Eps 166: Solo show connecting the dots between how building relationship leads us to more effective parenting

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-       No shows in December, Happy Holidays!

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  • Summit is live January 21st – 25th

  • Validation, inspiration, nuggets to PRACTICE

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 This week’s content:

-       Positive parenting is easy when there isn’t a lot of challenge – more challenging when our kids are rubbing up against our triggers

-       Toolbox metaphor

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  • Higher our emotion, more likely we use desperate tools (rewards and punishment)

  • The more tools we put in to toolbox, the more likely it is that the ineffective tools of rewards and punishment slide to the bottom

  • We can always do better

-       Relationship matters!!!!!!

  • When our relationships are disconnected, navigating behavior in a harsh way isn’t useful for anyone

  • Fear takes us towards harsh punishment

-       Mistakes are opportunities to learn

-       There are always consequences

-       Inviting out kids into relationship

  • Can feel uncomfortable

  • Taking accountability for how the relationship currently is and get vulnerable

  • Just because it’s hard doesn’t mean we stop being curious with our kids

-       Start paying attention to the body

  • Support ourselves by noticing what is happening inside

  • We get more access to our toolbox when we are grounded and neutral

  • At the end of the day what is most useful is your relationship

  • NOT permission for being a permissive parent – still hold boundaries

  • Stronger relationship the more likely your child will open up and talk to you

-       Creating an environment where our kids can thrive and be a soft landing when they get it wrong

-       Shame/blame does not promote accountability and personal responsibility

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Eps 165: Tammy Keces, Head of Irvine Hebrew Day School, is on talking about turning hate into love

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Today’s guest is Tammy Keeces, Head of School at Irvine Hebrew Day School, a former teacher, a positive discipline trainer and mama to three teenagers. She has a Bachelor of Psychology from UCLA, a Masters from Columbia University’s Teacher College in Curriculum and Instruction. She’s currently working on her doctorate. We will be discussing responding to tragic events like the Tree of Life Synagogue tragedy, as well as Judaism, positive discipline and how we can all support each other better. Join us!

"None of us should feel alone.”

“People are children and they just want to belong.”

“God gives us many opportunities for goodness and kindness and this is another way for us to remind ourselves that we need to have hope and we need to have love.”

“We have to come together now, more than ever.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

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  • How Irvine Hebrew Day School handled the tragedy in Pittsburgh

  • Developmental appropriate levels of information about tragic events

  • Balancing the feelings of parents and children in the wake of tragedy

  • Meeting hate with love - finding inner resources in the face of fear

  • Ways to encourage our kids to accept others

  • The freeing power of compassion

  • Parallels between the Torah and positive discipline

  • How non-Jewish people can support the Jewish community

  • Teaching our kids about leadership and civic responsibility

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

It’s being brave every day, to make the right decisions for ourselves and those that love us and inviting joy despite the challenges, despite the heartache, we have to choose joy and that’s what you’re doing every day with joyful courage and I think that there’s no other way to live our lives at this point.

Resources:

We’re All Wonders book

Where to find Irvine Hebrew Day School:

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Eps 164: Jeremy Schneider, MFT Talks About Navigating our Partner's Parenting Journey

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Today’s guest is Jeremy Schneider. Jeremy is a Marriage and Family Therapist whose career spans more than 15 years of working with individuals and families focussing on parenting, relationships and mental health. He is the author of Fatherhood in 40 Minute Snapshots and has been  featured on the New York Times, The Today Show and CNN. We will be discussing co-parenting and alignment with our partners. Join us!

"Every step that I take in my personal growth is one less step that they have to take.”

“A lot of parenting is about experimentation.”

“You just get better the more you do it. Just keep trying.”

“We don’t want to be the same parent. We just want to be parenting in the same direction.”


What you’ll hear in this episode:

-Journaling as a way to maintain perspective

-Examining our principles of parenting

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-Deciding what kind of people we want to raise

-Personal growth and parenting - how they relate

-Co-parenting and being in alignment with our parents

-Fatherhood and parental involvement of dads

-Finding balance as co-parents in agreeing on a parenting approach

-The importance of parenting education

-Navigating parenting as a dad when you feel uncertain

-How Dads can model emotional expression for their kids

-Approaching our partners with curiosity about their parenting approach

-Parenting as a practice

-Finding harmony in parenting styles

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

 Having survived a fairly traumatic childhood, I think about courage a lot. I don’t normally think about it in terms of myself and that’s something that I’ve been working on to give myself credit for how far I’ve come and what I’ve been able to do and the kind of relationships I’ve been able to build within my family.

I think Joyful courage is being able to enjoy, not the success, I’m trying to think of the word, being able to bask in this life I’ve built. It took a lot of work to get where I am and my wife and I have worked very hard to get where we are together. And we’ve worked very hard to survive as long as we have with our kids and get this far and I think, to me, one of the phrases that I play a lot in my head is happy chaos. I think of our life as happy chaos.

Chaos doesn’t have to be bad and that’s kind of the way we think about it. My life is chaos, it’s just straight chaotic, because having teenagers and wanting to be there for them and wanting to be there for my wife and build this business and so and so forth; it’s chaos. But it’s a happy chaos because it all involves things that I love.

