Eps 121: Solo show about Intention, Listening, and Courageous Parenting

Hey everybody, welcome to the Joyful Courage Podcast, a place for information and inspiration on the conscious parenting journey. I am Casey O’Roarty, Positive Discipline Trainer, Parent Coach, and honored to be your guide in the work of showing up as your best for yourself and your family.

If you feel as though parenting is one long personal growth and development workshop, you have come to the right place. The conversations you will here on this podcast are all intended to offer you tools for moving forward, for expanding your lens, and for shifting your narrative to one of possibility, connection and empowerment.

You CAN be the parent you want to be. 

We are influencing the world with how we raise our children. When we bring deep listening, acceptance, and courage to our relationships, we are doing our part to evoke it in the world. I am thrilled to partner with you on this path.

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Intro Sharing:

  • Visioning about supporting all of you!

  • E-League

  • The conversations I want to be having on the show… Minding the gap, supporting you ALL in being the parenting you want to be when it is hard to do.

    • If you want to show up different you MUST practice doing the work, leaning in, choosing YES

Content:

What it means to be intentional

  • Bringing qualities to OUR body and OUR experience

  • Present moment is key

  • Awareness is grown through practice

Getting hooked

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  • Our kids behavior as bids

  • The lob

  • Passing on the uncomfortable energy to someone else that can hold it

  • Development

Listening, Acceptance and Courage

  • Others – what is being said, isn’t being said, body, etc

  • Self – get still and listen to our inner voice, NOT THE EGO, but the voice that is deeper

    • What is your current story about yourself and your family?

    • Is it true?

    • Byron Katie – turn it around

    • Is it true

      • Finding evidence

  • Accept that this is where you are at.

    • Noticing urgency/frantic energy

      • Unless there is an emergency, this is not helpful

    • BBB

      • Breath

      • Body

      • Balcony

  • Courage to trust

    • Follow your intuition

    • Let it go/surrender

    • Trust the people in your life

    • Trust the process

    • Trust that the people in your life want to live their best life too

      • Making decisions for ourselves VS against the other person/expectation

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Eps 91: Janet Allison, From Boys Alive! is on Supporting us in Raising Our Boys

Today’s guest is Janet Allison, a Waldorf teacher and family coach. We are discussing boys and how they learn. Join us!

“Be aware of his need to move his body. It’s absolutely critical that he have some time before school to move his body.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

·      Gender-based differences in learning styles – the value of kinetic learning when teaching boys
·      How modern teaching methods set our boys up to fail
·      Maturity and developmental differences between genders
·      Expulsion rates of boys vs girls in pre-k
·      Impacts of the learning environment on boys’ self-esteem
·      Optimal learning environments for boys
·      Best age for starting school and the disconnect between intellectual and emotional development
·      Managing expectations of practice vs. mastery
·      Releasing physical energy to support emotional regulation
·      Finding ways to accommodate “wriggly kids” in the classroom
·       Building relationships with your son’s teacher – what questions to ask
·      How to encourage independence and service to others
·      Supporting your child in remembering things
·      Relevance/meaning and learning by doing: educational approaches that work for boys
·      The value of trades education
·      The benefits of mentorship – how to find a mentor for your child and be intentional in your relationship building

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful courage means being willing to step out of complacency, out of the box, and follow that inner voice that you have saying “Yes!” even when you are in doubt or fear say “Yes!” anyways and I strive to do this in everything I do is bring joy to it. Go to the grocery store and find some joy. I have a friend who buys flowers every Tuesday during her grocery shopping and her goal is to give those flowers away by the time she gets back to her house….Stepping out of our boxes and our little narrow lanes and our busy-ness or overwhelm in our own life but just stepping out a little bit to see there’s this world out there and what can I do to bring joy into the world – and we need it.

Resources:

The Wonder of Boys by Michael Gurian

Where to find Janet:

Boysalive.com l Facebook l Boysalive Facebook group l Twitter l LinkedIn

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Eps 51: Tracy Cutchlow Discusses Fostering the Growth Mindset Early

Welcome! My guest for today’s show is Tracy Cutchlow, the author of Zero to Five: 70 Essential Parenting Tips Based on Science (and What I’ve Learned So Far). The book fulfills Tracy’s passion to help new parents with information and support as they embark on the parenthood journey. 

