Eps 106: Becoming Calm Responders with Alexandra Hughes

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World traveler, calm seeker, mom coach, multi-lingual speaker, Alexander Hughes, brings us her methods for supporting mamas in the chaos that is parenthood. The trials and tribulations of her own experience in motherhood would eventually fuel the passion of support she gives to other moms navigating the same road.  Alex has created a soft space for mamas feeling out of control to find their rhythm and calm. At her website inneressencecoaching.com one has access to her workshops, authentic words of wisdom and that much needed place to connect with someone who gets it.  With three kids and a handful of international moves Alex knows what it means to feel out of control in the mama chaos – which is why she has turned over every rock to find that much needed calm. We really should just make her wear a cape.

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What you will hear in this episode:

  • Alex’s journey into and out of chaos
  • An experience of transitions from a working professional to working mom to stay at home mom and back to working mom
  • Our vision vs. our reality
  • Why finding calm is so important as a mother
  • The importance of mother’s nurturing a relationship with self
  • Identifying patterns and models in current parenting
  • Understanding where patterns and models come from
  • Understanding the internal work necessary to tackle patterns & models
  • How we set ourselves up and why this can ultimately lead to chaos
  • Changing how we see the road – going from linear to cyclical
  • Understanding the cycles through life
  • Awareness of what we model for our kids
  • Access to tools 1) manage stress 2) manage anger 3) creating a life for yourself that are aligned with values and self loving
  • How our words create expectations for the inner child
  • Where courage lies
  • Summary of how Alex helps mamas on the road to calm - #1 Internal Work #2 External Work
  • Self Care – is about “doing stuff that lights you up”
  • Calm responding wisdom & tools

Quotes:

“When you have kids and you're a stay-at-home mom and you have stay-at-home parents, checking those boxes and feeling that sense of achievement doesn’t always happen”. 6:34

“Models and patterns live deep inside of me based on my own childhood and my own experiences”. 11:16

“Create a new best friend voice that is going to support us in the choices we are going to make”. 12:06

“If we can switch from that and seeing these mistakes, those blowups as opportunities to reconnect with your kid, teach your kid, learn yourself”. 20:28

“It’s your job to love yourself and to practice self care and self love because your children are watching you. AND you are a better everything when you do”. 43:04

What does Joyful Courage mean to you:

“I think that you need to be courageous to be a conscious mom, to practice positive parenting, or to take that journey toward calm responding. It’s about opening yourself up to feelings. It’s about treating those moments as learning opportunities when you do ‘make those mistakes’. When you open yourself up, you need to be courageous to be vulnerable. Once you do that it opens up this space for connection, which without there would be no joy”.

Where to find Alex:

Website
Facebook
Linkedin


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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

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Eps 105: Solo Show, A Visit with my 11 Year Old, Shifting our Lens

Practice, practice, practice. There is no other way to really move into how we want to BE. Practice is the key. The beauty of choosing and moving through practice is we discover new ideas, concepts and understandings that make our practice more enjoyable AND dare I say magical. In this episode we dig a little deeper into the idea of using our lens to take us to where we want to go. When toddling through different lenses we can shift this practice even deeper.  We are joined by Ian O’Roarty, tween extraordinaire, into the lens of his practice through making amends. Listen and see how many fruitful lenses you discover.

What you will hear:

  • iTunes reviews – yay!! Thank you!!
  • Ian is my guest to talk about what making amends looks and feels like from an 11 year old perspective
  • Power of perception
  • Moving into the perception of being a new sibling
  • What might that look like to a toddler?
  • How we collect evidence to support our perception
  • What will we choose in the practice of collecting evidence?
  • Is our evidence creating our fears? OR is our evidence helping us move through how we want to be?

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Essential Oils

It’s all about the peppermint this week. I played with using this essential oil to increase my focus and concentration when it was time to WORK.

** I am not an expert – I am learning and sharing with you as I go.  DO YOUR RESEARCH TO STAY SAFE!!

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

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Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Eps 104: Kristin Hovious is on talking about making amends and repairing relationships

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Kristin Hovious is a committed teacher with over a decade of experience in vocational, adult education, serving Chicago’s Cortiva Institute as both Education Director (2007-2008) and Adjunct Faculty Member (2006-2017.)  Her training as a massage therapist and yoga teacher provides a foundation and love for anatomy and science of human development.

As a Positive Discipline Certified Trainer, Kristin, combines a career of teaching and serving with her passion for creating mutually respectful environments for families, children, classrooms and schools. In her collaboration with teachers, administrations and families, Kristin’s goal is to help facilitate opportunities for adults and students to become compassionate leaders, with the hope that doing so will help build more peaceful communities. Kristin has served on the Positive Discipline Association Board of Directors as a Consultant since 2016.

