Eps 114: Support for the New Sibling Transition with Sarah Rosensweet

Sarah Rosensweet is my guest today!! Sarah is a peaceful parenting coach– and a mama to 3 big kids (16, 13 and 10). She teaches parents a non-punitive, connection based approach that uses firm limits with lots of empathy. Sarah helps parents of toddlers-to-tweens turn philosophy into practice with solutions for real-life struggles such as bedtime battles, picky eaters, sibling rivalry, tantrums and meltdowns, and power struggles.

Sarah has had over 20 years experience working with families and children in early childhood education and schools. She’s an API certified parenting educator and a certified Aha! Peaceful Parenting Coach with Dr. Laura Markham.

What you will hear:

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  • Toddlerhood experience allowed for Sarah to begin her journey towards parenting peacefully
  • Turning away from the advice of “don’t let them manipulate you”
  • Navigating fear
  • The transition of the new sibling can catch us off guard
  • Perspective of the older child is, not such a great thing
  • Our olders have mixed feelings
  • The mama bear instincts kick in and we often find ourselves pushing our older children away. Recognizing the feelings- awareness of what is happening internally for us
  • What shows up with our older children? Regression and aggression
  • What to do? Nurture them, love on them, connect with them, baby them as much as possible
  • Aggression comes from fear – they are acting out their bad feelings
  • Cure – more connection, more empathy
  • “My child is not giving me a problem, my child is having a problem”
  • Emotional backpacks are all of the emotions that show up throughout our experience that we put away for “later”
  • Meltdowns and tantrums are how our children release their emotional backpacks
  • Processing through laughter – get them laughing every day!
  • Rough housing as a proactive energy/emotional release
  • Pete’s a Pizza – William Steig
  • Welcome mixed feelings, schedule one on one time
  • “I wonder…….. “ opens the door for them to express mixed feelings
  • Lack of understanding and empathy can lead a child to feel as though there is something wrong with them
  • Sometimes challenges show up when baby is a newborn, and sometimes it is when the babe gets a bit older
  • Peaceful Parents, Happy Siblings by Dr. Laura Markham
  • ^^ supports children in helping them find solutions that work for both sibs, rather than leaving it to them to figure out how to work things out
  • Special time – joining them in their world of imagination and play – 15 minutes/day with the older child
  • Misbehavior as a signal and look for positive intent
  • Look at your language – shift the language you use that doesn’t include the babe. Ex, “I am busy with the baby” to “I will help you when my hands aren’t full!”

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“I think that one, putting aside our own story of worry and negativity of our own child and trusting that love is enough. Really just Trusting in the love that we have and not getting attached to the worry and fear, I think that takes a ton, ton, ton of courage. And just recognizing that what you are doing is so hard. It’s amazing how many people do have more that one child, because it is hard, it’s hard work.”

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Sarah’s FREE Stop Yelling Ecourse
Sarah’s virtual Introducing New Baby Workshop ((STARTS 10/19)

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Daily Intention Cards

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Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Eps 113: Solo show! Teachers, behavior charts, and how to keep mama bear in check...

Welcome to this week’s solo show!  Sorry about the clogged nose! Totally dedicated to keeping up with the podcast and showing up to all of you – thank you for listening in!

What you will hear this episode:

The topic this week, as we have moved into the school year here in North America.  Many of us are finding ourselves in the rub of having tough conversations with our children’s teacher. One of my listeners, who is both a parent and a teacher, reached out and requested that I touch on how parents can be approaching their children’s teachers when things are tough.

