Eps 158: Kimberly Muench talks about the tight rope walk of raising teens

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Today’s guest is Kim Muench. She is a JAI Institute for Parenting certified parenting coach who works with moms of preteens and teenagers. She is the mother of 5 kids ages 13-31. She writes about conscious parenting, provides one on one coaching and workshops to help support moms towards intentional parenting. We are discussing detaching from the outcome. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-When children arrive at adolescence

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- The balance of boundaries and relationship building with our teens

- Choosing your battles

- Defining your family values

- Setting an example for your kids

- Defining non-negotiables

- Ways to offer choices to your teenager

- Detaching from the outcome

- Prioritizing personal care and personal development

- The illusion of control

- Individuation and what that can look like

- Supporting our kids in making better choices with alcohol

- Being okay with kids failing or things taking longer

- Trusting vs hovering - learning to detach

- Taking a long view to your relationship with your kids

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage means to me enthusiastically embracing and supporting the journey of our sons and daughters that have come into the world to live out their journey. Supporting and encouraging them with enthusiasm. And I love the two words together, I think it’s fantastic.

Resources:

Episode 82: Tweens and Smart Phones

Where to find:

Website

Facebook

Twitter

Facebook Group Real Life Parenting Community

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Eps 147: Empowered Stepmothering (and mothering in general...) wth Nathalie Savell

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Today’s guest is Nathalie Savell of the Empowering Stepmoms Summit. Natalie is a holistic psychotherapist, a certified holistic health coach and a certified stepmom coach. She sees psychotherapy clients dealing with anxiety and life transition challenges, relationship issues and spiritual disease in person, via video chat and through walk and talk sessions in Baltimore, Maryland and coaches stepmoms virtually to help them go from overwhelm, confusion, stress and resentment to confidence, clarity and connection. We are discussing thriving in step parenting. Join us!

“People have more power than they think. I hear a lot of stepmoms feel so out of control and so disempowered by the ex, the kids, whatever their partner is doing and there is support out there."

"It doesn't take as much as you think to get on a path that's a lot more helpful that makes you feel a lot more empowered."

"Get the support that you need and deserve. Reach out and get it."

What you’ll hear in this episode:

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-The mind body connection

-Flexibility and how that relates to kindness and firmness

-The Think Tree exercise and how that facilitates flexibility with boundaries

-Building connection in step-parenting

-Control and step-parenting - finding balance

-Adjusting from step-parenting to raising one's own child

-Parenting and commitment

-Co- parenting as a stepmom when the child's other parent doesn't want them to participate

-Establishing boundaries for self care

-Giving yourself permission to have feelings about your stepkids and not feeling pressured to feel loving all the time

-The value of couple work in being a united front

-Finding bottom line things you agree on and where your boundaries are

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I love the term Joyful Courage so much. It's like the courage to keep doing the work. The courage to keep going and you know, I call the stepmoms in my group "stepmom warriors" some times because I'm like "You're a warrior, keep fighting, keep going, fighting the good fight to be a loving person." For me, it's like a spiritual warrior for being on a path of love. It takes a lot of courage because it's not easy and a lot of people are going to judge you. And a lot of people are going to naysay you. And to add in that joy in there, so not only are you being brave and courageous, and like keep putting one foot in front of the other but how can you have fun while doing it and why not? So why not peel back the layers and see how you can be childlike in your battles, in your love battles. I think we all need to be that way, to have fun, so it's important to take things lightly at the same time that you work hard at them.

Resources:

Interview series on NathalieSavell.com

Where to find Nathalie:

Nathaliesavell.com
Stepmom Strong Coaching group on Facebook
Stepmom Strong Facebook page
Stepmom Strong Coaching on Instagram

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Eps 101: Casey is Solo with Wisdom from an 8 Year Old on the Power of Offers/Counter Offers

One of my favorite parenting tools, which fully connects our kids to significance and belonging, is the offer and the counter-offer.  Casey and her very special guest, Malaney, discuss the best way to use offers and counter-offers.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

·      My eight year old niece chimes in on why having the option to counter offer helps her feel happy
·      Imagine aligning your vision of boundaries and expectations with that of your child’s
·      Building life long skills in processing, communicating and self confidence
·      An effective tool that helps build feelings of belonging and significance
·      What are non-negotiables vs.negotiables
·      How opening up the opportunity for your child to have a voice will help them ease into non-negotiables with healthy cooperation

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Eps 99: Casey is Solo Exploring Boundaries, Agreements and Screen Time

Welcome back to the show!

