Eps 145: Deborah Reber is on Talking About Raising Differently Wired Kids

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Today’s guest is Deborah Reber, mother of an autistic son, founder of Tilt Parenting to help parents find more peace, joy and support along the way while parenting an atypical child in a conventional world. We are discussing her new book. Join us!

“It's hard to know what to do when you realize your kid is atypical."

"Kids who are exceptional really just means the exception"

"We have to battle our insecurities maybe a little bit more because what we are doing isn't necessarily working."

"Behavior is all information. It isn't personal."

"Judgment is where we create separation."

What you’ll hear in this episode:

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  • The loneliness of raising a differently wired kid

  • Accommodating kids with invisible differences

  • Introversion vs extroversion and how they are perceived in the classroom

  • Applying positive discipline parenting philosophies to differently wired kids

  • Managing expectations in problem solving when raising neuro atypical kids

  • Becoming aware of our own judgements of other people's children

  • How to be a support when you see a child acting out in public

  • Approaching neuro differences as parents and discussing them with our kids

  • Educators and parents of neuro-typical kids as allies to parents of neuro atypical kids

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I just keep thinking bravery. I think the parents who are raising kids who are moving through the world a little differently have to be brave even when they don't feel brave and so I would say, "Keep going back in, when we have a bad day and showing up and being present with bravery. Presence and bravery. Presence has been the thing that has changed my experience with Asher more than any other tool and it's in the presence that I've been able to find joy in our parenting together.

Resources:

Differently Wired

Where to find Deborah:

Tilt Parenting l Facebook l Twitter l Instagram 

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Eps 88: Angela Pruess Supports Gentle Parents with Special Needs Kids

Today’s guest is Angela Pruess, a child and family therapist and special needs mom of 3 on a mission to support and empower parents of behaviorally challenging and special needs kids. We are discussing parenting without rewards and punishments. Join us! 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Gentle parenting defined – intentionality, connection

  • Attachment theory and gentle parenting

  • Avoiding slipping into extremes with gentle parenting

  • Optimal attachment parenting – responsive and nurturing while setting limits and boundaries

  • How to get perspective when you feel “stuck” in parenting patterns that aren’t working

  • Focussing on the long view of what values you are wanting to raise your child with

  • Understanding the “why” behind your child’s behavior – physiologically speaking particularly for special needs kids

  • Interventions that focus on the root of behavior versus the surface level behaviors

  • Backing up and zooming out as a practice to respond more effectively to challenging behaviors

  • Intentionality and mindfulness as parenting techniques to reduce overwhelm in parenting special needs kids

  • Moving from victimhood and blame to becoming influencers of parenting experiences

  • Grief in special needs parenting and unpacking those complicated feelings

  • Techniques for working through tough feelings and heavy thoughts to create space for something different

  • The need for self-care in special needs parenting, and being mindful about what activities are most helpful

  • The freedom of self-compassion and intentionality of gratitude

  • Asking for help: not a sign of weakness, an invitation to community

  • Lagging skills vs undesirable behavior – learning to focus on the right area to improve outcomes

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Through a parenting with confidence lens, having the courage to boldly walk this path that’s challenging and unexpected, to move forward feeling confident and feeling like you’re giving your child your best self.  Also, being able to do so with joy and having this genuine acceptance of our story – who our child is and who we are. They were given to us and we were woven together for a reason. Having courage and finding joy through the struggles and unexpected challenges.

 

Resources:

Aha parenting website

The Explosive Child – Ross Greene

Positive Discipline for Children With Special Needs

 

Where to find Angela:

Website l Facebook l Twitter l Pinterest

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Eps 54: Deborah Reber from TILT Parenting Talks About Supporting Differently Wired Kids

Welcome! My guest today is Debbie Reber, the founder of TiLT Parenting, an online destination and podcast. The website was the result of parenting a “differently-wired” child with neurological differences. She found it hard to find information and support for the challenges that parents face when ADHD, autism, and dyslexia are the diagnoses. Her family moved from Seattle to Amsterdam three years ago, where she homeschools Asher today. Debbie’s desire was to create a community and a podcast to give parental support and to help kids feel accepted, understood, and heard. Let’s learn more together!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Preschool experiences: disruptive behavior and meltdowns

  • Year-by- year education plan

  • Assumptions that others make about ADHD, ODD

  • Challenges of living in Amsterdam

  • The Tilt Parenting Manifesto, based on true acceptance

  • Atypical kids are everywhere—at least 20% of the population

  • Why we don’t need the Shroud of Secrecy

  • Ten Tilts to Shift the Game

  • Amazing response from other parents

  • The Vision? Shifting the whole parenting paradigm

  • When options are limited for “normal” activities, like camp

  • When normal strategies don’t work

  • The benchmark mentality—usually by age 6

  • Using resources

  • Become fluent in your child’s language

  • The problem-solving approach, and tweaking and tweaking and tweaking

  • Joy in the growth of the child

  • Self-care for parents is important!

  • Asher joins in on the podcast for special episodes!

What does “joyful courage” mean to you?

“Having peace and joy is something I want parents to have in their experience. It takes a lot of courage to show up and be vulnerable in your relationship with your child and to lean into it. Embrace what is and notice the little things that bring peace and happiness.”

Resources:

www.tiltparenting.com
Connect on Debbie’s Facebook group also!
The Gift of Failure by Jessica Lahey

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