Eps 58: Creating Special Time with Kelly Pfeiffer

Welcome! My guest for today’s show is a friend of mine and a fellow Positive Discipline parent educator. Kelly Pfeiffer lives in South Carolina and has raised four kids in a blended family situation. After a divorce, she remarried a man with two children, which blended their family with kids of ages 15, 15, 13, and 12. Those children are now young adults, and Kelly has been a parent educator for the last 16 years. Today’s topics include positive discipline parenting tools, focusing on our discussion of “special time,” a way to guarantee one-on-one time with each child to maintain the vital parent-child connection. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • How Kelly was introduced to Positive Discipline: “Why do parents not know this?”

  • Why having tools and a formula doesn’t guarantee an easy parenting road

  • Variables in blending families

  • The Special Time tool: how to present it to parents

  • A magical connection between parent and child

  • Kelly’s advice for Special Time:

    • Plan it and put it on the calendar

    • As much as possible, let it be child-led

    • Incorporate non-competitive games

    • Use bike rides, picnics, and other outdoor activities

    • Limit distractions (Put away your cell phone!)

    • Use bedtime routines

    • Take advantage of time with a younger child when an older one has an activity

    • Take advantage of time with an older child when a younger one needs to nap

    • Have an older child help with dinner preparation

  • How connection helps diffuse power struggles

  • Tools to repair and recover from hurts

  • Why parents need to say “I’m sorry”

  • Don’t give up when a teen is resistant

  • Ideas for saving Special Time money

  • What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “Being courageous, feeling the fear, and doing it anyway---with JOY!”



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