Eps 173: A solo show about the power of encouragement

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Recap of the summit

-       What happens when we start having real conversations?

-       Community/support

-       Seeing participants in real life

-       Recognizing our attachments and course correcting

-       Gratitude to guests

-       Gratitude to participants

-       $109 and it is your for eva

 

Saw Brene Brown

-       Seen before

-       Appreciate her realness

-       Familiar stories

-       Story of daughter swimming and conversation around being brave IS winning

-       Are these the conversations we are having with our kids? Are we explicit?

 

What we notice and what we speak

-       Life skills/qualities

-       Negativity bias

-       How often they ARE using tools/skills – it’s just when they don’t if feels so PAINFUL

-       Our expectation of mastery

-       Layers going on under the surface (meaning of behavior with Alison Smith 110, Iceberg Metaphor solo show 129)

 

What it takes to stay focused under the surface

-       Vulnerability and humility – it may not be about you

-       Faith

-       Trust/surrender – let go of your attachment to how you think it should be, and also the idea that you KNOW what’s happening for your child when they haven’t expressed it

-       The idea that all humans ultimately want connecting and to know they matter. All of them.  We are hard wired to connect

 

Our language and messages:

-       Week three at MMS we dug into encouragement vs praise

o   Process oriented

o   Really seeing the child

o   Naming qualities with evidence

§  My story this morning with the waffles and “what do I do with the mix?”

o   I notice, I appreciate, I trust/know/have faith

o   Not for the short term/immediate – but for the long term, internal voice (ep 136 with Kelly Bos about how NOT to become the voice of your child’s inner critic) it is about below the surface, about supporting our kids in changing what they believe about themselves

 

I am going to do a webinar this month in the Patreon community to diver deeper into encouragement and I hope you join in! The Joyful Courage Super Fam is a group of parents who are giving $10/month to the podcast to support in the sustainability and create a win/win. Members of the community enjoy monthly webinars and online support through our closed facebook page. Check it out at www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

 

Have a beautiful week my friends!!  I am going to be watching my tone this week and really working on the sometimes unspoken messages I am sending to my kids when I am less than mindful of what I am doing – and clean up any messes along the way.

 

Big love!!

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Eps 139: Solo Show About Authenticity, Choosing In and Being Awesome

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Today’s podcast was created in honor of the 159 parents who enrolled and engaged in the #joyfulcourage10.

Today we complete the program, and begin the practice of sustaining the magic and community that was created there, because of the people who showed up vulnerably, authentically, and courageously.

I love what I get to do.

Thank you to each of you that spent the last 10 days building relationship with me and each other. YOU ARE AMAZING!!!

Alright – today’s theme for the show is authenticity and transparency.

Parenting as a journey

  • Not a secret

  • No hidden agenda

  • About being in human relationship

Modeling

  • Life skills are learned through modeling

  • Vulnerability and authenticity is learned through modeling

  • Kicking it up a notch is lifting up and OUT of the modeling and being transparent

Human relationships are messy.

Parenting is messy.

Life-iing is messy.

When we actively, intentionally, decide to SHIFT the way we parent, we set ourselves up to be exposed as flawed humans.

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  • Hello vulnerability

  • Hello humility

  • Hello contrary to the “adults are always right”

 While the whole Positive Discipline/Positive Parenting approach is SIMPLE – I mean, choose relationship and trust that your  children will lean life skills – WHAT IS THE BIG DEAL???

Right, and then we are in life and it is a shit show.

  • Defeat

  • Self talk

  • Comparison-itis

  • Giving up

Be transparent! 

All that modeling???  It is an opportunity to lift up and out of your experience and help you kids see you connecting the dots (or your partner, or you parent, sibling, friend)

  • Share your journey

  • Ask for help

  • Let people know HOW you would like feedback

If you know with your WHOLE HEART that this makes sense to you, that you believe in this style of parenting, then also believe with your WHOLE HEART that you are capable, worthy and ENOUGH to pull this off.

DO NOT READ PERFECT HERE.

  • Progress not perfection

  • Progress not perfection

  • Progress not perfection.

TRANSFORMATION IS NOT A FUTURE EVENT. IT IS A PRESENT ACTIVITY. – Jillian Michaels (thank you Jessie for setting e straight on this quote)

Transformation IS happening. Every time you choose into this work.

Do you all know what I mean by “choose in?”

