Eps 174: Learning to be a more mindful communicator with Oren Jay Sofer

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Today’s guest is Oren Jay Sofer, the author of Say What You Mean - A Mindful Approach to Non-Violent Communication. He leads retreats and workshops on mindful communication at meditation centres and education settings around the US. Oren is a graduate of the IMS Spirit Rock teacher training program. He holds a degree in comparative religion from Columbia University, teaches in the Insight Meditation community and is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and a certified trainer of non-violent communication. Oren creates mindfulness training programs for a number of organizations including Mindful Schools, Kaiser Permanente, and 10% Happier. He lives in Richmond, California. Join us!

 

"If we can’t actually listen to each other and have a meaningful conversation when we disagree, it’s impossible to work together to address the challenges that we’re facing”

 

“We can’t wait for the opportunities where presence is needed to practice presence.”

 

“Even when we can't meet our child's needs we can help them to know and recognize that their needs matter to us.”

 

“Our feelings are a reflection of our needs.”

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

·       Being in response vs reaction

·       Communication as a way of navigating conflict mindfully

·       3 foundations for successful conversations and effective communication

·       The role of presence in communication

·       The ambient stress of raising a child

·       Owning our responses in times of stress

·       Exercising self-compassion in relation to parenting-related stress

·       Integrating moments of awareness into your day

·       Creating daily rituals into mindfulness

·       Mindfulness as a way to mitigate cumulative stress

·       Mindfulness as a way to be present in our relationships

·       Mindfulness as awareness and a way to raise our baseline kindness and presence

·       Preparing for parenting with mindfulness through practicing

·       Practice as a way of creating a new way of being

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·       Creating awareness of the impact of our actions on others

·       Discussing our needs instead of blame

·       Being realistic about our ability to meet all of our child’s needs

·       Intention in communication and mindfulness

·       Approaching communication from a place of curiosity and care

·        Curiosity as a way of being

·       The need for intention to be genuine

·       Feelings of a reflection of needs

·       Increasing emotional literacy to enhance communication

·       Helping children to problem solve as an alternative to “consequences”

·       Connecting before correcting

·       Conflict as an opportunity for learning

·       Where to start when you realize you need to improve your communication

·       Learning to pause, be curious and consider the needs of others

·       Connection through perspective shift

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

So I think what joyful courage means to me is it's rooted in the recognition that the places that we struggle, the places that we're scared of the places that we feel pain actually hold the precious gift of our own freedom and when we recognize that having the courage to turn towards those places and to actually include them in our life and learn from them becomes a process that's joyful because we know why we're doing it. It's not just about “I've got to trudge through this” but we've experienced to some degree and have a deep faith that there's there's actually a gift waiting for me on the other side.

 

Resources:

Say What You Mean book

Parenting From Your Heart: Sharing the Gifts of Compassion, Connection, and Choice (Nonviolent Communication Guides)

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Where to find Oren:

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Eps 156: Heather Chauvin Finds Herself Through Teaching her Children Meditation and Returning to Health

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Today’s guest is Heather Chauvin. Heather Chauvin has been named the next generation’s thought leader in parenting and women’s leadership. Her mission is to crack women open to their deep potential. Heather is a TEDx speaker and the creator of the Mom Is In Control podcast and has been featured on the OWN network, Huffington Post, TV outlets and others. With wit and wisdom, Heather inspires a global community of women to take back control of their lives and evolve how they want to lead, work, play and parent. We are discussing mindful meditation. Join us!

"There was always this contrast of who I wanted to be in the world versus who everyone else thought I should be."

“We can’t get our children’s respect unless we respect our children and deeper than that, we need to learn to respect ourselves.”

“Mindful meditation to me means awareness. Simple awareness.”

“Really, it’s about doing less.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

- The importance of mindfulness for parents and kids

-  Sustainable ambition theory - Survival Mode, Momentum, Thrival Mode

-  Learning to live outside of survival mode

-  Meditation as a tool in parenting and life

- Why it’s easier to teach a child to meditate than an adult

- Co-creation as mindfulness

- Mindfulness for older kids

- Parenting as emotional growth on steroids

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- The value of quiet

- Listening to your child without trying to fix them as mindfulness

- Giving yourself permission to let go of how things look

- The responsibility of personal growth and the intergenerational impacts

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Being yourself, simply put. Being yourself and having the courage to figure out who that is and what that feels like and just keep going after the things that light you up, because that’s joy and it’s going to be uncomfortable to do that.