And to me Joyful Courage has that same kind of feel, right? It’s the freedom, the sort of joyfulness of doing something that takes an enormous effort and overcoming anxiety and fear to be able to do it but that doesn’t mean that it’s bad. It can still be joyful in that experience of it.

Resources:

Fatherhood in 40 Minute Snapshots

Where to find:

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Eps 163: Solo show about raising boys, healthy masculinity, and growing emotional intelligence

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Solo Show this week!

First – continues thanks for all of the feedback around the last solo show, where I shared about navigating my daughters mental health issues. It means the world to me to know that the content of the show is landing for you, and making a difference in your life!

This week I am talking about our boys.

  • Toxic Masculinity

  • We have to do better for our boys

  • Partners – emotional intelligence is for everyone

  • Posturing

  • Fragile Egos

  • Curiosity

  • Routine of talking about how we feel

  • It’s not coddling – if we keep toughening them up and having them suppress how they feel we will continue to see cultures where war and violence exist

  • Not blaming

  • Not from a place of fear

  • We all get to be full humans

  • Boys and their fear of labels

  • Build Skills

  • More than just “walk away”

  • Saving face w/o being a dick

  • Being a champion

  • People like him. He can take criticism, doesn’t make people choose friends, and doesn’t blow off someone for a better offer. When people are harassed or demeaned, he intervenes. He’s comfortable hanging out with guys who are both inside and outside the box. He holds his own opinion, but still listens to others.

  • TALK ABOUT IT BEING HARD

  • VALIDATE THEIR EXPERIENCE

  • SUPPORT THEM IN RESPONSES TO LIFE

  • This isn’t helicoptering

  • Belonging significance influence

  • Aren’t feeling it, they will take it where they can

  • Posturing

    • Insecure OR entitled

    • All boys fall into a role where they feel safe

  • Talk to your boys

  • Keep talking

  • Talk about emotions

  • Check your “should/shouldn’t’ at the door

  • Be open, own your mistakes, encourage them when you see life skills on display

  • Love them up

Resources mentioned:
Masterminds and Wingmen by Rosalind Wiseman

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Eps 162: Exploring our Energetic Connection With our Children with Jennifer Griffin

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Today’s guest is Jennifer Griffin. Jennifer is the mother of four, has her masters in counseling psychology with 30 years of experience guiding children and adults on their relationship journeys. Jennifer is a DIY maven, specializing in leading individuals to uncover the messages in their chronic health conditions and their children’s challenging behaviors. Join us! 

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What you’ll hear in this episode:

-Simple, yet powerful techniques to heal at home

-Taking back your power after trauma

-What is EMDR and how can it help you heal?

- How our kids behaviors can mirror our own unexpressed feelings and frustrations

-How acting out can relate to our own inner struggles

- The iceberg of behavior and how that relates to our children’s behavior and the way they channel their parents frustrations

- Resisting the urge to “fix”

- Understanding generational patterns

- The role of balancing chakras in your child’s behavior

-How claiming our authenticity and expressing our emotions can change how our kids express themselves through their behavior

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Well, in terms of this process of discovering channeling, it means to go forward with joy and courage, not guilt. Celebrate it, embrace it, as I talked about before, grab your partner, grab someone when your kid is having a fit and say “This is what I’m thinking and I’m thinking this and maybe this and I felt this” and try to go through all the different ideas that might be going on and depending on the relationship with your child, some parents choose to share this dynamic with their child and other parents don’t. It can be very powerful that if your child knows this is going on, they can, Arcata now can come to us after she’s knitting or reading a book on tape in her room and say, “I’m really mad out of nowhere, like I was completely happy, I love the book I’m listening to, something’s not right with dad, and will you call him and ask him what?” She’ll say, “I’m really mad or I really hate this” and she’s like, “and I don’t know why.”

So I would just say, it’s fun, it is fun, it’s a different kind of fun than a lot of people might be used to but it’s fascinating, it’s absolutely fascinating when you start taking this perspective. I mean, it’s hard for me to, I mean, I go out and talk to people, I’ll be at a cocktail party or something and someone’s kid, and I’ll say something and then I’m like, “Hmmmm” and I’ll watch the person’s reaction and I don’t think they’re very happy with something I’ve said and their kid will come up and start tugging at them and be like, “I want to go! I want to go right now! I want to leave!” I was right about that. It’s hard for me not to see once you wake up into this way of viewing the world it’s really quite fascinating. So, meet it with joyful courage.

Resources:

Channeling Questionnaire
Embracing your child’s tantrums as a gift - Elephant Journal article 

Where to find:
Understanding Morning Sickness as a Gift
Understanding Your Child as a Spiritual Gift

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Eps 161: Solo Show About Navigating Depression and Anxiety

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Solo show – sharing from personal experience

Recap what is happening with my teenager

  • If you listened last year, you heard the struggle

  • Online school

  • Clients I’ve worked with

  • Friends confiding in their experience

What the stats say

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  • My experience of finding information

  • What my gut tells me

  • The ways the world has changed

Why it’s so hard

  • Weight of fear/possible outcomes

  • Lack of control

  • Our own stories

PD is belonging and significance

  • Power of perception

  • What do we do when something feels “wrong” without giving message that they need to be fixed

  • The challenge of meeting them where they’re at

    • My experience with this….