Let me share my own story from the trenches… You aren’t the only one who has kids who act like you are ruining their lives when you ask them to help our around the house…  AND, it is a beautiful thing when your kids turn it around and own their behavior, right? It is a good thing, yes, but I am getting curious about if I am inadvertently raising a people pleaser….?? 

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Mama Denise shares “Literally losing my mind on first day of summer vacation over iPads. I don't have an ounce of energy for a single tool. I'm the worst mom ever, according to my daughter (5y 10mos). And my 7 1/2 yo son "needs this mower" on a farm simulator game. Literally feel like pitching these machines in the dumpster. Thank you for listening.”

These are the struggles where we can release most of the load and pull our kids into co-creation. Casey takes Denise’s familiar scenario and leads us through the practice of intention, presence and solution.

  • Showing up intentionally, rather than reactively

  • Creating intention and applying it to our lens and presence

  • Noticing the ease of intention when the ride is smooth and the rockiness when things fall apart

  • Creating routines that help kids know what is happening and allowing them to have influence

  • Making agreements to help kids create boundaries

  • Identifying needs vs. privileges. ex. Screen time – it is a privilege

  • Privilege comes after contributions

  • Difference between contribution vs. chores

  • A privilege differs from a reward

  • It’s not about “earning”, it’s about “management”

  • Guiding kids to have a voice in solutions when they feel an agreement or routine is not working

  • Seeing the tip of the iceberg and KNOW that beneath the surface is a request for boundaries

  • Allowing children a voice means we hold them as contributors to the cause

  • Children are more likely to follow through when they have a voice in the creation of the agreement

  • Introducing offer and counter offer tool – teaches parent how to let go of agenda, control and rigidity

  • Sharing power when stakes are low

Resources:

Routine Handout
Agreement Handout

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Eps 82: A Conversation about Parenting in the Age of Smart Phones with Kim Muench

Today’s guest is Kim Muench, a mother of five, parenting writer, a certified parenting coach and lover of parents of adolescents. We are discussing navigating decisions around technology with our kids. Join us!

“Conscious parenting: being mindful and walking the tight rope between giving them autonomy and knowing when to step in and help them see the potential consequences of choices”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Balancing your need for control and desire to protect your kids with providing access to benefits of smart phones

  • Building trust, letting go of our own experiences and not projecting our own mischief (which can lead to friction)

  • Navigating the tightrope: being honest, open and self-aware as you work through technology use with your kids

  • Negotiating smart phone boundaries within your family

  • Scaffolding social media communication – building progressively

  • Adolescent boundary pushing as learning

  • Falling off the tight rope – learning as a practice and getting back up

  • Creating an agreement around technology usage – a collaborative approach subject to revision as needed initiated by either party

  • Limits as helping

  • Why you need open conversation about social media including topics such as safeguards and kindness

  • Technology as distraction and disconnection

  • Reassessing agreements on technology without blame and shame

  • The value of eye contact and being fully present in resolving conflict

  • How to address reigning in technology use under the umbrella of conscious parenting – identifying the source

  • Working collaboratively vs exerting control – what are the outcomes of these approaches?

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage is embracing your authentic self with enthusiasm and being brave enough to share that with the world – it is an every day practice.

Resources:

Screenagers documentary

Where to find Kim:

Website l Twitter l Facebook l LinkedIn

Facebook Group Real Life Parenting Community

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Eps 63: Dr. Joanne Foster and I Explore the Ups and Downs of Extra Curricular Activities

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Today’s guest is Joanne Foster, an educational consultant and author of several parenting and educational books. Her work focuses on supporting and encouraging children’s well-being, intelligence, creativity, self-confidence, and productivity. As a mother of two and grandmother of three, she has over 30 years’ experience working with gifted children. She recently wrote an article about the lure of extracurricular activities. It’s a topic that every family has to face and deal with in their own way. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Why extracurricular activities should complement what they’re learning in school

  • Opportunities and demand

  • How much choice should you give your children?