Resources:

Heather’s TEDx talk

Teach Your Kid To Meditate

 

Where to find Heather:

Website

Mom is in Control Podcast

Instagram

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Eps 149: Lindsay McCarthy Teaches Us How to Bring Miracle Mornings to our Families

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Today’s guest is Lindsay McCarthy, author of The Miracle Morning For Parents and Families.  Lindsay is a homeschooling mama with two children, a writer and the founder of GratefulParent.com. We are discussing how you can integrate The Miracle Morning For Parents and Families into your day. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-How The Miracle Morning For Parents And Families came to be

-What the Miracle Morning includes

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-How to involve your kids in your Miracle Morning

-The power of waking on your own terms

-How waking up early adds capacity for parents to expand their emotional resources

-The value of unstructured play and creating as a practice for kids

-Creativity, Health, Affirmations, Reading, Meditation and Service, and how they can help kids start their day off right

-Habit stacking as a way to build a Miracle Morning

-How a Miracle Morning can help you look at bedtime routine

-Building flexibility into your Miracle Morning

-Starting small with habit changes

-How to encourage older kids to participate

-Combining components of the Miracle Morning to save time

-Trying a Miracle Evening as an alternative               

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

To me, courage it means being afraid but doing it anyways. Like, writing a book, for example. And then the joyful part of that is just allowing it to really fill you up and spread light to the world. Stepping into your own light and your own power and doing the things you're afraid to do anyway.

Resources:

The Miracle Morning For Parents and Families
The Miracle Morning for College Students
The Miracle Morning

Where to find Lindsay:

GratefulParent.com
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Eps 43: Jiovann Carrasco Talks Mindfulness and Parenting

Welcome! My guest today is Jiovann Carrasco, a psychotherapist in Austin, TX. Jiovann is the owner of the Austin Mindfulness Center, a meditator, and the author of an online mindfulness program called Follow your Breath. He is an engaged and connected father to two young kids and worked as a stay-at-home dad for two years! Let’s jump into this topic of mindfulness with Jiovann!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • How Jiovann began practicing meditation in 2008, as a result of the anxiety and panic attacks from his stressful job as a therapist at a group home

  • How Zen meditation changed Jiovann and allowed him to connect with himself like never before

  • How does Jiovann define mindfulness? “Attending to whatever arises in the present moment without trying to change it or judge it.”

  • Jiovann explains the benefits to mindfulness in parenting.

  • Why Jiovann took a popular course on Positive Discipline and became a certified parent educator

  • Jiovann explains how to bring mindfulness to even the everyday mundane tasks required in parenting.

  • How Jiovann structures his early morning meditation practice and time with his kids

  • How kids already know how to be mindful and present WAY more than adults

  • Fearful thoughts and worries are what our minds naturally focus on; mindfulness finds ways to shine the spotlight on anything else in the present moment.

  • Jiovann explains the basics of his 6-week, on-demand, online course. See details below!

  • What does joyful courage mean to Jiovann? “Mindfulness is one of the most courageous things to do. It’s intentionally moving toward the fears, and joy and happiness are natural by-products.”

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Meditative Parenting With Molly Knight Forde

FYI - there are a couple of swear words – show is marked “explicit”

Molly’s journey… 

Kids are now 25, 21, 16 year old, some time as a single parent…  Survived psychological abuse and then self sabotage during child/teen years.

Moved to Paris to study classical piano.

Found a Zen Meditation Dojo which opened up new possibilities…

“Having the kids put a demand on me to take care of myself.”

“Meditation around noticing myself…  self observation…  Separate off so you can see you…  Aiming for moments of presence in anything I did – washing the dishes, reading to my kids, playing piano…  Those little moments became more frequent.” 

I teach meditation…

Trying to have moments of presence where you develop an observer…  One method is to ask, “Am I in my body?” Can I talk to my kids and have awareness in my legs?  You start to develop an attention…  To remind ourselves to be present in the moment…

Our bodies go to what is familiar – our patterns become our instinctual reaction.

“The way we parent is a mirror of how we treat ourselves on the inside…”

Integrating with moments of presence will allow us to be much better parents.

WE DON’T HAVE TO BE PERFECT!

There is wisdom and information in your body – BEGIN TO NOTICE IT!

Use an external cue – a red car, for example – that you are going to set that reminds you “I need to be here now” the cue can come and remember “I am right here and I am aware of my awareness.”

This practice makes awareness show up more often when you are in the moment of difficulty.

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Step back and have some choice with our children…  and model that for them.

How to live consciously and know that things aren’t perfect – but that doesn’t mean I have to take it personally – I have empathy into their learning so I don’t have to be mad at them because they haven’t done something.

We all need to make mistakes to learn.

How do we teach this to our kids?

Is your child a thinker?  A mover?  A feeler?  Figure out where they are at and help them to develop/integrate the others in – we need them all to be balanced.

Questions for instagating this awareness in our kids:

-       How are you feeling?
-       How is your body experiencing this emotion?
-       If you could write down what you are saying to yourself, what would you write?

Bring light to their inner considerer – stuck in story about the future or the past…  get them to notice those kinds of thoughts.

Noticing more about themselves…  The more I do the work, then I don’t have to teach them anything because they are learning energetically…  They learn by example. 

Being able to feel as opposed to thinking without feeling…

COMMON LANGUAGE!!

Breath is a body thing…  When our kids are worked up, asking them “Are you breathing?” is an invitation to awareness…

Walk the walk and talk the talk and they will pick it up…

Offers from Molly:

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- sacred dancing, meditation, cooking and feasting together
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Ongoing Meditations courses in Seattle

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