Dr. Tina Payne Bryson is the co-author (with Dan Siegel) of two New York Times bestsellers: The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline. She is the Executive Director of the Center for Connection in Pasadena, CA and a pediatric and adolescent psychotherapist. She keynotes conferences and conducts workshops for parents, educators, and clinicians all over the world. Dr. Bryson earned her Ph.D. from the University of Southern California, where her research explored attachment science, childrearing theory, and the emerging field of interpersonal neurobiology. You can learn more about her at TinaBryson.com, where you can subscribe to her blog and read her articles about kids and parenting.
What you will hear in this episode:
How Dr. Dan Siegal and Tina collaborated on THE WHOLE-BRAINED CHILD
How science can help guide parents in really profound ways
Programs, communities and in which Dr. Bryson’s work is taught
The importance of HOW are parent shows up to the nervous system of a developing child
How getting CURIOUS with your child creates gateways into building important life skills and self regulation
How making ASSUMPTIONS delays or stops tool building; ie, taking behavior personal, over explaining behavior, making character assumptions, if they did it once they should be able to consistently complete task/request
Paying attention to a developing nervous system
If the nervous system is not regulated the child cannot have choice over behavior
How to influence the nervous system in both self and child
Identification of Dr. Bryson and Dr. Siegals emotional “ZONES”; Red Zone, Blue Zone, Green Zone
The Frontal Cortex is not developed yet
Children do not have the architecture to control “reptilian brain” / “fight or flight” in red or blue zones – difficulty paying attention, learning, regulating
Tools/techniques to get in “green zone” – regulated, calm, empathetic, attune
Behavior is communicating child’s lack of skills
When to seek out professional help
Self regulation – be gentle and kind with ourselves (reference Kristin Neff, of self-compassion.org)
New techniques require time and PRACTICE
Calming strategy when child is disregulated- get BELOW eye level and use soothing words including “I’m right here with you”
Brain associates with physical state – floppy noodle technique
Body shift can help shift emotions
How discipline is teaching
We need to give children tools not take them away
Thoughts on consequences
Key actions of soothing, connection, problem-solving, playfulness and being pro-active build a “whole-brained” child
How to recognize our own “zones” and practice getting/staying into “green zone”
What does Joyful Courage mean to me?
“Joyful Courage to me means having the courage to reflect on our own areas of growth and also having the courage to trust development to unfold. Trusting that we are doing a good enough job.”
Where to find Dr. Tina Bryson:
What to watch for:
New books by Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson
The YES Brain - January 2018
Showing Up – TBD
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