What you will hear in this episode:

  • Kristin’s journey into Positive Discipline (PD)
  • How PD grew in the Hovious’ Home and the challenges that came with learning a new way
  • How teaching anatomy in her career paved the way for curiosity in neuroscience
  • Understanding how emotions and behaviors influence connection
  • Discussion on ‘kind and firm’ rephrasing as ‘connection and accountability’ and why
  • Why shifting society’s idea of mistakes and punishments lacks ability to repair
  • Understanding mistakes as opportunities to learn
  • How repairing is a practice and it has the power to transform our relationships
  • Mistakes lead to repairing opportunities
  • Kristin walks us through four steps in healthy repair
  • Relatable examples from Kristin’s own life help us empathize and feel supported in our own challenges
  • Modeling is key
  • Sticking to our agendas is a way we move away from connection
  • When we repair relationships we have the power to heal connections
  • Diving into our parenting pain so we can make amends
  • Discomfort is a place to get curious, not a place to get stuck

 “I don’t think repairing relationships comes naturally or easy to us. It is practice”.

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

What Joyful courage means to me is that there is a consistent opportunity to practice repair.  That is always worth it - it’s so important in the whole trajectory in our lives together as human beings.  If we can be joyful in repair then maybe we can also turn the corner and be joyful about mistakes”.

Where to find Kristin:

Selchicago.com


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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle and Portland events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Eps 103: Solo Show Digging Under the Surface of Bedtime Challenges

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Who needs sleep? If you think about your best parenting moments vs. your more challenging ones I think we could venture to say that sleep OR lack of sleep would be a BIG contender.  We have all been there. We move fluidly through that familiar bedtime routine, finish that last Llama Llama page, kisses, lights out….. We are no further from the kitchen when we hear “Mooooooooooom”!!! or Daaaaaaadddddeeeeeeeeeeee”! Sigh.

Mama Christine posted this week about her daughter’s sleep struggles “oh, tribe, apologies for the long post, but I'm in dire need of some help. bedtime. dear lord, my daughter is 5, and it. is. brutal. her bedroom is on the first floor, mine is upstairs. she's often hungry before bedtime, so we usually do a snack like high fat yogurt and fruit. after bedtime jobs are done, i read to her, we sing, and say our goodnights...generally 20ish minutes. nearly every night, she's out of bed for any number of 'reasons': need to say goodnight to the dog, still hungry, thirsty, needs to say something to me, needs to ask me a question, needs another hug, says she can't sleep (within minutes of me leaving her bedroom) and the list goes on”. 

Christine is not alone here, otherwise there would not be a book called Go the F@ck to Sleep . Let’s break this struggle down, so Christine can get some sleep and her little one can feel peaceful slumber.

What you will hear:

·      Iceberg view – top of the iceberg; requests, getting our of bed, one last… Under the surface; belonging and significance, influence, connection

·      Mischief showing up when we have misguided ideas about belonging and significance

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·      Getting curious, noticing lack of skills to complete task (ie going to sleep)

·      Getting curious so we can be solution minded, see where child has influence

·      Children long for connection, they settle for attention

·      Creating routines that help kids know what is happening and allowing them to have influence

·      Making agreements to help kids create boundaries

·      What is my child’s perspective?

·      Asking how am I feeding this problem?

Link to Deborah MacNamara

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Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Eps 102: Learning How Tears Heal with Kate Orson, Hand in Hand Parenting Instructor

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Kate Orson is a Hand in Hand parenting instructor, and author of Tears Heal: How To Listen To Children is on the podcast today! Originally from the UK she now lives in Basel, Switzerland, with her husband, author Toni Davidson, and their four year old daughter Ruby.

You can find her work in parenting magazines including The Green Parent, Juno and Smallish.

What you’ll hear in this episode:
 

•           An introduction to Hand in Hand Parenting

•           Children’s natural healing abilities

•           Helping to attune to a child in a calm manner

•           The benefits of crying

•           Need for cortisol to be released from a stressful event

•           It’s crucial children have safe space to release stress

•           How to find ways to connect, special time

•           Learn to listen to your children’s emotions

•           Signs to look for in distressed children

•           Getting out of our need to “fix it” or “stop it” response

•           Children will release on their own terms

•           Be available and take an interest in them

 

Quotes:

“I think our entire culture has this mental block when it comes to crying."

“I came across this different way of listening to the emotions. It’s reframing the way we view tears. It’s about listening and allowing the feelings."

“Children need safety to let go of feelings."

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“I would say parenting is really really hard work. Sometimes we make mistakes and it may seem really hard to get up the next day and embrace it as a fresh day.  We should have the Joyful Courage to embrace the challenges of parenting”.

