Eps 114: Support for the New Sibling Transition with Sarah Rosensweet

Sarah Rosensweet is my guest today!! Sarah is a peaceful parenting coach– and a mama to 3 big kids (16, 13 and 10). She teaches parents a non-punitive, connection based approach that uses firm limits with lots of empathy. Sarah helps parents of toddlers-to-tweens turn philosophy into practice with solutions for real-life struggles such as bedtime battles, picky eaters, sibling rivalry, tantrums and meltdowns, and power struggles.

Sarah has had over 20 years experience working with families and children in early childhood education and schools. She’s an API certified parenting educator and a certified Aha! Peaceful Parenting Coach with Dr. Laura Markham.

What you will hear:

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  • Toddlerhood experience allowed for Sarah to begin her journey towards parenting peacefully

  • Turning away from the advice of “don’t let them manipulate you”

  • Navigating fear

  • The transition of the new sibling can catch us off guard

  • Perspective of the older child is, not such a great thing

  • Our olders have mixed feelings

  • The mama bear instincts kick in and we often find ourselves pushing our older children away. Recognizing the feelings- awareness of what is happening internally for us

  • What shows up with our older children? Regression and aggression

  • What to do? Nurture them, love on them, connect with them, baby them as much as possible

  • Aggression comes from fear – they are acting out their bad feelings

  • Cure – more connection, more empathy

  • “My child is not giving me a problem, my child is having a problem”

  • Emotional backpacks are all of the emotions that show up throughout our experience that we put away for “later”

  • Meltdowns and tantrums are how our children release their emotional backpacks

  • Processing through laughter – get them laughing every day!

  • Rough housing as a proactive energy/emotional release

  • Pete’s a Pizza – William Steig

  • Welcome mixed feelings, schedule one on one time

  • “I wonder…….. “ opens the door for them to express mixed feelings

  • Lack of understanding and empathy can lead a child to feel as though there is something wrong with them

  • Sometimes challenges show up when baby is a newborn, and sometimes it is when the babe gets a bit older

  • Peaceful Parents, Happy Siblings by Dr. Laura Markham

  • ^^ supports children in helping them find solutions that work for both sibs, rather than leaving it to them to figure out how to work things out

  • Special time – joining them in their world of imagination and play – 15 minutes/day with the older child

  • Misbehavior as a signal and look for positive intent

  • Look at your language – shift the language you use that doesn’t include the babe. Ex, “I am busy with the baby” to “I will help you when my hands aren’t full!”

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“I think that one, putting aside our own story of worry and negativity of our own child and trusting that love is enough. Really just Trusting in the love that we have and not getting attached to the worry and fear, I think that takes a ton, ton, ton of courage. And just recognizing that what you are doing is so hard. It’s amazing how many people do have more that one child, because it is hard, it’s hard work.”

Website l FB Group
Sarah’s FREE Stop Yelling Ecourse
Sarah’s virtual Introducing New Baby Workshop ((STARTS 10/19)

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Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Eps 84: Oh Crap Potty Trainer, Jamie Glowacki

Today’s guest is Jamie Glowacki, a social worker who worked with dual diagnosis moms, transitioned to owning a children’s store and then became a potty trainer. We are discussing potty training. Join us!

“I don’t really have a method. You have to take off the diapers.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The elimination communication movement

  • Timing of potty training readiness

  • “Pull-ups” and potty training – mixing old and new behaviors.

  • Potty training and instant gratification – the role of patience in the process

  • The myths of potty training

  • Gender and potty training

  • The role of social learning and praise

  • Potty location and using the tool for the task

  • The influence of Dr. Spock and the history of potty training

  • Developmental milestones – should they be child-led?