    • Not knowing what this means

    • The dance of acting/fixing vs validating/being

The iceberg

  • Tip of the iceberg

    • They won’t talk, can’t identify what’s “wrong”, tears, withdrawal, aggression/defiance/anger, shut us out

    • Grades/friends/activities

    • Bad after school special

  • Under the surface

    • Hopelessness/fear/not know what or how they are feeling

    • Feelings of disconnection

    • Out of control

    • Anxiety/depression

The range….

  • Not all or nothing

  • Grey areas

  • Our own beliefs about mental health

    • My experience, looking back I was afraid to call it what it was because it made it true

    • My upbringing of not using things (family drama) as a “crutch” messaging

Enmeshment/codependency

  • I am going to get really vulnerable and highlight something that I see showing up because of the dynamics that are currently alive in my family

  • My experience with needing approval – give me the gold star, tell me how great I am

  • Wanting it from my family, especially my dad and step mom

  • Now noticing that I am searching for it from my daughter

  • NO BUENO

Getting spiritual

  • Carolyn Myss

  • My experience of energy work in the context of my relationship with Rowan

  • Life happens for us, so…. This is an experience that is happening for me? For Rowie? 

Acknowledging my controlling tendencies and the message it sends

Letting go/backing off

Having a plan (with school) about what I will and won’t do with a request

Treatment

  • Counseling, naturopath, energy work – this is what WE are doing

  • You do you. Make choices for your kids.

  • Listen to your kids. Listen deeply. Hear without fixing

  • Ask permission

  • Give them space and trust they will come to you

  • Don’t be afraid to go big if things feel really off

  • Ask hard questions

  • GET SUPPORT

  • TALK TO EACH OTHER

  • Quit dismissing teens by saying “everyone feels that way” because even if it’s true this is not what they need to hear – they NEED to feel seen and heard

  • Check your expectations at the door, accept that this is a part of your parenting story

  • Take care of yourself

  • Check your codependency

  • GET HELP – if your gut tells you that what is happening with your child is extreme, seek help.

I say this to you and to myself. We will get to the other side of this, my friends. And only we get to decide if we get to GO through this time of our lives, or if we GROW through it.

Thank you to all of you parents of teens, those of you who are personal friends who have been brave enough to be in conversation with me, clients, listeners – you are not alone.

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Eps 160: Debrena Jackson Gandy supports moms in living their JUICIEST lives!

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Today’s guest is Debrena Jackson Gandy, a best-selling author of three books, a keynote speaker, a world traveler, a transformational coach, a thought-leader, a sacred self care expert, relationship coach, founder of Juicy Woman University and The Love Academy. We are discussing creating juicy lives for ourselves. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

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-Pampering the mind, body and the spirit

-The nourishment of the spirit and why it matters

-Why the first 9 years of life are so important to our beliefs

-Getting past our own default mode

-The guilt that comes from tending to self and martyrdom

-When you feel bad about being good to self

-The Sacred Self-Caring lifestyle vs. the lifestyle we inherit through default

-Satisfaction, joy, ease, peace and flow: how to find it

-Finding a new default for sacred self-care

-The difference between the being and the doing - and the exhaustion that comes from all the doing

-Division of responsibility for children within the home between parents - joint responsibility

-How mothering behavior can block fathering and shared parenting

-Being the architect of our own lives

-When your “thought ware” isn’t aligned with being the architect of your own life

-Baby steps to getting back into alignment

-Debugging our programming

-How beliefs impact attraction

-The path to transformation

-Getting curious about beliefs to make changes

-Morning rituals for prayer and meditation

-Discerning God’s voice from your inner self talk

-The importance of asking in prayer

-Understanding our own greatness and how that impacts our ability to live our birthright

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

 “It means living a life based in truth, and unfortunately, to live truthfully and to speak truthfully in this American culture is seen as something as so courageous and it really shouldn’t have to be lauded as a courageous act to be living as a real person. And unfortunately it gets so many applause, “Oh you’re so courageous to say that, oh you’re so courageous to do that, oh you’re so courageous to speak that” and it’s really just called being truthful.  And so joyful courage is really just living in our naturally truthful selves and because we’re short on truth right about now, even more so in our country then it lets us know we are living away from and in contradiction to our natural selves which our natural selves are truthful.

So if we’re just our natural selves, truthful is the way we operate. So, a joyfully courageous woman has just remembered who she is and shed the false, poisonous, faulty beliefs about who she is, which are really lies, and she’s just living in the natural beauty, power and influence that is consistent with her divine design.”