Where to find Kate:

website I Facebook I Twitter

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Young Living Essential Oil

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Eps 101: Casey is Solo with Wisdom from an 8 Year Old on the Power of Offers/Counter Offers

One of my favorite parenting tools, which fully connects our kids to significance and belonging, is the offer and the counter-offer.  Casey and her very special guest, Malaney, discuss the best way to use offers and counter-offers.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

·      My eight year old niece chimes in on why having the option to counter offer helps her feel happy
·      Imagine aligning your vision of boundaries and expectations with that of your child’s
·      Building life long skills in processing, communicating and self confidence
·      An effective tool that helps build feelings of belonging and significance
·      What are non-negotiables vs.negotiables
·      How opening up the opportunity for your child to have a voice will help them ease into non-negotiables with healthy cooperation

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Young Living Essential Oil

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Eps 100: Dr. Tina Bryson Supports Us With Brain Informed Parenting

Dr. Tina Payne Bryson is the co-author (with Dan Siegel) of two New York Times bestsellers:  The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline.  She is the Executive Director of the Center for Connection in Pasadena, CA and a pediatric and adolescent psychotherapist.  She keynotes conferences and conducts workshops for parents, educators, and clinicians all over the world.  Dr. Bryson earned her Ph.D. from the University of Southern California, where her research explored attachment science, childrearing theory, and the emerging field of interpersonal neurobiology.  You can learn more about her at TinaBryson.com, where you can subscribe to her blog and read her articles about kids and parenting.

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  • How Dr. Dan Siegal and Tina collaborated on THE WHOLE-BRAINED CHILD
  • How science can help guide parents in really profound ways
  • Programs, communities and in which Dr. Bryson’s work is taught
  • The importance of HOW are parent shows up to the nervous system of a developing child
  • How getting CURIOUS with your child creates gateways into building important life skills and self regulation
  • How making ASSUMPTIONS delays or stops tool building; ie, taking behavior personal, over explaining behavior, making character assumptions, if they did it once they should be able to consistently complete task/request
  • Paying attention to a developing nervous system
  • If the nervous system is not regulated the child cannot have choice over behavior
  • How to influence the nervous system in both self and child
  • Identification of Dr. Bryson and Dr. Siegals emotional “ZONES”; Red Zone, Blue Zone, Green Zone
  • The Frontal Cortex is not developed yet
  • Children do not have the architecture to control “reptilian brain” / “fight or flight” in red or blue zones – difficulty paying attention, learning, regulating
  • Tools/techniques to get in “green zone” – regulated, calm, empathetic, attune
  • Behavior is communicating child’s lack of skills
  • When to seek out professional help
  • Self regulation – be gentle and kind with ourselves (reference Kristin Neff, of self-compassion.org)
  • New techniques require time and PRACTICE
  • Calming strategy when child is disregulated- get BELOW eye level and use soothing words including “I’m right here with you”
  • Brain associates with physical state – floppy noodle technique
  • Body shift can help shift emotions
  • How discipline is teaching
  • We need to give children tools not take them away
  • Thoughts on consequences
  • Key actions of soothing, connection, problem-solving, playfulness and being pro-active build a “whole-brained” child
  • How to recognize our own “zones” and practice getting/staying into “green zone”

What does Joyful Courage mean to me?

“Joyful Courage to me means having the courage to reflect on our own areas of growth and also having the courage to trust development to unfold. Trusting that we are doing a good enough job.”

Where to find Dr. Tina Bryson:

tinabryson.com – infinite resources to put into practice!
Facebook l Twitter

What to watch for:

New books by Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson
The YES Brain -  January 2018
Showing Up – TBD 

Info from the Show:

Lantern Camps
Kristin Neff, of self-compassion.org
Camp Chippewa  http://campchippewa.com/

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Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Eps 99: Casey is Solo Exploring Boundaries, Agreements and Screen Time

Welcome back to the show!

Let me share my own story from the trenches… You aren’t the only one who has kids who act like you are ruining their lives when you ask them to help our around the house…  AND, it is a beautiful thing when your kids turn it around and own their behavior, right? It is a good thing, yes, but I am getting curious about if I am inadvertently raising a people pleaser….?? 

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A question from the community

Mama Denise shares “Literally losing my mind on first day of summer vacation over iPads. I don't have an ounce of energy for a single tool. I'm the worst mom ever, according to my daughter (5y 10mos). And my 7 1/2 yo son "needs this mower" on a farm simulator game. Literally feel like pitching these machines in the dumpster. Thank you for listening.”

These are the struggles where we can release most of the load and pull our kids into co-creation. Casey takes Denise’s familiar scenario and leads us through the practice of intention, presence and solution.