  • The perceived pressure that parents feel regarding extracurricular activities

  • Too much vs. too little

  • Should you ever let a child QUIT an activity?

  • Helping a child pick and choose activities

  • Examples of extracurricular options that DON’T have to be stressful

  • Advice for parents about setting boundaries

  • Why kids need help in developing accountability for decisions

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“For me, it means using my intelligence, drawing on past experiences, acquiring supports when needed, harnessing my creativity, and having faith in my ability to confront changes and challenges.”

Resources:

www.beyondintelligence.net.
Being Smart about Gifted Education by Dona Matthews and Joanne Foster
Beyond Intelligence by Dona Matthews and Joanne Foster
Not Now, Maybe Later: Helping Kids Overcome Procrastination by Joanne Foster

And an article that Joanne was inspired to write after our interview:
Too Invested in Your Child's Activities and Performance

Where to find Joanne:

Her website
Facebook

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Eps 42: Sarah Remmer helps us revamp mealtime

Welcome! My guest today is Sarah Remmer, a registered dietitian and pediatric nutrition expert. She blogs at Stork to Fork, sharing ideas, advice, and easy recipes for real parents who want their kids to grow into healthy relationships with food. Let’s jump right into this topic with Sarah!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Sarah is the mother of three young kids, so she knows the struggle!

  • In her client work, Sarah noticed that the common denominator was the way they were

  • Raised in dysfunctional relationships with food.

  • She rebranded and turned her specialty to helping parents raise kids with healthy habits and positive, functional relationships with food for life.

  • Her practice has been thriving, as she is now recognized as a top pediatric nutritionist.

  • Sarah discusses the biggest challenges in feeding kids; if you’re a parent, then you’ve experienced one or more of these!

  • How a recent blog post by Sarah focuses on the “role reversal” that takes place between parents and kids at mealtimes

  • Why kids should NOT stick exclusively with their favorite snacks, like yogurt or bananas

  • Boundaries are important and help create structure.

  • Sarah advises NO short order cooking, NO special meals, and NO snacking after meals.

  • Desserts are tricky!

  • Why you should NOT require “3 more bites of broccoli” before dessert!

  • Why kids are naturally drawn to energy-rich foods like sweets and carbs

  • Eating a wide variety of foods as a toddler will broaden your child’s palate!

  • Ask your child, “How can I make this food yummier for you?”

  • Bad habits CAN be changed!

  • How to involve kids in meals and meal planning

  • Sometimes, kids are truly NOT hungry!

  • Sarah explains your “long-term feeding lens” vs. the short term.

  • What does “joyful courage” mean to you? “Having the courage to start fresh. Forgive yourself for unhealthy habits. Be kind and end mealtime power struggles.

Connect with Sarah:

www.sarahremmer.com
Facebook
Twitter

Follow Sarah on the Yummy Mummy Club site! 

The Super Healthy Kids Blog

Feeding Kids: How Parents and Kids Often Have Their Roles Mixed Up (and how to fix it) 

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Eps 30: Setting Limits with Sarah MacLaughlin

Sarah is a social worker, a compassion coach, a play promoter and warrior for kindness...  How can an interview with her be anything BUT amazing???

We discuss limit setting, brain development and how to navigate our kids emotional outbursts in a way that is helpful and not hurtful.

Resources mentioned:

Dan Siegel: 
     - Whole Brain Child
     - Brian in the Palm of the Hand video

Where to find Sarah:
     - www.sarahmaclaughlin.com
     - Facebook
     - Twitter
     - Pinterest
     - Instagram

Helpful articles by Sarah:

Easing the Stress of Power Struggle

Why I Praised My Son for Threatening to Throw a Bowl at Me

How to Set Limits with Kids Without Harshness, Fear or Shame

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