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  • Classroom management is slippery
  • Teachers are doing the best they can with the tools they have
  • Navigating student’s needs with the academic requirements passed on to teachers
  • Pendulum swings from social/emo learning to academics
  • Pressure to teach kids what they “need to know”
  • Teachers ALWAYS name the social/emotional skills as their desire for students
  • There is an assumption that children are learning life skills in the home
  • Teachers fall back on behavior systems
  • “Charting” children’s behavior
  • Assumption that students have what they need to be cooperative, contributing members of the classroom
  • Temperament matters
  • So how do we talk to teachers about our children’s need?
  • You, the teacher, counselor, after school people, you are all the child’s support team
  • When communication fails amongst adults, child suffers
  • Coming from fear, we show up offensive, invites defense from others
  • Teachers have a tricky job
  • Connect before correct is a powerful tool to take advantage of in all the relationships of our life – teachers/school staff included
  • Use curiosity
  • How can you educate the teacher about your child in a way that enlightens them about your child and all children
  • It is useful when a parent comes to the teacher and says “I see you and the tough job you have, and I want to educate you about my child”
  • Pay attention to your physical response/mama bear mode, and PAUSE before emailing/calling the teacher
  • Get in touch with your child’s teacher BEFORE there is an issue – build relationship
  • Make amends when you need to – repair matters AND you are modeling really important behavior for others
  • The person that benefits the most is your child!

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Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Eps 112: Following Our Kids Lead with Homeschool Unrefined Hosts, Angela and Maren

Maren and Angela are college friends, turned public school teachers, turned homeschooling mamas, turned podcast hosts. They are on today talking about how to follow our children’s lead when it comes to learning and growing. Their show, Homeschool Unrefined, is a place where they keep homeschool simple, real and fun.

What you will hear in during the show:

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  • College friends turned podcast co-hosts
  • Public school teachers that became homeschooling mamas
  • Sensed the need for encouragement and empowerment amongst homeschool parents
  • SM gives a false impression for what homeschool looks like
  • Inspired to show the “real” homeschool experience
  • Deciding to homeschool, desire for more connection and less schedule
  • Freedom to travel
  • Maren and Angela want parents to feel good about what they are already doing
  • Easy to look at what others are doing then seeing deficit in what you are doing
  • Your kids need you as a parent, and all of your particular skills
  • Vastness of homeschooling
  • Biggest challenges in the community: parents lacking confidence, letting go of perfectionism
  • Being conscious about what your main goal is
  • Letting your children take the lead – focus on connection, follow their interest
  • Paradigm shift - kids are going to learn when they are ready
  • Early entry into extra-curricular activities
  • Simplicity Parenting John Paine
  • Supporting kids through their changes of heart
  • It is a skill to know when to walk away – Angela’s roller blading story
  • The process of navigating waning interest is rich
  • Casey and Rowan’s guitar lesson story, letting go of the dream
  • Stay connected, no matter your schooling decisions – make it authentically yours

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

From Angela - “Having the courage to trust yourself and yoru child. You know your child and they are going to learn the most e when they feel connected to you. It takes a cot of courage to let go of all the noise around you and be able to trust you.”

From Maren - “Being confident in who you are – that takes work, takes work to understand and realize who I am is good. That’s the courageous parent – the joyful part is finding joy in the processes of everything. This is a process, it isn’t perfect – if you can find joy in that you will find joy in so many things.”

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Where to find Angela and Maren:

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Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Eps 111: Fear, Belonging, Self Acceptance.... It's all here.

Today is a solo show – thank you for tuning in this week!  Sit back and take in the thoughts and ideas that are currently showing up for me and in our community.

A Free Spirit Life

A new show hosted by Shannon Kinney-Duh.   Find out more at http://www.afreespiritlife.com/ or search for A Free Spirit Life on iTunes or wherever you get your podcast.

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  • Together Live event with Glennon Doyle and friends

  • Belonging and significance as an underlying principle of PD
  • Humans are great perceivers, not great interpreters
  • Growing relationship while guiding them to learn from mistakes is what Positive Parenting is all about
  • Shopping cart analogy
  • My child is going to learn what they need through mistakes and experiences
  • Our conditioning gets in our way when we choose to parent this way
  • Fear shows up – controlling and rigid, what is the right thing to do?
  • The space between authoritarian and permissive styles
  • Brene Brown – check her out Braving the Wilderness
  • True belonging is something inside of us, requires trust
  • Conscious parenting requires us to trust our children, their foundation and relationship
  • Our declaration of using PD can make others uncomfortable
  • My vision is to have confident, capable kids who can navigate the world with kindness and assertive – interruptions to the ugly in the world
  • You have to be who you are
  • So easy as the parent to get up in their (our children’s) grill
  • Children get to DESIGN themselves
  • Taking a look at our own modeling, self acceptance, recognizing fear
  • My children can only hear their soul’s voice is to release my fear and trust
  • What are your thoughts?? Share in the Live and Love with Joyful Courage FB Group
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Eps 110: Finding the Need Beneath the Behavior with Alison Smith