  • Showing up intentionally, rather than reactively
  • Creating intention and applying it to our lens and presence
  • Noticing the ease of intention when the ride is smooth and the rockiness when things fall apart
  • Creating routines that help kids know what is happening and allowing them to have influence
  • Making agreements to help kids create boundaries
  • Identifying needs vs. privileges. ex. Screen time – it is a privilege
  • Privilege comes after contributions
  • Difference between contribution vs. chores
  • A privilege differs from a reward
  • It’s not about “earning”, it’s about “management”
  • Guiding kids to have a voice in solutions when they feel an agreement or routine is not working
  • Seeing the tip of the iceberg and KNOW that beneath the surface is a request for boundaries
  • Allowing children a voice means we hold them as contributors to the cause
  • Children are more likely to follow through when they have a voice in the creation of the agreement
  • Introducing offer and counter offer tool – teaches parent how to let go of agenda, control and rigidity
  • Sharing power when stakes are low

Resources:

Routine Handout
Agreement Handout

Stay Tuned:

Coming up is our 100th Episode!!! I am so pleased and honored to have Tina Payne Bryson PhD, co-author of the Whole Brained Child, on our 100th Episode. 100 y’all! Can you believe it!? Tell your friends, co-workers and neighbors. Remember to subscribe for instant access to new podcasts and automatic access to scrumptious listening from pasts guests!

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Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Eps 98: Kerry Foreman is on Supporting us in What it Means to be Grounded

Kerry Foreman is a Registered Psychotherapist, with her Masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. She is passionate about Mindfulness and has been practicing and teaching for 4 years. Kerry lives in Monument, Colorado with her patient husband, a teenager, a tween and two rescue dogs, Norman and Fern.  Through using Mindfulness to increase her self awareness, she realized that during her childhood she had learned and practiced faulty coping skills. She targeted them one by one, and slowly changed the cycles of her family, learned new behaviors, and worked to create new, positive habits for life. She did this in order to have a successful marriage and to be the kind of Mom she wanted to be. She is passionate about her ability to create change. Change your thinking and it changes your life.

 

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What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Recognition of FOO (Family of Origin) patterns and the call to make changes
  • Psychological/verbal/emotional abuse trains us react rather than respond
  • Noticing patterns such as shame, guilt and anger – where do they originate?
  • Becoming a parent can bring these to the surface. How do we recognize where we need to change?
  • Learning to respond instead if react
  • Understand and reflect on our own parents’ experience
  • Creating change and becoming aware of our own inner state of being
  • Mindfulness practice influences the shift into better relationships
  • How do we become grounded in order to stay balanced and present in mind no matter what is happening around us?
  • Where control plays a role in mindfulness and the contrast in anxiety
  • What do we chose to believe – what is the story we play in our minds?
  • Self talk of being a victim – recognizing the language
  • Expectations of others and how to stay mindful and in control while at the same time releasing what we are not in control of.

What does Joyful Courage mean to me?

“Joyful Courage is finding the joy in being brave enough to parent differently. Finding a new path in order to allow our kids to be who they were meant to be.”

Where to find Kerry:

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Since starting this practice I feel stronger connection with my kinds, I feel a shift in myself,  and I believe I am the perfect mom for my kids…

Other should consider program because the parenting journey is not easy, and it's an ongoing practice. The support and information Casey provides, with emails, webinars, and coaching calls is so beneficial, and she provides it in a way that is easy to understand and put directly in the practice I have also found there is so much value in a tribe of parents sharing experiences, willing to listen, and offering encouragement and it reminds me that I am not alone on this journey.”

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Eps 97: Casey is solo! Connecting before Correcting, Problem Solving and Empowering our Kids

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Casey takes listeners through real scenarios shared by our parenting community. She takes us through the process of connecting before correcting, so that we can create solutions with our kids. She invites listeners to recognize the tools we are using that aren't helpful, and shares how to replace them with tools that help us connect. while also guiding them to work together and find solutions that empower them.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • How to show up and hold space for problem solving with your kids
  • Becoming aware of the rigidity and resistance  when disciplining their kids
  • Recognize that often the best solutions come directly from our kids
  • Becoming aware of non-judgment and non-attachment and understand how this can positively influence the parent/child relationships
  • What does it look like to surrender and how this can become a practice of modeling
  • Understanding their developmentally appropriate behavior is not against parents – it’s their developmental phase.
  • Brain development plays a major role in behaviors. 

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Since starting this practice I feel stronger connection with my kinds, I feel a shift in myself,  and I believe I am the perfect mom for my kids…

Other should consider program because the parenting journey is not easy, and it's an ongoing practice. The support and information Casey provides, with emails, webinars, and coaching calls is so beneficial, and she provides it in a way that is easy to understand and put directly in the practice I have also found there is so much value in a tribe of parents sharing experiences, willing to listen, and offering encouragement and it reminds me that I am not alone on this journey.”

