Eps 177: Casey is solo talking about how we influence the iceberg

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  • Battles over homework

  • Power struggles

  • Screen time addiction

  • Getting out the door

    • We are mega focused on fixing those problems

The iceberg- behavior we see is a solution to a problem that we may or may not know about

Example that we played with a few weeks ago in parenting class:

Child won’t get ready to go in the morning and family is late getting out the door

  • Two options for response:

    • What do I have to do to this kid to get her to cooperate?

      • Bribes, threats, punishments

    • What is happening for this child that is getting in the way?

 Go to the source

  • Tell me about the mornings…. I notice that…. How are you feeling…..

  • With new information you can make a plan together to support the child (and you)n in doing better

Transparency

  • Rowan talking about the future

    • Agitated, closed off, defensive

    • Often my response is irritated that she cant “have” the convo

    • We both are discouraged and the convo is over

  • Maybe I am engaging the wrong conversation

    • Helpful to know what shows up for her when the invitation is to talk about future

    • What is the experience?

    • IS it only with me or others?

    • Might there be a benefit to talking with someone else if not me?

    • What would be useful about having a vision of the future?

      • Deeper even still

      • I notice when this is the conversation you….. I am curious about that? How does it feel when…..?

 Sometimes our kids refuse to go there….

  • How do we let go?

  • What do they need?

  • Recognizing/acknowledging our tendency to hold on/get rigid/ let fear or our agenda drive us….

  • Mutual respect – respect for child and for self and the situation

  • Honor who they are and their temperament

    • I am ALL IN, lets go deep and swirl around and grow and learn and be super transparent and get it all out – don’t hold back. I process out loud and in the moment…. This is not the way of everyone, def not my daughter.

 Summing it up:

  • Recognize how we are contributing to challenges

  • Own it, and get curious about your child’s experience.

  • Identify the ACTUAL problem

  • Be an open, nonjudgmental listener

  • Look for solutions (related respectful reasonable helpful)

  • Be respectful

  • Honor who you child is in word and action

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Eps 134: Featuring Rebecca Eanes and the Positive Parenting Movement

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Today’s guest is Rebecca Eanes, the author of two books for parents: Positive Parenting The Essential Guide and The Newbie’s Guide to Positive Parenting. She is back to talk to us about her newest resource for parents: The Positive Parenting Workbook. Rebecca leads a community of over a million on her Facebook page, Positive Parenting Toddlers and Beyond.  Join us!

 “I see and speak about parenting as a journey… and the journey is a continuous invitation to continue to practice being the parent we want to be as often as possible.”

“Parenting is one long personal development workshop.”   

“My kids are the best mirrors because in them I have seen my own negative attitudes and bad moods and emotional reactions in really every area that I needed to improve upon.”

“I think we definitely grow ourselves up in the process of helping our kids grow up.”

“Our kids are going to make mistakes every day. If they had perfect parents, they would not know how to get through this world.” 

“Be as gentle and respectful with yourself as you are trying to be with your kids. You are not perfect either and you don’t have to be. We are all growing, we are all learning, we are all flawed, and we all need grace. This is a journey and there’s not a destination yet that I’ve seen. It’s an ever going thing so be good to yourself along the way.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

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  • Dealing with swearing and supporting kids in navigating different rules in different situations

  • Positive parenting and what it really means

  • The role of mutual respect in positive parenting

  • Identifying underlying issues under disrespect

  • Shifting focus: from disrespectful behavior itself to supporting learning that leads to respectful behavior.

  • Leadership in positive parenting

  • Non-negotiables and positive parenting

  • The value in personal development and parenting

  • Moving from behavior patrol to positive parenting

  • The origins of the Positive Parenting Workbook

  • Discipline as part of the parenting pie

  • 7 Pillars of family culture as part of positive parenting

  • Words of wisdom for parents working towards positive parenting

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I think Joyful Courage means being brave enough to go against the grain to live true to you and confident enough to believe in yourself and to do so with joy.

Resources:

Positive Parents website
The Positive Parenting Workbook
The Newbie’s Guide to Positive Parenting
Positive Parenting: An Essential Guide
Positive Parenting In Action 

Where to find Rebecca:

Facebook
Twitter
Instagram
Positive Parents website
Pinterest
Creative Child Magazine
Mother.ly

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Eps 57: Sharon Ballantine Talks Teens and Their Need to Pull Away

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Today’s guest is Sharon Ballantine! With 3 children to parent, she turned to books for help with parenting, but she never had the time to read and process the information in the books. So, with no other options available to her, she decided to rely on her own intuition and her own Internal Guidance System for parenting. She began using this technique and the law of attraction to manifest exactly what she wanted as a parent. In this episode, Sharon shares exactly how she made it all happen! Join us!

Sharon Ballantine is a Parenting and Life Coach and Founder of the Ballantine Parenting Institute. Her book, The Art of Blissful Parenting, guides parents with practical as well as spiritual advice in raising their children. It also guides parents on how to get into alignment, discover and use their own IGS before they can teach their children.

In this episode Sharon also discusses:

  • How to find answers within yourself

  • You have an internal guidance system that begins with your feelings

  • Why leaving the room can help you get “in alignment” to parent

  • Physical movement can be a tool to help bring you into a centered place of alignment

  • Changing the subject that is causing stress and bad energy can cause a shift in energy

  • The teenage years are the years of “personal discovery”

  • Parents spend the teen years in fear mode and resort to using control

  • Whoever a teenager is today is not their final destination. Be patient; they will change.

  • Why we want to avoid making our children feel bad at all costs

  • Staying centered will give you the coping skills to deal with any kind of crazy you have to deal with

  • “This too shall pass” - it is true especially for teens

  • Ways to deal with teen behavior that is harmful

  • Focusing on the future and consequences of actions can allow a teen to take responsibility and look at the big picture

  • How to support your child’s development of their Internal Guidance System

  • Ways her failures as a parent contributed to finding her Internal Guidance System

  • What joyful courage means to her and how it contributes to bliss

Resources Mentioned on the Show:

 The Secret - Rhonda Byrne

The Art of Blissful Parenting - Sharon Ballantine

Connect with Sharon:

Website - sharonballantine.com

 Facebook/sharonballantine

Twitter/LifeCoachSB

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