Eps 157: SOLO SHOW - Back to school musings with Casey - stress, routines and being more aware

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Woohoo – how is YOUR back to school? This episode acknowledges what we are all going through as we support our kids and ourselves in coming back to a back to school routine.

I know, it is hard to shake off the summer. But that is what is happening. I share about my own experience with sending off two kids to two very different school settings, and what is coming up for me as they navigate the transition.

And the navigation is still VERY MUCH ALIVE!!

 I mention tools and strategies for finding peace and flow, or at least dull the roar of making this shift, and I am so happy you are listening in!!

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Eps 150: Solo Show! Getting Real About Transitioning Into Summer

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I am on speaking directly from the tranches…. Feeling the stretch and pull of raising adolescent kids. Kind and firm, yes, and IT’S HARD!!  Moving into summer and thinking about routines and agreements.

Enjoy!

Eps 96: Melissa Benaroya talks Summer Routines and Structures

Eps 129: Solo Show - Using the Iceberg Metaphor to Understand Behavior

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Mother’s Journey BALTIMORE

EARLY BIRD PRICE THROUGH June 15th!

Come to Baltimore in July 28th!!  Super excited to be circling up with mama’s to bring more connection, self growth and discovery to the community there! More info can be found at www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

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Eps 131: How to use routines to shift the dynamics in your home

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A solo show all about routines

There are a couple tools, that when put into place, make the whole parenting journey easier.  You have heard me talk about special time, that one on one time that is so important for building relationship and a solid foundation of belonging and significance for our kids.

Challenges coming up in the LLWJC group

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  • mornings, bedtimes, defiance, meltdowns, sibling issues

    • We find ourselves putting out fires

    • We find ourselves being overtaxed

    • We find ourselves slipping OUT of who we want to be and INTO crazy parent

    • This is also where we loose sight of the way that we are contributing to the chaos at hand….

      • We blame out kids

      • We fall into the trap of “it is always so difficult”

      • We forget that there is always a flow that comes after the ebb….

Yes, special time helps with the challenges mentioned about.

The relationship we nurture with our kids is what has the biggest impact on their behavior, absolutely.

AND, another tool that is super helpful to come back to, again and again, is co-creating routines.

Now, if you are someone with challenges in the morning, or after school, you may be thinking, but we have a routine, and it isn’t working!!!

GREAT.

Not all routines are created equal.

  • Routines are made to be modified and changed up

  • Routines designed to be HELPFUL for everyone will be the most USEFUL

Mindset matters

  • This is not about getting your kids to do what you want them to do

  • This is about helping your children feel like capable, contributing members of the family

  • This is about the process, the opportunity that exists inside the challenge that is currently at the surface

Take a deeper look…

  • Co creating routines means that you are CO CREATING

  • Find a time of day when everyone is feeling good, connected

  • Opening up the conversation to child about how they experience the challenging time of day, validate their feelings, listen and let them know you are taking their sharing to heart – this is not time to talk them out of what they are experiencing or getting them to “see your side”

  • Clear out the space through taking accountability for your behavior. This is really important.

  • Ask for their help to make that time of day easier/better for everyone

  • Brainstorm ideas/tasks

  • Offer/counter offer if you need to

  • Be open to their ideas

  • Be firm/not rigid around your non-negotiables

    • “This is what is important to me, how could we make that work?”

    • “What is your idea for that?”

  • Cross off anything that isn’t related/reasonable/respectful/helpful on the list

  • Work together to create a visual reminder

  • Try it for a week

But, but, but what if it doesn’t “work”

  • Shifting to what is “helpful”

  • Focus on the process

  • TRUST the process

  • Let the routine be the boss

  • Revisit at the end of the week and tweak if necessary

So many routines….

  • Housework

  • Family Meetings

  • Mornings

  • Afterschool

  • Bedtime

Take it slow – let go of urgency

How you show up matters

Be in your practice of curiosity and openness – catch yourself when you want to judge  (roshambo/coin flip) Currently in a new routine of turning screens off from 5-7.  This is a slippery place for us….

Recently posted a handout on the live and love page – will put it in the show notes – for walking through this process. Let me know if you have any questions!

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Eps 99: Casey is Solo Exploring Boundaries, Agreements and Screen Time

Welcome back to the show!