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Eps 96: Melissa Benaroya talks Summer Routines and Structures

Casey invites fellow Positive Discipline Coach, Melissa Benaroya, to discuss surviving Summer Break. In this episode they offer practical tools and solutions to set you and your family up for a successful summer. Two to three months is a long time to keep your kids occupied and stimulated.  Get an insight into the importance of boredom and why you don’t have to plan every single second of your children’s vacation. Tune in and learn how routine and summer coexist to help you have fun too! 

Melissa is a neighbor here in the Pacific Northwest. In addition to being a mother of two, Melissa has a Masters degree in Social Work, is a Credentialed School Counselor and a Certified Gottman Educator. You can find more about Melissa at melissabenaroya.com.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The value in creating a summer consistency so your family knows what to expect.
  • Why routines are not confining but an invitation to freedom.
  • How consistency helps encourages children to manage themselves.
  • Why moments of boredom are necessary and the benefits it offers growing kids!
  • How to use mindfulness when creating a summer schedule.
  • Tools are discussed to set up family agreements on everything from daily schedules to screen time use!
  • You’ll learn how to involve your kids in creating a fun summer everyone will enjoy! 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I think when I hear those two words side by side I think of having the courage to take risks and the joy that can result. Take some risks this summer and encourage your kids to do the same!

Where to find Melissa:

Facebook l Twitter

Her book, “The Childproof Parent” is available on Amazon 

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MELISSA'S WRITING HAS BEEN FEATURED IN: HUFFINGTON POST, PARENTMAP MAGAZINE, & NORTH STATE PARENT MAGAZINE

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Ep 95: Jeanne-Marie Paynel talks Montessori and Positive Discipline

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Just in time for summer – we will be deep diving into creating an intentional vision for how we want to BE for the season ahead. Join the community for 10 days of email inspiration, FB Live groundings, and tools for setting yourself up for a fabulous summer season. Click here to register now.

The first thing that stuck out about our next guest, Jeanne-Marie Paynel is her passion for lifelong learning. In addition to raising two beautiful children, Jeanne-Marie holds a Masters in Education, is the founder and CEO of Voila Montessori and is a Positive Discipline trainer.  After reading Dr. Montessori’s work “The Secret of Childhood” she discovered a passion for guiding children and families in healthy parenting approaches. She wanted parents to appreciate the true importance of their role – not as servants or teachers, but as supporters and guides of their children’s natural development.  This need in the global community prompted her to launch Voila Montessori, an accessible resources to guide parents in the Montesorri tradition and the Positive Discipline approach.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • It’s important to empower our children not enable them
  • Setting up a prepared environment for your children’s learning
  • The Montessori philosophy and how it helps children and families today
  • Ways Positive Discipline and the Montessori method merge to provide support
  • The benefits of a child’s freedom of movement and choice in their own environment
  • Tools to help families nurture their child’s potential
  • How to access Montessori methods and find an appropriate educational environment for your child.

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage – to me for one what comes to mind is being aware of how lucky we are – the practice of gratitude is what brings me great joy. In the context of Montessori, being in awe of what your children are going through, their evolution, their adaptation to the world. Courage is speaking up for what is, and accepting at times that we might be wrong. That we might of not interacted with our child the way that would’ve felt better and to be okay with going to your child and saying “I didn’t like the way I did that” “I’m going to better next time”- It’s courageous for adults to say to a child that “I did something wrong”.  Being aware that we are not perfect and we are learning next to them.

Where to find Jeanne-Marie:

Voila Montessori - http://www.voilamontessori.com/en/

Pinterest l Facebook l YouTube l

21 Positive Discipline Tools

Ebooks and Resources mentioned by Jeanne-Marie

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Ep 94: Julie Stubblefield and I Explore How to Shift to LOVING Our Bodies (and Teaching our Kids to do the Same)

#JoyfulCourage10 is back!

Just in time for summer – we will be deep diving into creating an intentional vision for how we want to BE for the season ahead. Join the community for 10 days of email inspiration, FB Live groundings, and tools for setting yourself up for a fabulous summer season. Click here to register now.

Meet Julie Stubblefield, founder of Fit Mom Revolution. She’s a mother, wife, fitness professional and all around inspiration of strength and confidence in how we care for our bodies. After years of struggling through the all too common yoyo game, Julie found that changing her attitude and perception around nourishing and moving her body she realized her body was whole, not broken. She’s bringing this “aha moment” and sharing it with moms everywhere inspiring a Fit Mom Revolution!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The importance of stepping away from the diet cycle
  • How changing the perception of our bodies will change how we approach the care we give our whole self
  • Having a life you enjoy in a body you love
  • Nourishment and movement are a family practice
  • Giving gratitude around nourishment
  • There is no “one size fits all”, must work for your family
  • Instilling healthy meal time habits for all family members
  • A healthy attitude towards nutrition does not have to be complicated
  • Giving our kids space to share their perception of their body image, and let them explore these feelings

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful courage means taking the approach of curiosity and hope to create a beautiful experience for you and your family. It’s worth going out on a limb for.

