Eps 74: Talking to Melissa Brown About Blended Families

Today’s guest is Melissa Brown, a blended family podcaster who works with stepfamilies. We are going to talk about blended families and the challenges they face. Join us!

 “Raising children is the biggest rollercoaster ride of your life.”

What you’ll hear in this episode: 

  • The biggest challenge facing blended families today

  • Dealing with drama while protecting kids from triangulation

  • The value of a child-centered approach when navigating difficult relationships with exes

  • The importance of self-awareness, love and patience in creating a positive environment for kids.

  • How to use problem solving tools you use with your kids with your exes to improve relationships

  • Learning to identify what you can’t control and how to deal with that

  • The mixed blessing and additional pressure of sibling rivalry on blended families and how to handle it

  • How to empower your kids for conflict resolution in blended families and learning to stay out of it, resisting the temptation to “fix” things

  • Protecting your relationship from blended family drama

  • Bonding with step kids – particularly teenagers – keeping an open mind.

  • Finding an entry point for building connection

  • Flexibility and scheduling in blended families

  • Routines and rituals – creating a sense of belonging

  • Consistency between houses, managing energy and big feelings.

  • Leveraging patterns in your blended family – approaching problems with curiosity

  • Dealing with (and expecting) setbacks and recovering when things don’t go as planned

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

It takes a lot of courage to blend a family – it’s not always an easy journey. Joyful courage to me means understanding the importance of finding joy even through the pain in life. Our biggest growth and our biggest lessons always come from hard times.

Where to find Melissa:

Blended family podcast l Facebook l Twitter

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Eps 58: Creating Special Time with Kelly Pfeiffer

Welcome! My guest for today’s show is a friend of mine and a fellow Positive Discipline parent educator. Kelly Pfeiffer lives in South Carolina and has raised four kids in a blended family situation. After a divorce, she remarried a man with two children, which blended their family with kids of ages 15, 15, 13, and 12. Those children are now young adults, and Kelly has been a parent educator for the last 16 years. Today’s topics include positive discipline parenting tools, focusing on our discussion of “special time,” a way to guarantee one-on-one time with each child to maintain the vital parent-child connection. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • How Kelly was introduced to Positive Discipline: “Why do parents not know this?”

  • Why having tools and a formula doesn’t guarantee an easy parenting road

  • Variables in blending families

  • The Special Time tool: how to present it to parents

  • A magical connection between parent and child

  • Kelly’s advice for Special Time:

    • Plan it and put it on the calendar

    • As much as possible, let it be child-led

    • Incorporate non-competitive games

    • Use bike rides, picnics, and other outdoor activities

    • Limit distractions (Put away your cell phone!)

    • Use bedtime routines

    • Take advantage of time with a younger child when an older one has an activity

    • Take advantage of time with an older child when a younger one needs to nap

    • Have an older child help with dinner preparation

  • How connection helps diffuse power struggles

  • Tools to repair and recover from hurts

  • Why parents need to say “I’m sorry”

  • Don’t give up when a teen is resistant

  • Ideas for saving Special Time money

  • What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “Being courageous, feeling the fear, and doing it anyway---with JOY!”

Resources:

www.thinkitthroughparenting.com

Find Kelly on Facebook and Twitter (@posdisparenting)

Become a Positive Discipline Parent Educator at Kelly’s 2-day workshop in Greenville, SC, in October

Email newsletter: Find out more and sign up for these parenting tools on Kelly’s website!

Positive Discipline by Jane Nelson, Ed.D.

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