Resources:

Free Gifts from Debrena’s website
Debrena’s books, courses and more

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Eps 159: Solo show exploring the power and messiness of Positive Discipline

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  • Belong significance

  • Iceberg

  • Encouragement

  • Kind and firm

  • Presence/seeing/listening

 What I have learned over time

  • My own beliefs get in the way

  • Fear manifests as control and rigidity

  • Trust is the theme of my life

What it means to have a practice

  • Taking care of me

  • Exploring worthiness

  • Developing intention

  • Modeling what I want

  • Returning to the basics

  • Check assumptions

  • Read and learn about development!

    • What speaks to you???

    • So many people and programs…. What/who makes sense to you? Where do you feel seen?

Things to keep in mind

  • There is no perfect

  • Spirituality/energetics matter – this is bigger than me

  • Its messy, not formulaic

  • Blame serves no one

  • There is no end point

  • Finding a sense of peace inside of the chaos is life goals

  • Comparing is not useful – ever

You are the parent your child picked, not because you are perfect, but because you are you. Parenting is an opportunity to heal old wounds, to mend relationships, and grow as an individual, if you let it be

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Participants will gain confidence and clarity, as well as practical tools for navigating the parenting journey with love, connection and presence through deepening their understanding of Positive Discipline.

The power and momentum of learning inside of a like-minded community, a safe space where you can stretch, share authentically, and show up vulnerably is hard to quantify. The Joyful Courage Academy was created to be that place for you. It is a deep dive into the work of becoming ever more conscious and intentional as you bump up against the challenges of raising your kids.

Sign up now – www.joyfulcourage.com/academy

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Eps 158: Kimberly Muench talks about the tight rope walk of raising teens

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Today’s guest is Kim Muench. She is a JAI Institute for Parenting certified parenting coach who works with moms of preteens and teenagers. She is the mother of 5 kids ages 13-31. She writes about conscious parenting, provides one on one coaching and workshops to help support moms towards intentional parenting. We are discussing detaching from the outcome. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-When children arrive at adolescence

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- The balance of boundaries and relationship building with our teens

- Choosing your battles

- Defining your family values

- Setting an example for your kids

- Defining non-negotiables

- Ways to offer choices to your teenager

- Detaching from the outcome

- Prioritizing personal care and personal development

- The illusion of control

- Individuation and what that can look like

- Supporting our kids in making better choices with alcohol

- Being okay with kids failing or things taking longer

- Trusting vs hovering - learning to detach

- Taking a long view to your relationship with your kids

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage means to me enthusiastically embracing and supporting the journey of our sons and daughters that have come into the world to live out their journey. Supporting and encouraging them with enthusiasm. And I love the two words together, I think it’s fantastic.

Resources:

Episode 82: Tweens and Smart Phones

Where to find:

Website

Facebook

Twitter

Facebook Group Real Life Parenting Community

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A Mother’s Journey Home to Herself is an invitation for deep personal inquiry, while practicing tools for deepening relationship with ourselves and our family, resulting in more cooperation and ease and joy during this exceptionally time of our lives.

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Eps 157: SOLO SHOW - Back to school musings with Casey - stress, routines and being more aware

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Woohoo – how is YOUR back to school? This episode acknowledges what we are all going through as we support our kids and ourselves in coming back to a back to school routine.

I know, it is hard to shake off the summer. But that is what is happening. I share about my own experience with sending off two kids to two very different school settings, and what is coming up for me as they navigate the transition.

And the navigation is still VERY MUCH ALIVE!!

 I mention tools and strategies for finding peace and flow, or at least dull the roar of making this shift, and I am so happy you are listening in!!

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Many of us become mothers and we get caught tending needs of our family, or homes and our community, and struggle to find ways to move our personal growth and wellbeing up the priority list. This weekend retreat will allow you the opportunity to explore self-care rituals that will help you reset and feel renewed, and give you nurturing tools you can incorporate into your daily life far beyond our time together – so that you can feel more ease, peace, connection and joy in the every day.

A Mother’s Journey Home to Herself is an invitation for deep personal inquiry, while practicing tools for deepening relationship with ourselves and our family, resulting in more cooperation and ease and joy during this exceptionally time of our lives.

Find out more and register now à http://www.joyfulcourage.com/mjweekend/

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Eps 156: Heather Chauvin Finds Herself Through Teaching her Children Meditation and Returning to Health

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Today’s guest is Heather Chauvin. Heather Chauvin has been named the next generation’s thought leader in parenting and women’s leadership. Her mission is to crack women open to their deep potential. Heather is a TEDx speaker and the creator of the Mom Is In Control podcast and has been featured on the OWN network, Huffington Post, TV outlets and others. With wit and wisdom, Heather inspires a global community of women to take back control of their lives and evolve how they want to lead, work, play and parent. We are discussing mindful meditation. Join us!

"There was always this contrast of who I wanted to be in the world versus who everyone else thought I should be."

“We can’t get our children’s respect unless we respect our children and deeper than that, we need to learn to respect ourselves.”

“Mindful meditation to me means awareness. Simple awareness.”