Where to find Julie:

– Love Your Bodcast Podcast - subscribe on iTunes and Stitcher Radio

http://www.fitmomrevolution.com/

Pinterest l Facebook l Twitter

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Eps 93: Carly Mentlik Talks About Support our Tween Girls

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Meet Carly Mentlik, tween whisperer. Carly’s vast education and experiences have led her to craft The Inner Rainbow Project.  She coaches parents and caregivers “to help our tween daughters grow up to be the confident, emotionally healthy, self-aware women that they deserve to be”. Nine through pre-teen can be a very challenging time for parents and tweens to navigate. Carly’s passion and guiding light gives parents and caregivers the tools to help navigate this extremely important development phase with ample support.

The world is changing faster and faster every day. We need our girls to have the confidence to speak their truth and live in their authenticity! Carly holds a Masters in Clinical Counseling, dual Bachelors in Special and Elementary Education all from NYU. She is a single mom, Yoga instructor and all around inspiration.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Challenges tween girls navigate
  • Elementary to Middle School transition.
  • Importance of cultivating a strong foundation for girls at this developmental stage.
  • How feelings and emotions are changing and affect your tween and their experience.
  • Tools for helping your tween find self-awareness, acceptance and discovery in a safe and healthy environment.
  • How to address body image and help tweens feel confidence and compassion in/for themselves.
  • The importance of your tweens voice and how to support their expression.
  • How to use creativity and have fun to build connection with your tween.
  • Practical lessons and rituals that help both you and your tween put tools into daily practice.
  • What you can expect from working with Carly.
  • Special introduction to The Chakra Girls!

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Being a mom and being blessed to follow my passion, it is gratitude. It’s terrifying to embark on these things and you need that courage, but it’s with such joy because I am so grateful to have this opportunity to do this work.

Where to find Carly:

https://www.betterhelp.com/carly-mentlik/
https://www.innerrainbowproject.com/

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Eps 92: Jenna Phillips Ballard Talks Fear, and Worth and Shifting to Possibility

Today’s guest is Jenna Phillips Ballard, a certified personal trainer and life coach for celebrities, previously featured on Dr. Phil and The Doctors. She is on a mission to motivate and inspire leaders to make the world a better place through self-love.

After waking up from a coma in the year 2000, she recovered from brain damage and learned about the power of self-love. Her commitment to recovery depended on how she felt about herself and she realized her purpose was to inspire others to break through their limiting beliefs and create an unforgettable life.

She cofounded Ascension Leadership Academy with her husband and together they have coached hundreds of people into their greatness. She’s also the founder of Unicorn University, an online membership community where women never spend another day of being beige, broken or behaved.

We are discussing emotional intelligence – reframing the stories we tell about the experiences in our life and engaging with our children. Join us!

“I believe that being a parent, being a mom or a dad or a parental figure is the most important job in the entire world because of our world, our planet depends upon how our children today are going to take on that responsibility when they become adults. It’s incredibly important that people get the opportunity to look at their life through a different lens. You can’t change the past, but you can absolutely change the story you tell about your past and that’s how you can re-write history”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

·      Compassion as a mindset

·      Finding the lesson, learning and opportunity in parenting struggles

·      How Fear limits mindset and fulfillment

·      Managing Fear and operating in its presence

·      Finding our worthiness beneath all the preconceptions we have about ourselves

·      Selfishness and setting examples for self care – modeling and cycle breaking

·      How to shift your mindset around time, busyness and abundance – reframing how we see time and capacityRef

·      Being an interruption to your own thought patterns that don’t move you forward

·      How to be a “meaning making machine”

·      Reframing typical mom complaints as invitations to conversation

·      Reframing as a practice, shifting your mindset around abundance and asking for support to stretch your plate

·      How to get out of your own way

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful courage means finding the joy and the bliss in any specific circumstance, situation, no matter how scared out of your mind that you are – it’s being courageous, staying in the heart anyways, going for it anyway, because joy is a choice. You get to choose joy.

Resources:

The Power of Now

Where to find Jenna:

Website l Ascension Leadership Academy l (Ascension Facebook, Ascension instagram)

Jenna’s FB Live every Thursday night at 7 PST

Facebook l Instagram l Twitter l Unicorn University 

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Eps 91: Janet Allison, From Boys Alive! is on Supporting us in Raising Our Boys

Today’s guest is Janet Allison, a Waldorf teacher and family coach. We are discussing boys and how they learn. Join us!

