them of the opportunity of making things right and fixing their mistakes. Robs them of the opportunity for problem solving, accountability, ownership.
Authoritarian parenting ALSO robs kids of opportunity. When we parent from a place that threatens punishment for making mistakes, kids no longer have the luxury of learning how to really think through the decision making process, instead, they learn the “better not do it cuz I don’t want to get into trouble” or “better not get caught”
Authoritarian parenting can often lead to a lack of respect in the relationship.
Guidelines and boundaries INSIDE OF a solid, respectful relationship will increase the likelihood of cooperative, contributing children.
KIND AND FIRM – listen to your body, are you in alignment with your values and what the kid need. There is WISDOM IN THE BODY, PAY ATTENTION.
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