Eps 180: Dr. Sarah Bergman Lewis Discusses Navigating Trauma on the Parenting Journey

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Today’s guest is Dr. Sarah Bergman Lewis. Before attending medical school ,Sarah helped to found a middle school called the Seattle Girls' School. As part of her 5 years with the Seattle girls' school she did admission and taught 6th grade Sarah attended University of Washington Medical School. She completed her pediatric residency at Seattle Children's, has worked in urgent care at Seattle Children's Hospital, then as a primary care physician.

She and her family later travelled to Guatemala for 3 months where she worked in a local hospital and her kids attended school. Her family will return again this year for a visit and to help launch a partnership between a group of Seattle pediatricians and the Guatemalan hospital.

Outside of works there is pursuing her yoga teaching training certificate and enjoys learning about sharing Integrative Medicine tools with her patients as part of a collaboration between Odessa Brown Children's Clinic and Arc of King County. She is helping devise the curriculum for a mindful self compassion course for Spanish speaking parents which she will co-facilitate in the spring.

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Her husband Steve is a nonprofit executive director. She is a mom of two delightful children. Today we are talking about navigating our own self-healing. Join us!

 

"What child needs most is to have a whole adult in their lives”

“Parenting pushes us to our limits. It challenges our core beliefs and just really pushes us in all aspects of our life like no other arena.”

“Part of navigating parenting is being able to identify why we do what we do and how we feel what we feel and how we are expressing it day to day.”   

“Early childhood experiences matter and it matters in a very deep way.”

“The ‘why’ matters.”

“What happens from here is really the most important part.”

“This healing is for everyone.”

“Behavior really is always you know movement towards belonging”

“These things are both universal and deeply personal.”

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Parenting from wholeness, not fear

  • Adverse childhood events and how they affect parents and parenting

  • Adverse childhood events study explained

  • The dose response effect to adverse childhood events

  • How ACE scores impact health (physical and mental) risks
    The shadow side of resilience

  • Behavior as a solution to a problem we don’t know about

  • Epigenetics, what is it and what does it have to do with behavior?

  • Being aware of what drives our internal “shark music”

  • Exercising self-compassion around when you’re going to work on your issues

  • How the way we talk to ourselves impacts how we talk to people in our family

  • What embodiment means

  • Encouraging embodiment in our kids

  • Guiding conversations about embodiment

  • Discussing screen time with our kids

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Oh gosh so joyful courage to me means being all in, you know, with the good, the bad, the ugly, the beautiful as Glennon Melton Doyle calls it. It is being willing to feel that discomfort and really trusting that it's going to go to a better place and that it does give you those really joyful moments and those transformative moments even if it, so my my daughter the other day as we were leaving, you know, I was being less than ideal, less than my best self going out the door and she looked at me and she said “Remember, mom, peace begins with me.” and I was like “Oh shoot!” But it’s so true and you know, it's like, we’re going to be okay.

 

Resources:

ACE Score Resources

 

Where to find Dr. Sarah:

Instagram

Facebook

Email sarahberganlewis@gmail.com

 

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Applications are available now through April 7th.
The program will run form May 6th through May 31st.

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

 

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access tot eh tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

 

Presale is April 10th – as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS. I am going to have some special bonuses TBD for my presale buyers.

Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!

 

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Eps 154: Dr. Dan Siegel Discussing the Science of Being Present

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Today’s guest is Doctor Dan Siegel. Dan is a clinical professor of Psychiatry at the UCLA school of Medicine and the founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Centre at UCLA. He is also the Executive Director of the Mindsight Institute which focuses on the development of Mindsight, teaches insight, empathy and integration in individuals, families and communities. Dr. Siegel has published extensively for the professional and lay audiences. We are discussing his new book: Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence. Join us!

"The most important gift we can give our kids is showing up with our mental presence, not just physically being present but to have the state of awareness and open to who they actually are."

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"Presence is a state of perceptive awareness."

"Information is transformation."

"You have the ability to cultivate the presence of mind through these very simple and accessible practices that are going to bring health to your body, slow the aging process, reduce stress, all these positive things and the same exact process, developing your hub of your wheel of awareness, presence, can actually deeply enrich the way your child is soaking in his or her relationship with you and developing this experience of being seen, of being soothed, of being safe, of being secure that research shows is exactly what your child needs to optimize how they go out into life, and that's something you're empowered to create."

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-The wheel of awareness: what it is and how it helps  
-How awareness impacts your body and health  
-How being present impacts the speed of the aging process
-Wellbeing and how it is enhanced by being present
-Relationships with your kids and how being present improves it
-Cultivating awareness
-Role modeling resilience
-How awareness feeds connection vs control
-Impacts of a lack of structure on the brain and future of children
-Authoritative parenting vs Authoritarian parenting
-Why we need the village and how that creates stress for contemporary parents
-Finding joy, tranquility and connection through expanding awareness
-Flipping our lid, learning from our body's signals and how awareness can help
-Monitoring and modifying for self-regulation and to improve responses to stress
-The 3 O's what they mean

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage, to me, means having the presence of mind to dive into this receptive state of awareness, this hub of the wheel, to tap into the power of being connected with whatever arises inside of you, this kind of "bring it on" attitude, that's the courage. And the joy that arises as you liberate yourself from what a lot of us get imprisoned by which is "I have to control everything" instead, with presence, you let things emerge within you and then you let integration, connecting with your child, for example, in ways that are filled with love and connection that is honoring who your child is, honoring yourself too, but then linking together with compassionate, close relationships. That's what I think joyful courage and courageous joy is all about.