“Be aware of his need to move his body. It’s absolutely critical that he have some time before school to move his body.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

·      Gender-based differences in learning styles – the value of kinetic learning when teaching boys
·      How modern teaching methods set our boys up to fail
·      Maturity and developmental differences between genders
·      Expulsion rates of boys vs girls in pre-k
·      Impacts of the learning environment on boys’ self-esteem
·      Optimal learning environments for boys
·      Best age for starting school and the disconnect between intellectual and emotional development
·      Managing expectations of practice vs. mastery
·      Releasing physical energy to support emotional regulation
·      Finding ways to accommodate “wriggly kids” in the classroom
·       Building relationships with your son’s teacher – what questions to ask
·      How to encourage independence and service to others
·      Supporting your child in remembering things
·      Relevance/meaning and learning by doing: educational approaches that work for boys
·      The value of trades education
·      The benefits of mentorship – how to find a mentor for your child and be intentional in your relationship building

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful courage means being willing to step out of complacency, out of the box, and follow that inner voice that you have saying “Yes!” even when you are in doubt or fear say “Yes!” anyways and I strive to do this in everything I do is bring joy to it. Go to the grocery store and find some joy. I have a friend who buys flowers every Tuesday during her grocery shopping and her goal is to give those flowers away by the time she gets back to her house….Stepping out of our boxes and our little narrow lanes and our busy-ness or overwhelm in our own life but just stepping out a little bit to see there’s this world out there and what can I do to bring joy into the world – and we need it.

Resources:

The Wonder of Boys by Michael Gurian

Where to find Janet:

Boysalive.com l Facebook l Boysalive Facebook group l Twitter l LinkedIn

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Eps 90: Larissa Dann is on Talking About How to Let Go of Consequences and Rewards

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Today’s guest is Larissa Dann, a Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.) trainer. We are discussing parenting without rewards and punishments. Join us!

“Children don’t misbehave, they behave to meet a need.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

·      Being assertive without alienating our children

·      Using “I messages” to communicate needs

·      Trusting our child’s desire to be helpful vs. presenting requests in a way that is prescriptive

·       Using active listening to gain cooperation

·      The limitations of contingent rewards

·      The impact of rewards on motivation for cooperation – who are they cooperating for

·      Omitting rewards to foster self-discipline and an inner locus of control

·      Preparing children for adulthood by making them less dependent on the judgment of others

·      Using relationship skills to help your child develop a moral compass

·      The power of natural consequences in building resilience and developing internal judgments about right and wrong

·      Trusting children to care and problem solve to find mutual solutions

·      How children’s behavior is impacted by unmet needs

·      Avoiding the temptation to attribute intent or take behavior personally

·      The gift of imperfection and modeling accountability

·      The benefit of modeling alternate skills to teach solutions instead of using punishments

·      The impact we have on the world through our own parenting practices in the way we raise our kids

·      Parenting as imparting soft skills

·      Brainstorming solutions to discomfort when the activity is non-negotiable

·      Creating routines and agreements, doing with vs doing to and communicating expectations in a way that is an invitation to relationship

·      Conflict as competing needs

·      Shifting language around what “works” to what is “helpful” – moving from control to partnership

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

This is what it takes to be a child growing up in an adult’s world and it’s something we so often forget. Children so often are powerless and it takes courage for them to say no when we are the huge person in their life and when they think they might get into trouble and yet they are the most joyful beings on the planet. In the face of the most dire situations, children can somehow find that spark of joy that they can bring out from terrible situations. As a parent, it takes the courage of conviction, to parent against the flow of accepted parenting opinion and practice and the joy comes when you see your children flower and grow sometimes despite your many mistakes.

Resources:

Parent Effectiveness Training

Where to find Larissa:

Website l Facebook l Twitter l Instagram

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Ep 94: Julie Stubblefield and I Explore How to Shift to LOVING Our Bodies (and Teaching our Kids to do the Same)

#JoyfulCourage10 is back!

Just in time for summer – we will be deep diving into creating an intentional vision for how we want to BE for the season ahead. Join the community for 10 days of email inspiration, FB Live groundings, and tools for setting yourself up for a fabulous summer season. Click here to register now.