Let me share my own story from the trenches… You aren’t the only one who has kids who act like you are ruining their lives when you ask them to help our around the house…  AND, it is a beautiful thing when your kids turn it around and own their behavior, right? It is a good thing, yes, but I am getting curious about if I am inadvertently raising a people pleaser….?? 

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A question from the community

Mama Denise shares “Literally losing my mind on first day of summer vacation over iPads. I don't have an ounce of energy for a single tool. I'm the worst mom ever, according to my daughter (5y 10mos). And my 7 1/2 yo son "needs this mower" on a farm simulator game. Literally feel like pitching these machines in the dumpster. Thank you for listening.”

These are the struggles where we can release most of the load and pull our kids into co-creation. Casey takes Denise’s familiar scenario and leads us through the practice of intention, presence and solution.

  • Showing up intentionally, rather than reactively

  • Creating intention and applying it to our lens and presence

  • Noticing the ease of intention when the ride is smooth and the rockiness when things fall apart

  • Creating routines that help kids know what is happening and allowing them to have influence

  • Making agreements to help kids create boundaries

  • Identifying needs vs. privileges. ex. Screen time – it is a privilege

  • Privilege comes after contributions

  • Difference between contribution vs. chores

  • A privilege differs from a reward

  • It’s not about “earning”, it’s about “management”

  • Guiding kids to have a voice in solutions when they feel an agreement or routine is not working

  • Seeing the tip of the iceberg and KNOW that beneath the surface is a request for boundaries

  • Allowing children a voice means we hold them as contributors to the cause

  • Children are more likely to follow through when they have a voice in the creation of the agreement

  • Introducing offer and counter offer tool – teaches parent how to let go of agenda, control and rigidity

  • Sharing power when stakes are low

Resources:

Routine Handout
Agreement Handout

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Eps 96: Melissa Benaroya talks Summer Routines and Structures

Casey invites fellow Positive Discipline Coach, Melissa Benaroya, to discuss surviving Summer Break. In this episode they offer practical tools and solutions to set you and your family up for a successful summer. Two to three months is a long time to keep your kids occupied and stimulated.  Get an insight into the importance of boredom and why you don’t have to plan every single second of your children’s vacation. Tune in and learn how routine and summer coexist to help you have fun too! 

Melissa is a neighbor here in the Pacific Northwest. In addition to being a mother of two, Melissa has a Masters degree in Social Work, is a Credentialed School Counselor and a Certified Gottman Educator. You can find more about Melissa at melissabenaroya.com.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The value in creating a summer consistency so your family knows what to expect.

  • Why routines are not confining but an invitation to freedom.

  • How consistency helps encourages children to manage themselves.

  • Why moments of boredom are necessary and the benefits it offers growing kids!

  • How to use mindfulness when creating a summer schedule.

  • Tools are discussed to set up family agreements on everything from daily schedules to screen time use!

  • You’ll learn how to involve your kids in creating a fun summer everyone will enjoy!

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I think when I hear those two words side by side I think of having the courage to take risks and the joy that can result. Take some risks this summer and encourage your kids to do the same!

Where to find Melissa:

Facebook l Twitter

Her book, “The Childproof Parent” is available on Amazon 

Blog Post - Managing Screens, Devices and Apps.. Oh My! 

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MELISSA'S WRITING HAS BEEN FEATURED IN: HUFFINGTON POST, PARENTMAP MAGAZINE, & NORTH STATE PARENT MAGAZINE

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Eps 59: Back to School With Nicole Schwarz from Imperfect Families

Welcome! My guest today is Nicole Schwarz, who joined me for Episode 39 about helping kids deal with negative self-talk. She is a parent coach, child and family therapist, and the founder of Imperfect Families. All of us parents are in some phase of that back-to-school transition time, so let’s hear Nicole’s thoughts on this subject!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The nighttime routine: getting in the mindset of an earlier bedtime

  • Essential family routines for back-to-school

  • The power of shifting from “but” to “and”

  • Urgency is contagious

  • The importance of daily jobs for kids

  • Why kids NEED to make their own lunch

  • Homework: how parents can be supportive and available

  • How to support rather than shame

  • “The bad-kid cycle”

  • How to stick with your kids through emotional blow-ups

  • Why you can’t assume the problem OR the solution

Resources:

www.imperfectfamilies.com

Find Nicole on Facebook (Imperfect Families),
on Pinterest (Nicole Schwarz),
and on Twitter (NicoleForFamilies)

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