Eps 158: Kimberly Muench talks about the tight rope walk of raising teens

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Today’s guest is Kim Muench. She is a JAI Institute for Parenting certified parenting coach who works with moms of preteens and teenagers. She is the mother of 5 kids ages 13-31. She writes about conscious parenting, provides one on one coaching and workshops to help support moms towards intentional parenting. We are discussing detaching from the outcome. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-When children arrive at adolescence

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- The balance of boundaries and relationship building with our teens

- Choosing your battles

- Defining your family values

- Setting an example for your kids

- Defining non-negotiables

- Ways to offer choices to your teenager

- Detaching from the outcome

- Prioritizing personal care and personal development

- The illusion of control

- Individuation and what that can look like

- Supporting our kids in making better choices with alcohol

- Being okay with kids failing or things taking longer

- Trusting vs hovering - learning to detach

- Taking a long view to your relationship with your kids

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage means to me enthusiastically embracing and supporting the journey of our sons and daughters that have come into the world to live out their journey. Supporting and encouraging them with enthusiasm. And I love the two words together, I think it’s fantastic.

Resources:

Episode 82: Tweens and Smart Phones

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Eps 144: Solo Show - is Positive Discipline permissive? No.

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SOLO SHOW!!

Teacher posted about a difficult class…

Response about “parenting style” naming “gentle parenting” and followed up with a post about “helicopter parenting, mom and dad are friends, no discipline or consequences….” 

Lets talk about this:

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  • The swing from authoritarian to permissive

  • What is kind and firm

  • Authoritative – structure and freedom

  • The most important tool we have for influencing behavior is the relationship we build with our children – that is what this week in the Academy is all about.

  • No boundaries/limits – not a solid relationship

  • No voice/ freedom – not a solid relationship

  • Mutual respect?

  • Problem solving?

  • Dignity in tact? – Dignity, the state or quality of being worthy of honor or respect.

Helicopter/lawn mower/permissive parenting ROBs children of the discomfort of learning from their mistakes. It robs them of the opportunity of making things right and fixing their mistakes. Robs them of the opportunity for problem solving, accountability, ownership.

Authoritarian parenting ALSO robs kids of opportunity. When we parent from a place that threatens punishment for making mistakes, kids no longer have the luxury of learning how to really think through the decision making process, instead, they learn the “better not do it cuz I don’t want to get into trouble” or “better not get caught”

Authoritarian parenting can often lead to a lack of respect in the relationship.

Guidelines and boundaries INSIDE OF a solid, respectful relationship will increase the likelihood of cooperative, contributing children.

KIND AND FIRM – listen to your body, are you in alignment with your values and what the kid need. There is WISDOM IN THE BODY, PAY ATTENTION. 

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Eps 117: Solo show - A Bit About Choosing in, Being Kind and Firm, Making Agreements and Following Through

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Content:

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  • I am on the journey with you, I am with you! Highs and lows, you are my peeps!

  • The teen saga continues….

  • Having a teen is like birth, you think you’re so prepared and then…. Reality hits!

  • Teen brain experiences everything so intensely

  • Eps 115 was all about trust and surrender

  • Celebrate the relationship

  • Using and developing breath as a tool

  • 4:45 Our children are our teachers – they picked us!

  • We don’t know what we don’t know and our children highlight that for us

  • Their way of being invites our “stuff” to the surface

  • We then choose how to respond

  • End of the day – they are operating from their developmental place, limited skills, brain development

  • 7:50 Parenting is a never-ending growth and development workshop – we can choose to resist or to grow/evolve

  • 9:15 There is a purpose to this journey

  • Let’s live a life where we are paying attention

  • Our children show us stepping stones to our own growth

  • When we choose into growth and learning we can influence the experience we are having

  • You can only change yourself, you can’t change others

  • Positive Discipline for Teenagers

  • Mistakes our kids make can rock our foundation and philosophy around parenting

  • Being kind and firm at the same time is one of the pillars

  • Peeling back layers of what that ^^ means

  • Kindness only = permissive

  • Firmness only = authoritarian

  • Kind isn’t NICE, it’s connected, firm is respecting ourselves and the situation

  • It’s about progress not perfection, and becoming ever more AWARE of what is happening for us

  • Making agreements is a kind and firm PD parenting tool

  • Get into our child’s world, here what their needs are, share what we need, make a plan together, declare a deadline, follow through (parents)

  • “What was our agreement?”