“Really, it’s about doing less.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

- The importance of mindfulness for parents and kids

-  Sustainable ambition theory - Survival Mode, Momentum, Thrival Mode

-  Learning to live outside of survival mode

-  Meditation as a tool in parenting and life

- Why it’s easier to teach a child to meditate than an adult

- Co-creation as mindfulness

- Mindfulness for older kids

- Parenting as emotional growth on steroids

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- The value of quiet

- Listening to your child without trying to fix them as mindfulness

- Giving yourself permission to let go of how things look

- The responsibility of personal growth and the intergenerational impacts

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Being yourself, simply put. Being yourself and having the courage to figure out who that is and what that feels like and just keep going after the things that light you up, because that’s joy and it’s going to be uncomfortable to do that.

Resources:

Heather’s TEDx talk

Teach Your Kid To Meditate

 

Where to find Heather:

Website

Mom is in Control Podcast

Instagram

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A Mother’s Journey Home to Herself is an invitation for deep personal inquiry, while practicing tools for deepening relationship with ourselves and our family, resulting in more cooperation and ease and joy during this exceptionally time of our lives.

Find out more and register now à http://www.joyfulcourage.com/mjweekend/

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Eps 155: SOLO SHOW! Casey is on Deep Diving into Intuition

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SOLO SHOW – woohoo

Let’s talk about intuition today…. Well, I am going to J

·      Connecting dots with Eps 154 Dan Siegel interview

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·      The ability to sift through the experience you’re having and everything that is calling inside of you – and create space to show up as our best selves

·      We all have an inner knowing, inner voice – where we can tap into deep wisdom

·      Making sense of our spiritual experience

·      Finding intuition while navigating my parenting

·      How conditioning supports/gets in the way

·      How do we tease apart intuition from fear/conditioning/doubt

·      “What if the first hit is true?”

·      “What if our stories and experiences are offered to us to develop our intuition?”

·      Growing our “hub of awareness” requires practice

·      PRACTICE MATTERS

·      Becoming an outside observer takes practice

·      We move towards what is familiar

·      Sacred Contracts Caroline Myss

·      Trust

·      What happens when we choose in to the practice of developing space for our intuition?

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Many of us become mothers and we get caught tending needs of our family, or homes and our community, and struggle to find ways to move our personal growth and wellbeing up the priority list. This weekend retreat will allow you the opportunity to explore self-care rituals that will help you reset and feel renewed, and give you nurturing tools you can incorporate into your daily life far beyond our time together – so that you can feel more ease, peace, connection and joy in the every day.

A Mother’s Journey Home to Herself is an invitation for deep personal inquiry, while practicing tools for deepening relationship with ourselves and our family, resulting in more cooperation and ease and joy during this exceptionally time of our lives.

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Eps 154: Dr. Dan Siegel Discussing the Science of Being Present

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Today’s guest is Doctor Dan Siegel. Dan is a clinical professor of Psychiatry at the UCLA school of Medicine and the founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Centre at UCLA. He is also the Executive Director of the Mindsight Institute which focuses on the development of Mindsight, teaches insight, empathy and integration in individuals, families and communities. Dr. Siegel has published extensively for the professional and lay audiences. We are discussing his new book: Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence. Join us!

"The most important gift we can give our kids is showing up with our mental presence, not just physically being present but to have the state of awareness and open to who they actually are."

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"Presence is a state of perceptive awareness."

"Information is transformation."

"You have the ability to cultivate the presence of mind through these very simple and accessible practices that are going to bring health to your body, slow the aging process, reduce stress, all these positive things and the same exact process, developing your hub of your wheel of awareness, presence, can actually deeply enrich the way your child is soaking in his or her relationship with you and developing this experience of being seen, of being soothed, of being safe, of being secure that research shows is exactly what your child needs to optimize how they go out into life, and that's something you're empowered to create."

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-The wheel of awareness: what it is and how it helps  
-How awareness impacts your body and health  
-How being present impacts the speed of the aging process
-Wellbeing and how it is enhanced by being present
-Relationships with your kids and how being present improves it
-Cultivating awareness
-Role modeling resilience
-How awareness feeds connection vs control
-Impacts of a lack of structure on the brain and future of children
-Authoritative parenting vs Authoritarian parenting
-Why we need the village and how that creates stress for contemporary parents
-Finding joy, tranquility and connection through expanding awareness
-Flipping our lid, learning from our body's signals and how awareness can help
-Monitoring and modifying for self-regulation and to improve responses to stress
-The 3 O's what they mean

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage, to me, means having the presence of mind to dive into this receptive state of awareness, this hub of the wheel, to tap into the power of being connected with whatever arises inside of you, this kind of "bring it on" attitude, that's the courage. And the joy that arises as you liberate yourself from what a lot of us get imprisoned by which is "I have to control everything" instead, with presence, you let things emerge within you and then you let integration, connecting with your child, for example, in ways that are filled with love and connection that is honoring who your child is, honoring yourself too, but then linking together with compassionate, close relationships. That's what I think joyful courage and courageous joy is all about.