Tracy also writes a blog and articles for the Washington Post and Huffington Post. Tracy and her husband, Luke, live in Seattle, where they enjoy life with their four-year- old daughter, Geneva. Unbelievably, Tracy wrote her book during the first 18 months of Geneva’s life! We’ll talk about the tools and wisdom in her book and the topic of helping our youngest children develop a growth mindset. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The unusual format in her book that makes it helpful for busy, new parents

  • Development challenges of very young children

  • “How many times do I have to tell you?”

  • Why children follow their desires (even when they don’t follow OUR desires)

  • Our expectations vs. normal development

  • Why parenting education should be included in well-child visits to the pediatrician Behaviors: Why they meet the child’s innate needs of experience, power, and connection

  • Why children seek connection, but will settle for attention

  • Look at their behavior through the lens of their needs.

  • Growth mindset: What is it?

  • Acknowledgement vs. praise: What’s the difference?

  • How empathy fits naturally into the growth mindset

  • What it takes is small tweaks in our language

  • Why our kids NEED to make mistakes

  • The power of teaching kids about their brains

What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “It means taking action, but having a lightness and a playfulness—looking for the good instead of the bad.”

Resources:

www.zerotofive.net (Find parenting tips and more!)

Zero to Five: 70 Essential Parenting Tips Based on Science (and What I’ve Learned So Far)by Tracy Cutchlow

Find Tracy on Facebook and Twitter: Zero to Five Book

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Eps 45: Deborah MacNamara helps us Make More Sense of our Kids (and humans in general)

Dr. Deborah MacNamara is a brilliant voice in parent education and if was so fun to get to know her on the podcast!

From her website:

Dr. Deborah MacNamara is on Faculty at the Neufeld Institute and author of Rest, Play, Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (or anyone who acts like one) She presents, teaches, and writes on all facets of child and adolescent development based on the relational-developmental approach of Gordon Neufeld. She is also in private practice where she offers counselling services to parents and professionals in making sense of learning, behavioural, and developmental issues in kids. Deborah is a dynamic teacher and experienced counsellor who makes developmental science come to life in the everyday context of home and classroom.

She was an amazing guest and I KNOW you will be left is awe of all you have learned while listening to our conversation!!

Show highlights:

  • Core of her work is making sense of kids, to the adults that are responsible to them

  • Childhood is the unfolding of human potential – separate social and adapted human beings

  • Rest, Play Grow is about children ages 2-6 years old.

  • It takes 5-7 years for brains to resemble adult brain. Before then, their brains are impulsive, they are all about themselves, their goal is to focus on oneself and become a separate person. They are ego-centric

  • Play is the leading edge of development

  • Warm up act in preparation

  • Most of the growth happens for this age during play – free of consequences, kids are free to be expressive and exploratory…

  • Children express emotions at play – keeps them balanced and at the surface

  • Play is the unfolding of our early occupations

  • Play that leads development when they are playing on their own…

  • Release a child to play after offering contact and closest first… they know their attachment needs are met an they can move into play.

  • … Under three they stay pretty close to parent

  • 2.5 – 3 signs of venturing out and spread their wings to try things our.  Promote this by using contact and closeness first and set them up to play, then slowly move away and give them space to play

  • What is the space that your child engages in?

  • Temperament matters – 1/5 children are more sensitive and stired up by their environment… they take a little bit longer to be satiated with connection

  • Give each child what they need for play to unfold

  • Resistance and opposition – counter will instincts – instinct to resist others when we are feeling co-ersed

  • We have our own agendas and they have theirs

  • Attachment – if a child is not in active attachment with us (engaged) we have kind of disappeared

  • Growth occurs within relationship – we want to keep them receptive to our message.

  • Acknowledging the child has their own interest and move forward anyways. Children do need to realize that at certain times, the resistance is futile.

  • The more the relationship is in tact, easier it is for kids to roll with it.

  • Say no and give them permission to have their feelings.

  • Emotional self control is something we can get to – over time.

  • Encourage expressing feelings

  • Help them feeling feelings

  • Mixing their feelings

  • Reflecting - that it is about the child’s relationship with own feelings

  • In the practice – get to a place of deepening and developing relationship with others

  • The relationship must be with oneself in before one becomes a social being

  • In order to have a relationship with oneself, an adult must have a relationship with us...

  • A child must know who they are first, before they become a social being… The adult is responsible for helping the child know who they are.

  • Help child become civilized relating with emotional expression…  Yes please, lets all make this our goal!!

Where to find Deborah MacNamara:
http://macnamara.ca/
Facebook
Twitter

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