Eps 86: Cheryl Erwin Discusses the Challenges and Joy of Single Parenting with Positive Discipline

Today’s guest is Cheryl Erwin, a therapist and parenting educator who began teaching parenting after her marriage broke down. We are discussing single parenting today. Join us! 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

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  • The biggest challenges facing single parenting – finances, housing, misconceptions/stereotypes

  • Asking for help as a single parent

  • Making time for special time and relationship building when you’re outnumbered

  • Using connection to build resilience

  • Self-care and self-compassion after divorce and separation

  • Finding joy vs creating joy – finding happy after separation

  • The blessings and gifts of being a single parent

  • The two kinds of special time

  • The power of routine in single parenthood

  • The value of spontaneity and choosing into lightness

  • Lessons in delayed gratification, hard work and problem solving

  • Learning to grow from mistakes

  • Positive discipline as a single parenting tool

  • Learning to let go after raising kids as a single parent

  • Strength that comes from adversity – a gift of single parenthood

  • Choosing to go high when others go low – child-centered co-parenting

  • Being honest about co-parenting challenge while still being respectful and giving space for relationships to be maintained

  • Single parenting by numbers – 70% of American kids spend some of their time in a single parent household

  • Step parents as blessings to your children

  • The importance of facilitating communication between parents and children during the other parent’s parenting times

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

To take each day as it comes and look for what’s right about it not what’s wrong with it and to not be afraid of risk – I’ve never been a good risk taker but as a single mom I learned I have to take some. As someone who now travels the world teaching positive discipline I’ve gotten comfortable with getting on planes and flying off to Egypt by myself when I don’t know anybody there and some of the greatest joy and blessings of my life have been when I found the joy and courage to take an appropriate risk. You don’t have to fly to China or Egypt to do that. You can do it right in your own backyard. Certainly the single parents who are listening know that life can be risky on a pretty regular basis and being able to embrace that and learn the skills you need to be able to do that well will bring you joy in your kids, joy in your grandparents and joy in your own life. At the end of it, my son goes off into the horizon and I’m left with my life and what I make of it and I’m trying to do something with my life that I can be proud of and that’s what joyful courage means to me. It’s taken me all of these 60 years to figure that out.

Resources:

Positive Discipline for Single Parents

Where to find Cheryl:

Website l Facebook

 

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Eps 74: Talking to Melissa Brown About Blended Families

Today’s guest is Melissa Brown, a blended family podcaster who works with stepfamilies. We are going to talk about blended families and the challenges they face. Join us!

 “Raising children is the biggest rollercoaster ride of your life.”

What you’ll hear in this episode: 

  • The biggest challenge facing blended families today

  • Dealing with drama while protecting kids from triangulation

  • The value of a child-centered approach when navigating difficult relationships with exes

  • The importance of self-awareness, love and patience in creating a positive environment for kids.

  • How to use problem solving tools you use with your kids with your exes to improve relationships

  • Learning to identify what you can’t control and how to deal with that

  • The mixed blessing and additional pressure of sibling rivalry on blended families and how to handle it

  • How to empower your kids for conflict resolution in blended families and learning to stay out of it, resisting the temptation to “fix” things

  • Protecting your relationship from blended family drama

  • Bonding with step kids – particularly teenagers – keeping an open mind.

  • Finding an entry point for building connection

  • Flexibility and scheduling in blended families

  • Routines and rituals – creating a sense of belonging

  • Consistency between houses, managing energy and big feelings.

  • Leveraging patterns in your blended family – approaching problems with curiosity

  • Dealing with (and expecting) setbacks and recovering when things don’t go as planned

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

It takes a lot of courage to blend a family – it’s not always an easy journey. Joyful courage to me means understanding the importance of finding joy even through the pain in life. Our biggest growth and our biggest lessons always come from hard times.

Where to find Melissa:

Blended family podcast l Facebook l Twitter

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Eps 40: Ryan Hamilton talks about the Life of Dad

Welcome! Today’s guest is Ryan Hamilton, one of the co-founders of the “Life of Dad,” a social media network for dads. He is changing how dads are represented in the parenting arena and is helping moms be more effective at sharing parenting tools and tips with their male partners. Let’s jump into conversation with Ryan!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Ryan has been a computer geek/tech guy all of his life; he now sees his son following in his footsteps in those interests.

  • Ryan works full-time in the advertising industry, but runs his business on the sides for dads.

  • Ryan shares how “Life of Dad” evolved from a heart-wrenching personal story of one of the co-founders.

  • The purpose of “Life of Dad” is to enable a father to share his story via social media.

  • Ryan became involved in the endeavor during a tumultuous time in his life, when he was going through a divorce, job loss, financial collapse, and depression.

  • Ryan began blogging about the darker side of parenting.

  • Ryan discusses how trends and parental role expectations have shifted as dads have pushed for change.

  • Many new resources and dad communities are making change and allowing dads to have a voice.

  • Co-parenting has changed in today’s culture of divorce; Ryan shares how he and his ex-wife make it work for them.

  • Ryan decided to make the journey to veganism about two years ago, when he was depressed and suicidal.

  • He began with being vegetarian, but then transitioned on to veganism.

  • The “cleaning up” of his diet branched out to affect all other areas of his life.

  • Ryan’s advice to other dads is to stay in touch, never feel alone, and reach out to your peer groups. Check out the resources below!

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Resources:

Life of Dad - Website I Twitter I Facebook I IG I You Tube

Ryan E. Hamilton - Twitter I Facebook

Dad 2.0 Summit

National At Home Dad Network

City Dads Group

Dad Bloggers on Facebook

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BONUS EPS: Brandie Weikle and the New Family

I am super excited about this BONUS episode!!  I have the privilege of being in conversation with Brandie Weikle from thenewfamily.com and host of The New Family Podcast.

Part of my mission for creating this podcast is to expose listeners to parenting resources that I find inspirational and valuable, and Brandie is in total alignment with that mission.

We spend time today talking about The New Family, the 1,000 Family Project, and Brandie's experience with podcasting.

Mentioned:

The New Family Website
The 1,000 Families Project
The New Family Podcast
Positive CoParenting After Divorce Facebook Group

Mentioned New Family Podcast Episodes:

Eps 50: The Ex Next Door 
Eps 20: Seizing the Day With Your Family
Eps9: Conscious Uncoupling with Katherine Woodward Thomas
Eps 3: Parenting a Transgendered Child

Where to find Brandie and The New Family:

www.thenewfamily.com
Twitter
Facebook
Instagram

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