  • The myth of “readiness” - potty training as a skill that needs to be attended to rather than something that happens naturally in time without intervention

  • The “magic window” of potty training – prior to individuation

  • Potty training as a power struggle

  • “Fear of release” – how to overcome it

  • Managing expectations around developmental milestones and the danger of comparison

  • How potty training challenges vary based on the age of the child

  • Performance anxiety and potty training

  • The best potty and ergonomic angle for potty training specifically for encouraging poop

  • How to modify your potty or reposition your child to improve poop likelihood

  • Rewards and consequences – their role in potty training

  • Potty training power struggles as relationship challenges

  • Potty training regressions – change in routines, the honeymoon period

  • Using blocks of learning to solve regressions

  • “Baby love” as a tool to help kids adjust to new siblings

  • Location specific potty training challenges – how to unpack them

  • Night time training strategies

  • Developmental phases of bladder development

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage is a reminder we have to be courageous as parents, we have to be so brave and we have to be constantly evaluating ourselves. The joyful just reminds me to keep it light. This is all just so great. Even in our worst potty training nightmare it’s still so great. Keep our courage light!

 

Resources:

Squatty potty unicorn ice cream video

Is Night Training Really Necessary – blog post

Oh Crap Potty Training Book

Oh Crap Potty Training video conferences

 

 Where to find Jamie:

Website

Twitter

Facebook

 

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March GIVEAWAY!

The last few months I have been encouraging you all to share the shows by holding giveaways - everything from mantra bracelets to coaching has gone out to members of the community who have been willing to join in the work of #impact1millionkids - this month is no exception!!

Simply by posting a podcast link, and tagging me (Casey O'Roarty) or Joyful Courage, you are entered to win!!  This month I am giving away a spot in the Living Joyful Courage Membership program - WOOHOO!!  AND, you can enter as many times as you WANT! Yes!

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Eps 48: Taming the Toddlers and Haters with Julietta Skoog

Welcome! My guest today is a dear friend, Julietta Skoog, who is a positive discipline trainer. She joined us as a guest on Episode 4 about Family Meetings. It’s hard to believe that we’re here at Episode 48 now! I’m so thrilled to have Julietta back again so that we can all benefit from her wealth of parenting knowledge. She teaches many classes and workshops for parents, in addition to being a school counselor and psychologist in Seattle, where she works with hundreds of students. Her most important parenting work, however, is at home with her children, ages 4 and 7. Today’s topic is all about Toddlers—raising them and dealing with those around us who might not agree with our parenting methods. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Toddlers are biologically driven to explore the world through visual learning and touch.

  • We need to find a way to bridge between our world and their world.

  • They need to know that you hear them and understand them.

  • Connect with them, see them, and hear them.

  • With 2-3 year olds, redirection and distraction can be effective tools to move them on to what they need to do next.

  • What it means to “get them to the second location”

  • With older toddlers, use curiosity questions and give them a wait time.

  • With younger toddlers, limit their choices to ones that you’re ok with.

  • Mutual respect is essential—even with toddlers!

  • Help them get excited about the next step with PLAY.

  • Use deep firmness and structure.

  • How should we handle destructive behaviors?

    • Speak consistently

    • Model connection and firmness

    • Supervise!

  • Model and help them learn empathy

  • Transitions cause anxiety for kids, so do your prevention work!

In dealing with others’ opinions, remember that we’re all challenged as parents; we’re all doing the best we can with the tools we have.

Resources:

www.besproutable.com (Julietta has video examples and other parenting resources.)

Julietta's website l Facebook

Join the Joyful Courage Facebook group: Live and Love with Courage.

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Eps 17: Bonnie Harris on Connective Parenting

What a great time I had talking to Bonnie Harris of Connective Parenting!  She is so full of wisdom and insight...  Which wasn't surprising AT ALL to me :)

I have been following Bonnie's work for years - drawn to her gentle, logical style and advice.  I subscribed to her newsletter list and read her books and often am known to quote her in my parenting classes.

This lady is for real.

AND I am honored to share our conversation with you!!

Click on the links below to follow Bonnie:

www.bonnieharris.com
www.connectiveparenting.com
facebook.com/connectiveparenting
twitter.com/harrisparenting

And check out BOTH of Bonnie's books - packed with inspiration and applicable tools:

Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You'll Love to Live With
When Your Kids Push Your Buttons: And What You Can Do About It


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Big love to you all and happy parenting!!!


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