Eps 179: SOLO show about trusting relationship and encouragement

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Casey is on solo with you today digging into what it means to trust the process in the context of parenting, Positive Discipline, and leaning on our relationship as the most powerful way to influence our kids behavior.

What does this mean?

-       Hitting stage
-       Homework stage

The relationships/ life skill development journey 

When we are stuck in a place with our kids it is easy to believe that it will “always be like this”

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-       Change happens over time

-       If we want something to be different we have to BE different

  • The dance we do with our kids has explicit steps, well choreographed over time

  • All it take is one person to change the dance (YOU)

What it means to be in an honest open relationship with your children

-       What can feel like the dark side

-       Curiosity and stalling when you don’t know what to do

-       Notice your fear and let it guide you to pausing

-       Gather your resources

-       Listen to your gut

 

How to voice concerns without blaming or condemning (thermometer activity)

-       Encouraging vs discouraging out kids

  • When they are discouraged by OUR behavior they shift OUT OF taking responsibility or even thinking about their own behavior

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Eps 154: Dr. Dan Siegel Discussing the Science of Being Present

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Today’s guest is Doctor Dan Siegel. Dan is a clinical professor of Psychiatry at the UCLA school of Medicine and the founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Centre at UCLA. He is also the Executive Director of the Mindsight Institute which focuses on the development of Mindsight, teaches insight, empathy and integration in individuals, families and communities. Dr. Siegel has published extensively for the professional and lay audiences. We are discussing his new book: Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence. Join us!

"The most important gift we can give our kids is showing up with our mental presence, not just physically being present but to have the state of awareness and open to who they actually are."

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"Presence is a state of perceptive awareness."

"Information is transformation."

"You have the ability to cultivate the presence of mind through these very simple and accessible practices that are going to bring health to your body, slow the aging process, reduce stress, all these positive things and the same exact process, developing your hub of your wheel of awareness, presence, can actually deeply enrich the way your child is soaking in his or her relationship with you and developing this experience of being seen, of being soothed, of being safe, of being secure that research shows is exactly what your child needs to optimize how they go out into life, and that's something you're empowered to create."

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-The wheel of awareness: what it is and how it helps  
-How awareness impacts your body and health  
-How being present impacts the speed of the aging process
-Wellbeing and how it is enhanced by being present
-Relationships with your kids and how being present improves it
-Cultivating awareness
-Role modeling resilience
-How awareness feeds connection vs control
-Impacts of a lack of structure on the brain and future of children
-Authoritative parenting vs Authoritarian parenting
-Why we need the village and how that creates stress for contemporary parents
-Finding joy, tranquility and connection through expanding awareness
-Flipping our lid, learning from our body's signals and how awareness can help
-Monitoring and modifying for self-regulation and to improve responses to stress
-The 3 O's what they mean

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage, to me, means having the presence of mind to dive into this receptive state of awareness, this hub of the wheel, to tap into the power of being connected with whatever arises inside of you, this kind of "bring it on" attitude, that's the courage. And the joy that arises as you liberate yourself from what a lot of us get imprisoned by which is "I have to control everything" instead, with presence, you let things emerge within you and then you let integration, connecting with your child, for example, in ways that are filled with love and connection that is honoring who your child is, honoring yourself too, but then linking together with compassionate, close relationships. That's what I think joyful courage and courageous joy is all about.

Resources:

Mind, A Journey To The Heart of Being Human
Brainstorm, The Power and purpose of the teenage brain
The Whole Brain Child
No Drama Discipline
The Yes Brain
Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence
The Telomere Effect by Elizabeth Blackburn

Where to find Dr. Siegel:

Facebook | Twitter | Youtube | Instagram | LinkedIn

Website
Mindsight Institute
UCLA Mindful Research Centre

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Eps 124: Conscious Communication with Lori Petro

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Content:

My guest today is Lori Petro.  Lori is passionate about conscious parenting and was a guest on Episode 62. She is an advocate for children and families, a parent educator, mama and founder of Teach Through Love.

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  • Lori’s journey began as being a misunderstood kid… Followed by HAVING a child and wanting to provide her with something different than what she experienced

  • Lori is a creator/artist at heart wanting to created compassion and understanding in our communication with each other

  • Inspired to create a better world for her kid and everyone else to live in

  • Conscious communication cards

    • Conscious communication – supporting parents in taking their understanding of conscious parenting into the language and way of being they bring to their relationships

    • Staying present and leaving the blame, shame, judgment and guilt behind

  • Communication includes messages we deliver with what we SAY, as well as what we DON’T say, our tone, our body language – we are always sending messages

  • Parents do TO the children to get them to be what we want them to be…. It’s about allowing our kids HAVE THE EXPERIENCE and learning from there

  • SEEING our children in their emotion/experience

  • They are there to provoke us in our own self awareness

  • Listening to understand…. Lean in to understanding our children’s experience and what it is like to BE them… (Lori shares lip gloss story) Otherwise we miss the fullness of what is their life (Casey shares crop top story)

  • Not about saying the perfect right thing, it’s about continuing the conversation with our kids around the places where we want a deeper understanding

    • Tell me more about that…

    • It’s bigger than the make-up and the crop top

    • Opens up conversation

  • Conversations to understand vs conversation that are ultimately begun to convince our kids that we are right and they are wrong

  • 20:40 Aware of when our agenda of fear is clouding their experience of growing into their own maturity

  • Conscious parenting is not one long negotiation

    • Being firm is a piece of it

    • Be ok when kids don’t like the boundary

  • Conscious communication cards

    • Came from ideas that Lori posted on line every week

    • Developed into a model for her parenting program

    • Stress/skills/support

      • Am I looking to help my child regulate? (stress)

      • Am I trying to help my child build and emerging skill? (skills)

      • Am I trying to mend/repair relationship? (support)

    • Divided into two section

      • Behaviors/words to avoid

      • Examples of what to say/directions to go in

    • Target cards

      • What you can look for to find the root cause of behavior

      • 5 steps for peaceful resolution

    • Parents use the cards in many different ways

      • Post them in their world

      • Sit with them at the end of the day and review them

    • IT’S A PRACTICE

      • Daily

      • Progress not perfection (even for Lori)

    • Our brains never stop developing and we can always learn new skills

      • We still have not great parenting moments but we OWN IT

    • Lori shares about her personal practices

      • Finding work/life balance

      • Meditation

      • DAILY mindfulness

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Not doing things that my heart doesn’t want to do – to not do anything because I was guilted into it, then I am not doing it because I want to , but because I feel less of myself. And I am trying to move out of any victim thinking, or less than thinking…  Up our self worth as parents then offer that to our kids.

Where to find Lori: 

Website l Facebook

Conscious Communication Cards

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