Eps 165: Tammy Keces, Head of Irvine Hebrew Day School, is on talking about turning hate into love

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Today’s guest is Tammy Keeces, Head of School at Irvine Hebrew Day School, a former teacher, a positive discipline trainer and mama to three teenagers. She has a Bachelor of Psychology from UCLA, a Masters from Columbia University’s Teacher College in Curriculum and Instruction. She’s currently working on her doctorate. We will be discussing responding to tragic events like the Tree of Life Synagogue tragedy, as well as Judaism, positive discipline and how we can all support each other better. Join us!

"None of us should feel alone.”

“People are children and they just want to belong.”

“God gives us many opportunities for goodness and kindness and this is another way for us to remind ourselves that we need to have hope and we need to have love.”

“We have to come together now, more than ever.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • How Irvine Hebrew Day School handled the tragedy in Pittsburgh

  • Developmental appropriate levels of information about tragic events

  • Balancing the feelings of parents and children in the wake of tragedy

  • Meeting hate with love - finding inner resources in the face of fear

  • Ways to encourage our kids to accept others

  • The freeing power of compassion

  • Parallels between the Torah and positive discipline

  • How non-Jewish people can support the Jewish community

  • Teaching our kids about leadership and civic responsibility

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

It’s being brave every day, to make the right decisions for ourselves and those that love us and inviting joy despite the challenges, despite the heartache, we have to choose joy and that’s what you’re doing every day with joyful courage and I think that there’s no other way to live our lives at this point.


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Eps 52: Sarah MacLaughlin and I talk Race, Privilege and Parenting for a Better World

Welcome! My guest today is Sarah MacLaughlin, a compassion coach, child behavior decoder, parent educator, author, speaker, and warrior for kindness. Sounds like a busy woman, doesn’t she? There is more! She is also the mother of an eight-year-old and is a licensed social worker in Maine. Sarah was a guest for Episode 30, when she discussed Setting Limits. I’m so excited to have her back to help us make sense out of some of the troubling current events in our country. How do we raise our kids to treat ALL people with dignity and respect in the midst of a predominantly white culture? How are we raising our kids to make a better world? Join us for this important and timely conversation.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The responsibility of parents today

  • Stop talking and LISTEN!

  • Making it all make sense to kids

  • Implicit bias: What is it?

  • Being rich vs. being wealthy

  • Why we fear discomfort

  • Our hierarchal society (it exists)

  • Finding opportunities for diversity

  • What’s NORMAL?

  • The anti-bias classroom

  • Why we can’t ignore US history

  • Why being “colorblind” is NOT the answer

  • Kids—they are ALWAYS watching!

  • How to confront others and express your discomfort

  • Is your home “whitewashed”?



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Love First: Parenting to Reduce Racism, Sexism, Homophobia and Other Forms of Hate, by Sarah MacLaughlin

Laying the Groundwork for Acceptance and Inclusion, by Sarah MacLaughlin

Talking to my White Child About Race, by Sarah MacLaughlin 

40 Ways to Raise a Nonracist Child, by Barbara Mathias

EDITORIAL: What I Said When My White Friend Asked For My black Opinion on White Privilege, by Lori Lakin Hutcherson

Thoughts From A Middle Class White Mama, by Casey O'Roarty

White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack by Peggy McIntosh 

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