Resources:

Mind, A Journey To The Heart of Being Human
Brainstorm, The Power and purpose of the teenage brain
The Whole Brain Child
No Drama Discipline
The Yes Brain
Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence
The Telomere Effect by Elizabeth Blackburn

Where to find Dr. Siegel:

Facebook | Twitter | Youtube | Instagram | LinkedIn

Website
Mindsight Institute
UCLA Mindful Research Centre

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Many of us become mothers and we get caught tending needs of our family, or homes and our community, and struggle to find ways to move our personal growth and wellbeing up the priority list. This weekend retreat will allow you the opportunity to explore self-care rituals that will help you reset and feel renewed, and give you nurturing tools you can incorporate into your daily life far beyond our time together – so that you can feel more ease, peace, connection and joy in the every day.

A Mother’s Journey Home to Herself is an invitation for deep personal inquiry, while practicing tools for deepening relationship with ourselves and our family, resulting in more cooperation and ease and joy during this exceptionally time of our lives.

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Eps 153: Yoga as a Parenting Tool With Naomi Gottlieb-Miller

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Today’s guest is Naomi Gottlieb-Miller. She is a mom, yoga teacher, self-care advocate, Air Force spouse and Star Trek nerd. She is passionate about working with busy moms and empowering them to take better care of themselves so they can re-write the story of what healthy motherhood feels like. She loves to make yoga fun and accessible for everyone she works with. Naomi is passionate about helping people find space for their daily yoga practice. We are discussing yoga, self care and parenting.

Join us!

"Yoga is not just what you do on your mat but it's how you live your life." 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

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  • Parallels between yoga and parenting
  • Self exploration in yoga and parenting
  • How what we read influences our perception of how we parent
  • Making decisions about what matters to us vs what we "should" do
  • Yoga on social media and competition
  • The five second rule and how it relates to self-care
  • Habit change personality types
  • Yoga as a practice and how it relates to ego
  • The difference between simple and easy
  • Feeling into action and engaging - in yoga and parenting
  • Being with the discomfort in parenting and yoga
  • Therapeutic irritation and holding space and identifying appropriate times for release
  • Creating conscious conversations with our kids
  • Baby steps for starting yoga
  • Starting small as a way to inspire more future
  • What is a mantra and why is it helpful?

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Part of the reason that I was so jazzed to be featured on this podcast is I love the idea of Joyful Courage. When I think about Joyful Courage, there's a part of me that's actually reminded of a dear friend of mine who died, not to get all dark and sad but she loved climbing mountains. She was 6 feet tall and basically all Amazon woman, and she would just take on everything with this zest for life, you know, in everything that she did, whether it was climbing mountains or trying to raise a puppy or doing stream samples, checking water, it was just with this absolute utter joy but she was also, she would take on these challenges with this, "Life is meant to be lived." And so she passed away actually in 2005, so it's been quite a long time, she was young, she was 23, she had not yet turned 24, it was the same year I got my yoga teacher training and I try to live my life with that spirit now, with the idea of this zest for life. That things are going to be hard, things are going to be challenging, but damn it, I'm going to climb that mountain because if I didn't, how would I feel? If I didn't what would my life really feel like to me? And so that's the thing that I try to teach my kids and it's really challenging sometimes to encourage them to climb mountains, my kids are five and not yet two, but I want to share with them, because my five year old has that in her, she has that unquenchable thirst for life and she is so joyful and I think of her when I think of Joyful Courage. I think of this idea that life is meant to be lived and it is not easy and there are challenges but those mountains are meant to be climbed, no matter what. And so I try to impart that to my kids even in the really mundane moments when we are sitting at home and watching tv instead of outside climbing a mountain but it's like, "What do you want to do? How do you want to live your life?" Joyful Courage, I think that is a beautiful vision of how I want to move through the world.

Resources:

Naomi’s introductory Yoga videos on her Youtube channel NaomiGottliebMiller

Where to find:

Website | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube: NaomiGottliebMiller

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Eps 152: No More Mean Girls With Katie Hurley

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Today’s guest is Katie Hurley. She is a child and adolescent psychotherapist specializing in anxiety disorders and stress and learning differences and author. She is the author of The Happy Kid Handbook and No More Mean Girls. She runs empowerment groups for girls. We are discussing girls and their relationships. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-The changing landscape in the world of girls and bullying

-Why these relationship challenges are starting earlier than ever

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-Toxic competition and how it impacts relationships between girls

-How conditioning for high achievement can impact girls

-Shifts in educational expectations and how that affects children

-How attitudes towards sports have changed and what that has meant for girls

-Social emotional learning and the expectation it should happen at home vs. at school

-Belonging and significance in relationships between girls

-How building empathy can be helpful

-The Iceberg Metaphor and how it relates to conflict between girls

- Protective instincts and how they impact coaching empathy and understanding

-Clique behaviors and how they can impact girls

-Modelling those behaviors as parents and exercising compassion in moments of frustration

-Social media culture and how it removes safe spaces at home from interpersonal conflict between kids

-Checking off the boxes and how it can create overwhelm

-How not letting kids make choices can create stress and cause problems later in life

-The importance of coping skills and raising kindness warriors

-The impact of how we talk about school shooters and how that impacts their in-school relationships

-How social engineering by parents can impact our girls

-Understanding where parental interference in interests and social relationships can affect them

-Peer pressure among parents to "check the boxes" for our kids in terms of their extracurricular activities

-How labels affect and limit our girls

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

To me, it just means being joyful about taking great leaps. It's okay wherever you land. Know that you're okay wherever you land and you can always make adjustments and give it another shot.

