Joyful Courage:
Calming the Drama
and Taking Control
of YOUR Parenting Journey

Do you love being a parent—except for "those times" when you don't? Did you really believe you could be a perfect parent—and then beat up on yourself because you couldn't? After all, you "knew" better. You are going to love this book. It is for "real" parents, imperfect parents who need to know they are not alone; and will feel encouraged by the many tips on how to handle the ups and downs of parenting.

- Dr. Jane Nelsen, author and co-author of the Positive Discipline series of books

I wrote this book for you.
And me.
I wrote this book for all of us.

Parenting is messy. Alongside all of the joy comes and emotional freight train full of challenges and frustration. Your child can instantly trigger strong reactions that leave you feeling angry and out of control. What if you didn’t respond so emotionally every time? What if you could learn to be more present to the experience you were having? Might you feel like a better parent?

Joyful Courage: Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey helps parents navigate the roller coaster of parenting to reveal:

  • How identifying your body’s physical reaction to stress is the first step to taking control of your parenting

  • Why our past experiences add to the conflict with out kids and what to do about it.

  • Real-life stories from parents riding the emotional freight train.

  • The Three B’s Method to change your reaction anytime, anywhere.

  • How to grow your relationship with all of the people that you love.

From toddlers to teenagers, Joyful Courage is the practical and thoughtful resource for parents to navigate the challenge of raising children while choosing to be connected and engaged. Parents can learn how to be the best for their families with Joyful Courage.

Advance Praise:

Casey O’Roarty is the authentic friend who tells the truth about the struggles of parenting, and is the wise guide who provides powerful tools to help us be our best selves as parents. Her “breath, body, balcony” strategy is a gem!

-Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D., LCSW Co-author of the bestsellers The Whole-Brain Child, No-Drama Discipline, and The Yes Brain

Joyful Courage is the parenting manual I wish I had years ago. Filled with heart, frank advice and understanding, Casey O’Roarty gets to the core of the struggle every parent experiences. Her 3 B’s approach is an invaluable tool to adjust our emotions as parents and really connect with our children. By the end of this book, you’ll know how to build the deep relationships with your family you’ve always wanted. A+, Casey!

- Amy McCready, Founder of and best-selling author of The “Me, Me, Me” Epidemic and If I Have to Tell You One More Time…

I have been yet to read a book that raises awareness around triggered reactions quite like Joyful Courage. Casey is a master at helping parents look beneath the surface to learn how to respond to the challenges of parenting with greater presence, love, and compassion. Joyful Courage will help you become the parent you’ve wanted to be while nourishing you through every chapter of this enlightening work.

- Rachel Macy Stafford, Founder of, New York Times bestselling author of Only Love Today and Certified Special Education Teacher

Parenthood is an emotional journey. Sometimes, those emotions completely derail us. Casey uses her wit, humor, and wisdom to help you get back on track and be the parent you want to be. With practical but powerful tools, this is the book that will help you take charge of your journey so you can show up each and every day with joy and courage!

- Rebecca Eanes, author of The Gift of a Happy Mother, and Positive Parenting

Joyful Courage is a beautiful invitation for parents to embrace a heart-felt, positive approach to raising their children, no matter their child's wiring or the challenges they may be facing. Casey's honesty will remind you you're not alone while showing you how to "be" with what is and create a more peaceful, respectful dynamic in your family.

- Debbie Reber, founder of TiLT Parenting and author of Differently Wired

Joyful Courage gets right to the heart of our emotional challenges as parents. Surprisingly fun to read, it is chock-full of personal stories and practical skills that can be applied to so many parenting challenges, including screen time struggles.

- Delaney Ruston, MD Filmmaker of Screenagers: Growing Up In The Digital Age

It’s about time Casey O’Roarty wrote a book to help parents everywhere understand that parenting really is hard and crazy-making. Her honesty about her real-life adventures in parenting, show some of the best ways to help us calm down, wise-up and find the joy in our parenting journey. Casey has extensive experience as a teacher and parent educator and her ideas and advice are based in reality, love and good humor.

— Amy Lang, MA, Super Fan and Founder of Birds & Bees & Kids

"Casey's imagery of a freight train pulling into the station really captures the magnitude of what a draining experience parenting can feel like. Her strategies to learn to let the train pass by is the greatest gift of self-preservation and we should all practice it not just in parenting but in all areas of our lives."

- Shawn Fink, Founder of The Abundant Mama Project

Casey O’Roarty’s book, Joyful Courage: Calming the Drama and Taking Contro of Your Parenting Journey is as good as an overdue lunch date with a BFF—one that gets you, listens really well, and gives great advice without being bossy. Casey tells us like it is, with love, but without sugar-coating the message. We are in charge of ourselves, but not in control of our children. She shows us what’s needed: self-awareness, loads of compassion, and practice, practice, practice. Because let’s face it, we're all learning how to better handle our emotions.

-Sarah MacLaughlin, social worker and author of What Not to Say: Tools for Talking with Young Children

This books brings Casey’s voice to life—it felt like she was speaking directly to me. Casey has a natural style and way of encouraging parents. She validates how the parenting journey can be challenging, and that there’s no such thing as a perfect parent. Joyful Courage teaches parents the importance of our relationship with our children and how we need to “show up” for them. I love how honest and real Casey is in describing her own parenting journey. She shares personal stories as well as stories from other parents that I believe every parent can relate to and learn from.

I have been a huge fan of the Joyful Courage podcast for the past 2-years and always feel encouraged and inspired after listening. This book has left me with the same feeling and I can’t wait to share it with my friends and all of the parents I work with!

- Mary Nelsen Tamborski is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Certified Positive Discipline Trainer, Parent Coach, co-author of the “Positive Discipline Tool Card Book,” and “Keeping the Joy in Marriage Tool Cards” and eBook of the same title, with her mother, Jane Nelsen.