  • It’s not about being nice while we deliver a consequence…

  • The invitation is to make agreements with YOUR children

  • Not necessarily about the problem we solve, instead it is more about the life skills the kids are practicing inside of the agreement-making

  • Not about finding a solution that lasts forever – every solution has a shelf life

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Eps 104: Kristin Hovious is on talking about making amends and repairing relationships

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Kristin Hovious is a committed teacher with over a decade of experience in vocational, adult education, serving Chicago’s Cortiva Institute as both Education Director (2007-2008) and Adjunct Faculty Member (2006-2017.)  Her training as a massage therapist and yoga teacher provides a foundation and love for anatomy and science of human development.

As a Positive Discipline Certified Trainer, Kristin, combines a career of teaching and serving with her passion for creating mutually respectful environments for families, children, classrooms and schools. In her collaboration with teachers, administrations and families, Kristin’s goal is to help facilitate opportunities for adults and students to become compassionate leaders, with the hope that doing so will help build more peaceful communities. Kristin has served on the Positive Discipline Association Board of Directors as a Consultant since 2016.

What you will hear in this episode:

  • Kristin’s journey into Positive Discipline (PD)

  • How PD grew in the Hovious’ Home and the challenges that came with learning a new way

  • How teaching anatomy in her career paved the way for curiosity in neuroscience

  • Understanding how emotions and behaviors influence connection

  • Discussion on ‘kind and firm’ rephrasing as ‘connection and accountability’ and why

  • Why shifting society’s idea of mistakes and punishments lacks ability to repair

  • Understanding mistakes as opportunities to learn

  • How repairing is a practice and it has the power to transform our relationships

  • Mistakes lead to repairing opportunities

  • Kristin walks us through four steps in healthy repair

  • Relatable examples from Kristin’s own life help us empathize and feel supported in our own challenges

  • Modeling is key

  • Sticking to our agendas is a way we move away from connection

  • When we repair relationships we have the power to heal connections

  • Diving into our parenting pain so we can make amends

  • Discomfort is a place to get curious, not a place to get stuck

 “I don’t think repairing relationships comes naturally or easy to us. It is practice”.

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

What Joyful courage means to me is that there is a consistent opportunity to practice repair.  That is always worth it - it’s so important in the whole trajectory in our lives together as human beings.  If we can be joyful in repair then maybe we can also turn the corner and be joyful about mistakes”.

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Eps 48: Taming the Toddlers and Haters with Julietta Skoog

Welcome! My guest today is a dear friend, Julietta Skoog, who is a positive discipline trainer. She joined us as a guest on Episode 4 about Family Meetings. It’s hard to believe that we’re here at Episode 48 now! I’m so thrilled to have Julietta back again so that we can all benefit from her wealth of parenting knowledge. She teaches many classes and workshops for parents, in addition to being a school counselor and psychologist in Seattle, where she works with hundreds of students. Her most important parenting work, however, is at home with her children, ages 4 and 7. Today’s topic is all about Toddlers—raising them and dealing with those around us who might not agree with our parenting methods. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Toddlers are biologically driven to explore the world through visual learning and touch.

  • We need to find a way to bridge between our world and their world.

  • They need to know that you hear them and understand them.

  • Connect with them, see them, and hear them.

  • With 2-3 year olds, redirection and distraction can be effective tools to move them on to what they need to do next.

  • What it means to “get them to the second location”

  • With older toddlers, use curiosity questions and give them a wait time.

  • With younger toddlers, limit their choices to ones that you’re ok with.

  • Mutual respect is essential—even with toddlers!

  • Help them get excited about the next step with PLAY.

  • Use deep firmness and structure.

  • How should we handle destructive behaviors?

    • Speak consistently

    • Model connection and firmness

    • Supervise!

  • Model and help them learn empathy

  • Transitions cause anxiety for kids, so do your prevention work!

In dealing with others’ opinions, remember that we’re all challenged as parents; we’re all doing the best we can with the tools we have.

Resources:

www.besproutable.com (Julietta has video examples and other parenting resources.)

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