What is Positive Discipline?
I am honored to be a Certified Positive Discipline Trainer. Positive Discipline is a program developed by Jane Nelsen and Lynn Lott, and based on the work of Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs. There is an extensive library of books on Positive Discipline, dedicated to meeting the needs of parents living and loving a variety of ages of kids and family systems.
At the heart of the Positive Discipline philosophy is the idea that children grow into healthy, happy adults when they are raised in encouraging homes, practicing life skills and receiving unconditional love.
Positive Discipline parents are dedicated to walking their parenting path with kindness and firmness. Kindness shows up in the way they interact with their children, honoring their dignity and respecting their needs. Firmness shows up when parents respect themselves and the needs of the situation, as well as following through with what they say they are going to do.
Positive Discipline is Authoritative Parenting
What is authoritative parenting? It provides children an environment where reasonable expectations are set for them, and the support needed to meet those expectations is given lovingly. Parents are the holders of the shared vision for the family. Parents are responsible for modelling, teaching and and creating space to practice the life skills they will need to embody as adults. The Positive Discipline home is one that embraces horizontal relationships, where parents and children work on solutions together, and skill-building, where children are given the space to practice the tools they need to navigate the world.
Parents are the leaders of the family. The most effective leaders move through the world with integrity, are open to continuously learning to be better versions of themselves, are pro-active, listen to understand, look for solutions to problems, and develop encouraging relationships.
Parents who commit to Positive Discipline are invited to embody all of these traits and more. Through family meetings, joint problem-solving, creating routines and agreements, PD parents provide the gift of allowing their children to use their voice and experience what it is like to be deeply respected.
Watch this 6-minute video to learn more about:
the Positive Discipline philosophy
how our children are all longing for connection
what mutual respect looks like in PD
the iceberg metaphor
how to make your child feel capable and confident through opportunities and practice