Resources:

Mind, A Journey To The Heart of Being Human
Brainstorm, The Power and purpose of the teenage brain
The Whole Brain Child
No Drama Discipline
The Yes Brain
Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence
The Telomere Effect by Elizabeth Blackburn

Where to find Dr. Siegel:

Facebook | Twitter | Youtube | Instagram | LinkedIn

Website
Mindsight Institute
UCLA Mindful Research Centre

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Overland Park, KS

Many of us become mothers and we get caught tending needs of our family, or homes and our community, and struggle to find ways to move our personal growth and wellbeing up the priority list. This weekend retreat will allow you the opportunity to explore self-care rituals that will help you reset and feel renewed, and give you nurturing tools you can incorporate into your daily life far beyond our time together – so that you can feel more ease, peace, connection and joy in the every day.

A Mother’s Journey Home to Herself is an invitation for deep personal inquiry, while practicing tools for deepening relationship with ourselves and our family, resulting in more cooperation and ease and joy during this exceptionally time of our lives.

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Eps 149: Lindsay McCarthy Teaches Us How to Bring Miracle Mornings to our Families

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Today’s guest is Lindsay McCarthy, author of The Miracle Morning For Parents and Families.  Lindsay is a homeschooling mama with two children, a writer and the founder of GratefulParent.com. We are discussing how you can integrate The Miracle Morning For Parents and Families into your day. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-How The Miracle Morning For Parents And Families came to be

-What the Miracle Morning includes

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-How to involve your kids in your Miracle Morning

-The power of waking on your own terms

-How waking up early adds capacity for parents to expand their emotional resources

-The value of unstructured play and creating as a practice for kids

-Creativity, Health, Affirmations, Reading, Meditation and Service, and how they can help kids start their day off right

-Habit stacking as a way to build a Miracle Morning

-How a Miracle Morning can help you look at bedtime routine

-Building flexibility into your Miracle Morning

-Starting small with habit changes

-How to encourage older kids to participate

-Combining components of the Miracle Morning to save time

-Trying a Miracle Evening as an alternative               

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

To me, courage it means being afraid but doing it anyways. Like, writing a book, for example. And then the joyful part of that is just allowing it to really fill you up and spread light to the world. Stepping into your own light and your own power and doing the things you're afraid to do anyway.

Resources:

The Miracle Morning For Parents and Families
The Miracle Morning for College Students
The Miracle Morning

Where to find Lindsay:

GratefulParent.com
Facebook Group - Miracle Morning For Parents And Families

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Come to Baltimore in July 28th!!  Super excited to be circling up with mama’s to bring more connection, self growth and discovery to the community there! More info can be found at www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

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Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

 What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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Ep 94: Julie Stubblefield and I Explore How to Shift to LOVING Our Bodies (and Teaching our Kids to do the Same)

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Just in time for summer – we will be deep diving into creating an intentional vision for how we want to BE for the season ahead. Join the community for 10 days of email inspiration, FB Live groundings, and tools for setting yourself up for a fabulous summer season. Click here to register now.

Meet Julie Stubblefield, founder of Fit Mom Revolution. She’s a mother, wife, fitness professional and all around inspiration of strength and confidence in how we care for our bodies. After years of struggling through the all too common yoyo game, Julie found that changing her attitude and perception around nourishing and moving her body she realized her body was whole, not broken. She’s bringing this “aha moment” and sharing it with moms everywhere inspiring a Fit Mom Revolution!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The importance of stepping away from the diet cycle

  • How changing the perception of our bodies will change how we approach the care we give our whole self

  • Having a life you enjoy in a body you love

  • Nourishment and movement are a family practice

  • Giving gratitude around nourishment

  • There is no “one size fits all”, must work for your family

  • Instilling healthy meal time habits for all family members

  • A healthy attitude towards nutrition does not have to be complicated

  • Giving our kids space to share their perception of their body image, and let them explore these feelings

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful courage means taking the approach of curiosity and hope to create a beautiful experience for you and your family. It’s worth going out on a limb for.

Where to find Julie:

– Love Your Bodcast Podcast - subscribe on iTunes and Stitcher Radio

http://www.fitmomrevolution.com/

Pinterest l Facebook l Twitter

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Ep 94: Julie Stubblefield and I Explore How to Shift to LOVING Our Bodies (and Teaching our Kids to do the Same)

#JoyfulCourage10 is back!

