Eps 114: Support for the New Sibling Transition with Sarah Rosensweet

Sarah Rosensweet is my guest today!! Sarah is a peaceful parenting coach– and a mama to 3 big kids (16, 13 and 10). She teaches parents a non-punitive, connection based approach that uses firm limits with lots of empathy. Sarah helps parents of toddlers-to-tweens turn philosophy into practice with solutions for real-life struggles such as bedtime battles, picky eaters, sibling rivalry, tantrums and meltdowns, and power struggles.

Sarah has had over 20 years experience working with families and children in early childhood education and schools. She’s an API certified parenting educator and a certified Aha! Peaceful Parenting Coach with Dr. Laura Markham.

What you will hear:

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  • Toddlerhood experience allowed for Sarah to begin her journey towards parenting peacefully

  • Turning away from the advice of “don’t let them manipulate you”

  • Navigating fear

  • The transition of the new sibling can catch us off guard

  • Perspective of the older child is, not such a great thing

  • Our olders have mixed feelings

  • The mama bear instincts kick in and we often find ourselves pushing our older children away. Recognizing the feelings- awareness of what is happening internally for us

  • What shows up with our older children? Regression and aggression

  • What to do? Nurture them, love on them, connect with them, baby them as much as possible

  • Aggression comes from fear – they are acting out their bad feelings

  • Cure – more connection, more empathy

  • “My child is not giving me a problem, my child is having a problem”

  • Emotional backpacks are all of the emotions that show up throughout our experience that we put away for “later”

  • Meltdowns and tantrums are how our children release their emotional backpacks

  • Processing through laughter – get them laughing every day!

  • Rough housing as a proactive energy/emotional release

  • Pete’s a Pizza – William Steig

  • Welcome mixed feelings, schedule one on one time

  • “I wonder…….. “ opens the door for them to express mixed feelings

  • Lack of understanding and empathy can lead a child to feel as though there is something wrong with them

  • Sometimes challenges show up when baby is a newborn, and sometimes it is when the babe gets a bit older

  • Peaceful Parents, Happy Siblings by Dr. Laura Markham

  • ^^ supports children in helping them find solutions that work for both sibs, rather than leaving it to them to figure out how to work things out

  • Special time – joining them in their world of imagination and play – 15 minutes/day with the older child

  • Misbehavior as a signal and look for positive intent

  • Look at your language – shift the language you use that doesn’t include the babe. Ex, “I am busy with the baby” to “I will help you when my hands aren’t full!”

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“I think that one, putting aside our own story of worry and negativity of our own child and trusting that love is enough. Really just Trusting in the love that we have and not getting attached to the worry and fear, I think that takes a ton, ton, ton of courage. And just recognizing that what you are doing is so hard. It’s amazing how many people do have more that one child, because it is hard, it’s hard work.”

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Sarah’s FREE Stop Yelling Ecourse
Sarah’s virtual Introducing New Baby Workshop ((STARTS 10/19)

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Eps 58: Creating Special Time with Kelly Pfeiffer

Welcome! My guest for today’s show is a friend of mine and a fellow Positive Discipline parent educator. Kelly Pfeiffer lives in South Carolina and has raised four kids in a blended family situation. After a divorce, she remarried a man with two children, which blended their family with kids of ages 15, 15, 13, and 12. Those children are now young adults, and Kelly has been a parent educator for the last 16 years. Today’s topics include positive discipline parenting tools, focusing on our discussion of “special time,” a way to guarantee one-on-one time with each child to maintain the vital parent-child connection. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • How Kelly was introduced to Positive Discipline: “Why do parents not know this?”

  • Why having tools and a formula doesn’t guarantee an easy parenting road

  • Variables in blending families

  • The Special Time tool: how to present it to parents

  • A magical connection between parent and child

  • Kelly’s advice for Special Time:

    • Plan it and put it on the calendar

    • As much as possible, let it be child-led

    • Incorporate non-competitive games

    • Use bike rides, picnics, and other outdoor activities

    • Limit distractions (Put away your cell phone!)

    • Use bedtime routines

    • Take advantage of time with a younger child when an older one has an activity

    • Take advantage of time with an older child when a younger one needs to nap

    • Have an older child help with dinner preparation

  • How connection helps diffuse power struggles

  • Tools to repair and recover from hurts

  • Why parents need to say “I’m sorry”

  • Don’t give up when a teen is resistant

  • Ideas for saving Special Time money

  • What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “Being courageous, feeling the fear, and doing it anyway---with JOY!”

Resources:

www.thinkitthroughparenting.com

Find Kelly on Facebook and Twitter (@posdisparenting)

Become a Positive Discipline Parent Educator at Kelly’s 2-day workshop in Greenville, SC, in October

Email newsletter: Find out more and sign up for these parenting tools on Kelly’s website!

Positive Discipline by Jane Nelson, Ed.D.

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Eps 50: Kate Orsen, Hand In Hand Parenting Expert Talks about Listening for Cooperation

Kate Orson is on the podcast today, and I absolutely love where our conversation went!!

Kate's bio from her website:

KAte is a Hand in Hand parenting instructor, and author of Tears Heal: How To Listen To Children. Originally from the UK she now live in Basel, Switzerland, with her husband, author Toni Davidson, and our four year old daughter Ruby.

Kate has written articles for a number of different parenting magazines including The Green Parent, Juno and Smallish.

Kate offer parenting workshops, consultations, both online via skype or in person.

I reached out to Kate to talk about getting children's cooperation around chores.  In talking to her, and learning more about the Hand In Hand parenting approach, our conversation lead us down the road to understanding how intentional listening and presence with children can invite the very cooperation we are looking for.

Kate wrote an article titled 25 Tips for Having Fun While Cleaning Up

Here is the Montessori list of age appropriate chores ((super helpful!))

Things to remember when we are hoping for cooperation:

  • set limits

  • lightness

  • play

  • show faith and trust your child's ability

  • listen

  • practice special time

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Where to find Kate:

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