Resources:

The Happy Kid Handbook | No More Mean Girls

Where to find Katie:

PracticalKatie.com | Facebook | Twitter

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Come to Baltimore in July 28th!!  Super excited to be circling up with mama’s to bring more connection, self growth and discovery to the community there! More info can be found at www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

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Eps 151: Bias, Privilege and How White Women Can Do Better With Danielle Slaughter

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My guest today is Danielle Slaughter. Danielle is an Academic turned mommy. She has Bachelors of Arts from the University of Michigan-Ann Arbor and a Masters of Arts in English from Georgia State University. With a doctoral background in English, focusing on Rhetoric and Composition, Danielle likes to call herself and mothers like her “Mamademics”. Mamademics is a merging of her two “careers”–motherhood and academia. She lives in Atlanta with her husband and two sons were she runs both of her businesses Mamademics and Raising an Advocate.

Danielle has an award-winning blog as well as composition work. She is a 2015 recipient of the Type-A Parent’s We Still Blog Award. A 2016 recipient of the Conference on  College Composition and Communications Scholar for the Dream Award. A BlogHer Voices of the Year Winner for 2016 and 2017. As well as a two-time nominee for an Iris Award for Most Engaging Content (2017 and 2018).

I found Danielle this past spring when I was searching for the voices of POC in the parenting world. If you listened to episode 142 you know that I made a pledge to search out a variety of voices and personalities to come and be on the show. Danielle does really important work, and I recently completed a course she offers called “Raising an Advocate” – Danielle has written a lot about the role white women play in raising social justice advocates, as well as the power white women also have to get in the way of social justice….

What you’ll hear in this episode:

- What implicit bias is

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- How Implicit bias is related to privilege

-The struggle people have to understand privilege when they are disenfranchised

- Representation and privilege

- The most dangerous person in America

- Understanding consent

- Systemic barriers to parental participation in PTO

-Ways white people can be allies to people of color

-Learning from each other through openness

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I did a lot of research for this one. I have a prepared response. Your page says that Joyful Courage is about showing up grateful for the opportunity to practice being our best selves, even when it is hard to do and for me, that is exactly what the work of raising advocates looks like. Being grateful that we can do better than the generations before us while acknowledging that this work is not easy. You have to have the courage to work through your own biases and find joy in knowing that your children are learning from you.

Resources:

“I Raise Boys Nothing Scares Me”: So, Yea That’s A Lie
The Most Dangerous Person In America Is The White Woman
Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind: Why White Moms Need To Care About Murdered Black Children
Raising An Advocate course

Where to find Danielle:
Mamademics on Facebook
Mamademics on Instagram
Mamademics on Twitter

Mamademics website
Mamademics Academy on Facebook

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Small group coaching  

4 weeks
4 participants
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Mother’s Journey BALTIMORE

Come to Baltimore in July 28th!!  Super excited to be circling up with mama’s to bring more connection, self growth and discovery to the community there! More info can be found at www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

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Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

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Eps 150: Solo Show! Getting Real About Transitioning Into Summer

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I am on speaking directly from the tranches…. Feeling the stretch and pull of raising adolescent kids. Kind and firm, yes, and IT’S HARD!!  Moving into summer and thinking about routines and agreements.

Enjoy!

Eps 96: Melissa Benaroya talks Summer Routines and Structures

Eps 129: Solo Show - Using the Iceberg Metaphor to Understand Behavior

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Small group coaching  

4 weeks
4 participants
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Mother’s Journey BALTIMORE

EARLY BIRD PRICE THROUGH June 15th!

Come to Baltimore in July 28th!!  Super excited to be circling up with mama’s to bring more connection, self growth and discovery to the community there! More info can be found at www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes

Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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Eps 149: Lindsay McCarthy Teaches Us How to Bring Miracle Mornings to our Families

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Today’s guest is Lindsay McCarthy, author of The Miracle Morning For Parents and Families.  Lindsay is a homeschooling mama with two children, a writer and the founder of GratefulParent.com. We are discussing how you can integrate The Miracle Morning For Parents and Families into your day. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-How The Miracle Morning For Parents And Families came to be

-What the Miracle Morning includes

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-How to involve your kids in your Miracle Morning

-The power of waking on your own terms

-How waking up early adds capacity for parents to expand their emotional resources

-The value of unstructured play and creating as a practice for kids

-Creativity, Health, Affirmations, Reading, Meditation and Service, and how they can help kids start their day off right

-Habit stacking as a way to build a Miracle Morning

-How a Miracle Morning can help you look at bedtime routine

-Building flexibility into your Miracle Morning

-Starting small with habit changes

-How to encourage older kids to participate

-Combining components of the Miracle Morning to save time

-Trying a Miracle Evening as an alternative               

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

To me, courage it means being afraid but doing it anyways. Like, writing a book, for example. And then the joyful part of that is just allowing it to really fill you up and spread light to the world. Stepping into your own light and your own power and doing the things you're afraid to do anyway.