Meet Julie Stubblefield, founder of Fit Mom Revolution. She’s a mother, wife, fitness professional and all around inspiration of strength and confidence in how we care for our bodies. After years of struggling through the all too common yoyo game, Julie found that changing her attitude and perception around nourishing and moving her body she realized her body was whole, not broken. She’s bringing this “aha moment” and sharing it with moms everywhere inspiring a Fit Mom Revolution!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The importance of stepping away from the diet cycle
  • How changing the perception of our bodies will change how we approach the care we give our whole self
  • Having a life you enjoy in a body you love
  • Nourishment and movement are a family practice
  • Giving gratitude around nourishment
  • There is no “one size fits all”, must work for your family
  • Instilling healthy meal time habits for all family members
  • A healthy attitude towards nutrition does not have to be complicated
  • Giving our kids space to share their perception of their body image, and let them explore these feelings

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage means taking the approach of curiosity and hope to create a beautiful experience for you and your family. It’s worth going out on a limb for.

Where to find Julie:

Love Your Bodcast Podcast - subscribe on iTunes and Stitcher Radio

http://www.fitmomrevolution.com/

Pinterest l Facebook l Twitter

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Eps 89: Noha Alshugairi Shares About Teaching Positive Discipline and Being a Muslim

Today’s guest, Noha Alshugairi is a “citizen of the world,” a licensed marriage and family therapist who practices in Newport Beach, California and Positive Discipline Trainer. We are discussing positive discipline in the Muslim home. Join us!

“I don’t need to be preaching what Islam says to us in order to be teaching Positive Discipline.” 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

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  • Diversity within the Muslim community (80 groups, with differing faith)
  • How Muslim teachings align with Positive Discipline principles (building social interest, fostering belonging and contribution, understanding the belief behind the behavior, encouragement, mutual respect, kindness and firmness at the same time, short-term vs long-term and focus on solutions)
  • How does Islam promote mutual respect?
  • The concept of obedience as it relates to both Islam and Positive Discipline
  • Doing the best you can with the tools you have – how excellence at 3 or 4 looks difference than excellence in adolescence
  • The impacts of hanging onto childhood hurt in adulthood
  • What non-Muslims are most surprised to learn about Muslim families
  • Concerns of Muslim parents – how to protect children from Islamophobia & how to build a cultural identity they can be proud of?
  • Finding peace through focus on your circle of influence and stepping away from victimhood
  • How to broaden your understanding and support for the Muslim community
  • Connecting with larger groups as minority group members to move past stereotypes

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Having joy while you are facing life. It’s difficult because life is not smooth sailing.

Resources:

Positive Parenting in the Muslim Home

7 Habits of Highly Effective People  

Where to find Noha:

 Website – Sakina Counselling

Website – Positive Parenting in the Muslim Home

Facebookl Youtube

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Eps 88: Angela Pruess Supports Gentle Parents with Special Needs Kids

Today’s guest is Angela Pruess, a child and family therapist and special needs mom of 3 on a mission to support and empower parents of behaviorally challenging and special needs kids. We are discussing parenting without rewards and punishments. Join us! 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Gentle parenting defined – intentionality, connection
  • Attachment theory and gentle parenting
  • Avoiding slipping into extremes with gentle parenting
  • Optimal attachment parenting – responsive and nurturing while setting limits and boundaries
  • How to get perspective when you feel “stuck” in parenting patterns that aren’t working
  • Focussing on the long view of what values you are wanting to raise your child with
  • Understanding the “why” behind your child’s behavior – physiologically speaking particularly for special needs kids
  • Interventions that focus on the root of behavior versus the surface level behaviors
  • Backing up and zooming out as a practice to respond more effectively to challenging behaviors
  • Intentionality and mindfulness as parenting techniques to reduce overwhelm in parenting special needs kids
  • Moving from victimhood and blame to becoming influencers of parenting experiences
  • Grief in special needs parenting and unpacking those complicated feelings
  • Techniques for working through tough feelings and heavy thoughts to create space for something different
  • The need for self-care in special needs parenting, and being mindful about what activities are most helpful
  • The freedom of self-compassion and intentionality of gratitude
  • Asking for help: not a sign of weakness, an invitation to community
  • Lagging skills vs undesirable behavior – learning to focus on the right area to improve outcomes

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Through a parenting with confidence lens, having the courage to boldly walk this path that’s challenging and unexpected, to move forward feeling confident and feeling like you’re giving your child your best self.  Also, being able to do so with joy and having this genuine acceptance of our story – who our child is and who we are. They were given to us and we were woven together for a reason. Having courage and finding joy through the struggles and unexpected challenges.

 

Resources:

Aha parenting website

The Explosive Child – Ross Greene

Positive Discipline for Children With Special Needs

 

Where to find Angela:

Website l Facebook l Twitter l Pinterest

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Join me every Tuesday at 10am pst on the Joyful Courage FB page to hear about a new Positive Discipline tool that you can begin using ASAP.  Even if you are well versed in parenting with PD, you will take a way a renewed commitment and perhaps a deeper understanding of the tool.

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