Just in time for summer – we will be deep diving into creating an intentional vision for how we want to BE for the season ahead. Join the community for 10 days of email inspiration, FB Live groundings, and tools for setting yourself up for a fabulous summer season. Click here to register now.

Meet Julie Stubblefield, founder of Fit Mom Revolution. She’s a mother, wife, fitness professional and all around inspiration of strength and confidence in how we care for our bodies. After years of struggling through the all too common yoyo game, Julie found that changing her attitude and perception around nourishing and moving her body she realized her body was whole, not broken. She’s bringing this “aha moment” and sharing it with moms everywhere inspiring a Fit Mom Revolution!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The importance of stepping away from the diet cycle

  • How changing the perception of our bodies will change how we approach the care we give our whole self

  • Having a life you enjoy in a body you love

  • Nourishment and movement are a family practice

  • Giving gratitude around nourishment

  • There is no “one size fits all”, must work for your family

  • Instilling healthy meal time habits for all family members

  • A healthy attitude towards nutrition does not have to be complicated

  • Giving our kids space to share their perception of their body image, and let them explore these feelings

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage means taking the approach of curiosity and hope to create a beautiful experience for you and your family. It’s worth going out on a limb for.

Where to find Julie:

Love Your Bodcast Podcast - subscribe on iTunes and Stitcher Radio

http://www.fitmomrevolution.com/

Pinterest l Facebook l Twitter

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Eps 56: Beth Caldwell on Raising Kids While Living with Cancer

Welcome to an inspiring episode with my friend, Beth Caldwell. Beth is a mom of two, a former civil rights lawyer, and a blogger who lives in Seattle. In 2014, at age 37, Beth found a lump during a breast self-exam, which turned out to be metastatic cancer already in her bones. You’ll appreciate Beth’s genuine honesty about our topic today: as parents of young children, how do we deal with illness, trauma, death, and loss? What do we tell them? How much is TOO MUCH for them to handle? You don’t want to miss this conversation, so join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Beth’s cancer journey from finding the lump until now

  • The feedback from Beth’s frank and open blog: 99% positive

  • Currently, her cancer is in her brain, right arm, and liver

  • New breakthroughs with new drugs

  • The worst part of chemo? Fatigue

  • How to talk to kids with age appropriate language about cancer

  • Don’t hide the truth: share what’s important for them to know

  • Her son’s recent speech about advocacy for better research

  • How to be open and create a safe space for their questions

  • Be mindful: don’t live in fear and trauma

  • Why Beth insists on “planning ahead”

  • How cancer affects your spouse

What does “joyful courage” mean to Beth?
“Courage is not an absence of fear; it’s being afraid and doing it anyway.”

Resources:

www.cultofperfectmotherhood.com

"The Cat is Out of the Bag" Beth's son finds out she will die of her cancer

www.metup.org

The Cancer that Wouldn’t Go Away by Hadassa Field

I Still Just Want to Pee Alone (series by Jen Mann and others, including Beth!)

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Eps 42: Sarah Remmer helps us revamp mealtime

Welcome! My guest today is Sarah Remmer, a registered dietitian and pediatric nutrition expert. She blogs at Stork to Fork, sharing ideas, advice, and easy recipes for real parents who want their kids to grow into healthy relationships with food. Let’s jump right into this topic with Sarah!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Sarah is the mother of three young kids, so she knows the struggle!

  • In her client work, Sarah noticed that the common denominator was the way they were

  • Raised in dysfunctional relationships with food.

  • She rebranded and turned her specialty to helping parents raise kids with healthy habits and positive, functional relationships with food for life.

  • Her practice has been thriving, as she is now recognized as a top pediatric nutritionist.

  • Sarah discusses the biggest challenges in feeding kids; if you’re a parent, then you’ve experienced one or more of these!

  • How a recent blog post by Sarah focuses on the “role reversal” that takes place between parents and kids at mealtimes

  • Why kids should NOT stick exclusively with their favorite snacks, like yogurt or bananas

  • Boundaries are important and help create structure.

  • Sarah advises NO short order cooking, NO special meals, and NO snacking after meals.

  • Desserts are tricky!

  • Why you should NOT require “3 more bites of broccoli” before dessert!

  • Why kids are naturally drawn to energy-rich foods like sweets and carbs

  • Eating a wide variety of foods as a toddler will broaden your child’s palate!

  • Ask your child, “How can I make this food yummier for you?”

  • Bad habits CAN be changed!

  • How to involve kids in meals and meal planning

  • Sometimes, kids are truly NOT hungry!

  • Sarah explains your “long-term feeding lens” vs. the short term.

  • What does “joyful courage” mean to you? “Having the courage to start fresh. Forgive yourself for unhealthy habits. Be kind and end mealtime power struggles.

Connect with Sarah:

www.sarahremmer.com
Facebook
Twitter

Follow Sarah on the Yummy Mummy Club site! 

The Super Healthy Kids Blog

Feeding Kids: How Parents and Kids Often Have Their Roles Mixed Up (and how to fix it) 

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