Resources:

The Miracle Morning For Parents and Families
The Miracle Morning for College Students
The Miracle Morning

Where to find Lindsay:

GratefulParent.com
Facebook Group - Miracle Morning For Parents And Families

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Small group coaching

4 weeks
4 participants
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 Check it out à www.joyfulcourage.com/living-jc

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Mother’s Journey BALTIMORE

Come to Baltimore in July 28th!!  Super excited to be circling up with mama’s to bring more connection, self growth and discovery to the community there! More info can be found at www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes

Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

 What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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Eps 148: Solo Show - Teasing Apart the External experience from the Internal Experience

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Solo Show – woop woop! It is all me today people, and I am so excited to be sharing some powerful thoughts and experiences with you today.

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  • Wading through our experience to support out children
  • The writing process
  • Going deeper into what parents can uncover/discover for themselves
  • We have an external experience of raising kids – everything that happens outside of us
  • We also are having an internal experience – the ways that our physical body feels, sensations, also the emotional experience that we are having, what gets brought up by the external stimuli
  • External and internal are both happening at the same time
  • Based on what our experiences have been in life, our relationships in life, we have a lens that we see the world out of
  • Sometimes the internal response “works” for us
  • We have a well wired survival system – amygdala – but our survival system isn’t always what is needed in our daily life
  • The pendulum swing of raising/living with teens – everything is great until it is not, parents are the anchor that witness/hold space and it’s hard to remember that the behavior is a pendulum swing. Connect /loving vs dysregulation/discouragement
  • We (parents) go into “fix it” mode
  • Alternative – recognizing what is happening physically in my body, seeing what is happening for me, what is the lens I am looking out of?
  • Fear – tension in the body – belly/jaw
  • When kids feel discouraged, they tend to want to share the feeling with others
  • Looking below the surface - the iceberg metaphor
  • Today is a reminder that there is so much going on under the surface…. Curiosity as a guide AND it’s ok and important to recognize where you are at physically/emotionally and taking a pause to get yourself together

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Small group coaching

4 weeks
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Check it out à www.joyfulcourage.com/living-jc

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Mother’s Journey BALTIMORE

EARLY BIRD PRICE THROUGH June 15th!

Come to Baltimore in July 28th!!  Super excited to be circling up with mama’s to bring more connection, self growth and discovery to the community there! More info can be found at www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes

Intention Bracelets

 

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need? 

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

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Eps 147: Empowered Stepmothering (and mothering in general...) wth Nathalie Savell

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Today’s guest is Nathalie Savell of the Empowering Stepmoms Summit. Natalie is a holistic psychotherapist, a certified holistic health coach and a certified stepmom coach. She sees psychotherapy clients dealing with anxiety and life transition challenges, relationship issues and spiritual disease in person, via video chat and through walk and talk sessions in Baltimore, Maryland and coaches stepmoms virtually to help them go from overwhelm, confusion, stress and resentment to confidence, clarity and connection. We are discussing thriving in step parenting. Join us!

“People have more power than they think. I hear a lot of stepmoms feel so out of control and so disempowered by the ex, the kids, whatever their partner is doing and there is support out there."

"It doesn't take as much as you think to get on a path that's a lot more helpful that makes you feel a lot more empowered."

"Get the support that you need and deserve. Reach out and get it."

What you’ll hear in this episode:

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-The mind body connection

-Flexibility and how that relates to kindness and firmness

-The Think Tree exercise and how that facilitates flexibility with boundaries

-Building connection in step-parenting

-Control and step-parenting - finding balance

-Adjusting from step-parenting to raising one's own child

-Parenting and commitment

-Co- parenting as a stepmom when the child's other parent doesn't want them to participate

-Establishing boundaries for self care

-Giving yourself permission to have feelings about your stepkids and not feeling pressured to feel loving all the time

-The value of couple work in being a united front

-Finding bottom line things you agree on and where your boundaries are

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I love the term Joyful Courage so much. It's like the courage to keep doing the work. The courage to keep going and you know, I call the stepmoms in my group "stepmom warriors" some times because I'm like "You're a warrior, keep fighting, keep going, fighting the good fight to be a loving person." For me, it's like a spiritual warrior for being on a path of love. It takes a lot of courage because it's not easy and a lot of people are going to judge you. And a lot of people are going to naysay you. And to add in that joy in there, so not only are you being brave and courageous, and like keep putting one foot in front of the other but how can you have fun while doing it and why not? So why not peel back the layers and see how you can be childlike in your battles, in your love battles. I think we all need to be that way, to have fun, so it's important to take things lightly at the same time that you work hard at them.

Resources:

Interview series on NathalieSavell.com

Where to find Nathalie:

Nathaliesavell.com
Stepmom Strong Coaching group on Facebook
Stepmom Strong Facebook page
Stepmom Strong Coaching on Instagram

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Mother’s Journey BALTIMORE

EARLY BIRD PRICE THROUGH June 15th!

Come to Baltimore in July 28th!!  Super excited to be circling up with mama’s to bring more connection, self growth and discovery to the community there! More info can be found at www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes

Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

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