Eps 81: Making room for empathy with Melissa Benaroya

Today's guest is Melissa Benaroya. Melissa is a licensed clinical social worker with 20 years of experience working with children and families. Melissa has a Masters degree in Social Work, is a Credentialed School Counselor and is trained in Positive Discipline. She is also a Certified Gottman Educator offering the Bringing Baby Home Program for families with young children and workshops on Emotion Coaching. Melissa practices as a parenting consultant, coach and speaker to groups and individuals by blending her clinical training with her knowledge of child development and discipline. In 2011 she co-authored the book The Childproof Parent.

Melissa lives in Seattle with her husband and two children and keeps her sanity with an active lifestyle of running and Crossfit!

“Empathy is the ability to feel and understand what another person may be feeling but ultimately … it means connection … and feeling understood.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

·      Learning to use empathy as a first response and a parenting tool

·      Empathy as reflecting your child’s feeling back to them versus owning their feelings or relating our own personal experiences

·      How using personal experiences in place of empathy can escalate conflict

·      How to use empathy to help your child build emotional resilience

·      Using empathy effectively to help your child feel heard

·      Empathy as a practice and a gradual learning process

·      Childhood developmental milestones in empathy

·      How to model empathy for your kids

·      Using the “Fake It Til You Become It” approach to empathy in your parenting

·      Being mindful of your physical self in how you demonstrate and model empathy

·      Parenting from the couch as a barrier to empathy

·      Echoing, mirroring and repetition as empathy

·      The power of validation in feeling heard – when looking on the bright side gets in the way

·      Empathy as a transferrable skill.

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

It takes courage to take risks and try new things and that’s where joy exists. It’s what parenting requires of us – taking risks and trying new things. Empathy might be taking a risk because it doesn’t feel natural and we are going to have to take lots of risks and try new things throughout our parenting journey. It not only makes us a better parent but it also helps us to grow as an individual and that’s where the joy exists.

Resources:

The Child-proof Parent
Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges

Where to find Melissa:

Website
Child-proof Parenting website
Facebook
Twitter

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FEED 3,000

LET'S FEED SOME PEOPLE!!

I would love to invite you to join me in making 3,000 snack sacks over the next three months and take them to organizations that serve the hungry!!

Not one of us can make all those lunches ourselves - BUT ALL OF US TOGETHER SURE CAN!!

So here is the plan, host a gathering at your house and invite other families over. Have each family bring some supplies and together make as many snack sacks as you can!!

Click here for the Feed 3,000 Facebook Event Link

Click her to go donate to the Feeding America page.

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Eps 80: Rachel Macy Stafford encourages us to choose Only Love Today

Today’s guest is Rachel Macy Stafford, founder of Handsfree Mama, best selling author and special education teacher. We are discussing letting go of distractions so you can focus on what really matters. Join us!

“There is no space for perfection in parenting and living boldly. I want to live bravely, boldly, flawed and full of hope.”

What you’ll hear in this episode: 

  • Parenting and opportunities to choose to be mindful

  • Avoiding getting caught up in the moment as a practice

  • Making a “presence” pledge to yourself

  • Surrendering and learning to let go of control and expectations of mastery or of a certain outcome

  • Raising future adults and allowing space for practice

  • Self-care and the importance of “do nothing” moments

  • The value of physical self-care

Resources:

Only Love Today – pre-order until March 7

Where to find Rachel:

Website l Facebook l Twitter

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FEED 3,000

LET'S FEED SOME PEOPLE!!

I would love to invite you to join me in making 3,000 snack sacks over the next three months and take them to organizations that serve the hungry!!

Not one of us can make all those lunches ourselves - BUT ALL OF US TOGETHER SURE CAN!!

So here is the plan, host a gathering at your house and invite other families over. Have each family bring some supplies and together make as many snack sacks as you can!!

Click here for the Feed 3,000 Facebook Event Link

Click her to go donate to the Feeding America page.

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ParentMap is proud to present Dr. Laura Kastner for Tame the Tears: Parenting Positively on Tuesday, Feb. 28 at The Brockey Conference Center in West Seattle. Learn skills to help encourage positive behavior, manage those dreaded tantrums (yours and theirs!), teach emotional intelligence and strengthen the needed bond between child and parent.

Tickets on sale now.

https://www.parentmap.com/article/beat-the-tears-parenting-positively

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Eps 56: Beth Caldwell on Raising Kids While Living with Cancer

Welcome to an inspiring episode with my friend, Beth Caldwell. Beth is a mom of two, a former civil rights lawyer, and a blogger who lives in Seattle. In 2014, at age 37, Beth found a lump during a breast self-exam, which turned out to be metastatic cancer already in her bones. You’ll appreciate Beth’s genuine honesty about our topic today: as parents of young children, how do we deal with illness, trauma, death, and loss? What do we tell them? How much is TOO MUCH for them to handle? You don’t want to miss this conversation, so join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Beth’s cancer journey from finding the lump until now

  • The feedback from Beth’s frank and open blog: 99% positive

  • Currently, her cancer is in her brain, right arm, and liver

  • New breakthroughs with new drugs

  • The worst part of chemo? Fatigue

  • How to talk to kids with age appropriate language about cancer

  • Don’t hide the truth: share what’s important for them to know

  • Her son’s recent speech about advocacy for better research

  • How to be open and create a safe space for their questions

  • Be mindful: don’t live in fear and trauma

  • Why Beth insists on “planning ahead”

  • How cancer affects your spouse

What does “joyful courage” mean to Beth?
“Courage is not an absence of fear; it’s being afraid and doing it anyway.”

Resources:

www.cultofperfectmotherhood.com

"The Cat is Out of the Bag" Beth's son finds out she will die of her cancer

www.metup.org

The Cancer that Wouldn’t Go Away by Hadassa Field

I Still Just Want to Pee Alone (series by Jen Mann and others, including Beth!)

#JoyfulCourage10
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