  • When you hug and melt into it

  • When you breathe it out

  • When you connect

  • When you get curious

  • When you drop your shoulders

  • When you’re mindful

  • When you step away

  • When you try something new

  • When you interrupt your pattern

  • When you acknowledge your self talk, and replace it with an affirmation

  • When you drop the urgency

  • When you drop the rigidity

  • When you listen to your body

  • When you look for perspective

  • When you remember the iceberg

  • When you let go of what society, your parents, your neighbors, your inlaws think you SHOULD DO

  • When you let your heart lead

  • When you honor you

ALL OF THIS IS CHOOSING IN.

So DO IT!

Be unapologetic.

And when it is hard, just own that – THIS MORNING IS FUCKING HARD! Maybe don’t scream it out loud, but acknowledge that it IS hard some days. And exhausting. And thankless.

AND, you GET TO choos in.

You GET TO.

You are being CALLED TO THIS WORK, otherwise, why would you be doing it? Why would you be reading the books and article and listening to the podcast??? 

I see you. I know you are listening. I know you are trying. I know that your heart swells with love when you look at your sleeping child, and that your mind spins when that same child is awake  and impossibly inconsolable…..  I see you.

And you can do this.  You ARE doing this.

And I see you.

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This is five weeks of deep diving, exploring, practicing, stretching and growing.

Members of the academy will enjoy weekly webinars where we will all be LIVE together, on the screen, interacting in real time around the weeks lessons

ALSO members will enjoy weekly Q and A sessions with me, again, LIVE together

They will enjoy an safe, supporting and ENGAGED FB group for accountability, sharing and celebration.

And VIP members will also receive two one on one coaching calls with me during the course.

The learning outcomes of this program are:

  • Participants will gain a deeper understanding of behavior and create a vision for their parenting

  • Participants will identify where gaps exist and learn tools for strengthening relationships and expectations

  • Participants will learn language that empowers, inspire and motivates their family.

  • Participants will grow their leadership through proactive and in the moment practices

  • Participants will uncover the deep wisdom that ALREADY exists inside of themselves and use it to show up and design their life

Sign up now at www.joyfulcourage.com/academy

Love each and every one of you so much!!!! 

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Mother’s Journey

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Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

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Eps 79: Mary Jo Lorei Helps us Bring Back the Romance

Today’s guest is Mary Jo Lorei, a coach who focuses on relationships and connections. We are discussing love, romance and intimacy after becoming parents. Join us!

“It’s less about the action you take. We look for the action. There’s so many different actions you can take, it doesn’t really matter. The experience is about the connection to your heart. It’s about being connected to what really matters. The actions won’t sustain you or your relationship. Listen to your heart and let that inspire you.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

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•    Finding time for intimacy
•    The importance of intimacy – finding your why
•    Intimacy as parenting: part of role modeling healthy relationships
•    Creating an invitation to intimacy: first steps
•    Masculine and feminine energy – what’s the difference and why they are both in all of us
•    Balancing energy to promote your child’s autonomy
•    Vulnerability, touch and exploring connection
•    Vulnerability as strength
•    Relationships take two people, but relating takes one.
•    Putting up a screen to filter inputs vs putting up a shield
•    Distinguishing sex and intimacy – moving beyond euphemism
•    Connecting to “adjust the volume” vs “turning from off to on” – making smooth transitions to intimacy through ongoing mindfulness and connection
•    Reminding our partner and ourselves of what we appreciate about each other
•    Resolving disconnection through self-celebration and self-care
•    How to be curious about identifying and problem solving barriers to intimacy
•    Engaging universal parenting skills that we practice with our kids
•    The power of “I’ve Missed You” and remembering the intention
•    Improving the likelihood of successful connection through celebration and reverence vs. complaint
•    Letting go of expectations to leave space for what comes naturally     

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

The fun in being courageous is getting on that super big rollercoaster. It’s not just about death defying acts of meeting demons. It’s really fun to be courageous because it brings amazing results. Connecting those two words is so important because it takes courage to be joyful and how amazing is courage when it has joy in it. It means to be inspired.

Where to find MaryJo:

Maryjolorei.com
Boldly embody life

 

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FEED 3,000

LET'S FEED SOME PEOPLE!!

I would love to invite you to join me in making 3,000 snack sacks over the next three months and take them to organizations that serve the hungry!!

Not one of us can make all those lunches ourselves - BUT ALL OF US TOGETHER SURE CAN!!

So here is the plan, host a gathering at your house and invite other families over. Have each family bring some supplies and together make as many snack sacks as you can!!

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