Meet Alison Smith, mother to two adorable kids, proud wife, former elementary school teacher  and now teacher coach, advocate and revolutionary in win/win parenting.  Like many of us Alison had visions of being the best, doing the best and really being that one adult that impacted her students lives powerfully.  As a self identified recovering perfectionist, Alison entered the teaching world and become a mother. It did not take long to identify that something in the work with children had to change. Fueled by her passion and her journey, Aliso identified a need for teachers to feel supported in their work.  In her coaching, teachers are inspired and supported to be the most authentic, joyful and wholehearted teacher they can be.

IN THIS EPISODE:

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  • Alison shares Bonnie Harris’ iceberg analogy and how it guides parents to identify the underlying root of a child’s behavior.
  • Like a medical issue, we often treat the symptom until the symptoms persist then we are forced to find the root cause.
  • Realizing that the child’s behavior that triggers us is the root cause of our reaction and inability to connect and show up best for the child.
  • Only when we dig into our roots and what is underneath our icebergs can we better guide our children through their own experiences.
  • Triggers can cause us to panic and ‘future trip’ into fear about our child’s behavior, enabling us into unhelpful methods.
  • Using our curiosity to dig to the root - is my child hungry, tired, overstimulated, cold, hot, uncomfortable, lonely?.
  • Once we identify our triggers we can move into the practice of showing up the way our kids need us to.  We chose connection and enforcement that they matter.
  • Often we misjudge our kids motivation and intention leading to disconnection and an increase in the child’s mischief.
  • Once a parent gets it and truly understands the process begins within the parent first then the practice strengthens and the child, family and parent begin to thrive.
  • There is no one perfect general response to situations with your child.  
  • Practicing prevention, in-the-moment and then repair strategies alleviate and get to the root of the issue.
  • An open conversation on how parenting is shifting from authoritarian to permissive.  Why parents today need something to change and are willing to find the courage to revolutionize how the adult/child relationship evolves.

 Where to find Alison:

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Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Eps 109: Learning How to be a More Conscious Parent by Tuning in to Our Body

Parenting from within takes practice practice practice. What are the significant tools we need to really delve within? Inside of us exists what we need to connect to the way we want to parent.  Using these tools at our disposal will allow us to open up, connect, reset and navigate the challenges that come with development. Just like we are in constant practice it’s key to continue the conversation! Our children are not the only humans in development.

 What you will hear

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  • The emotional journey of choosing Positive Parenting
  • Is your inner voice helping or hindering your practice
  • Our old stories can create blocks when we practice PD
  • What shows up when our children touch on those old stories (triggers)
  • How we talk to ourselves when it seems everyone around us has it together
  • Where do we chose to sit when we are in anger, resentment and “stuckness”
  • Why are you choosing PD and/or Conscious Parenting?
  • What are the themes that drive us to want to parent this way?
  • What themes to we use to keep us on a pendulum
  • Once we choose into the practice we can create habits that navigate through these themes and stories
  • Awareness is the first step to helping us acknowledge the triggers so we can create a connection into this parenting journey
  • This is a collective journey
  • Mindfulness with ground us into the practice and what we need
  • Using mindfulness will bring you into your biggest tool- your body, senses, feelings and emotions
  • Listening to your body is accepting the messages and signals you are sending to your conscious
  • What do you notice in challenging situations?
  • Where do your signals sit? Belly? Shoulders? Chest?
  • Follow the wisdom your body is sending.
  • Fears cloud our vision and takes us into the “what ifs”
  • Getting curious allows us to approach our children without getting stuck in the fog
  • How to use the neutrality of your body to shift into a better experience
  • Shifting can open us up the possibility that we are the best parent for our kids and we can make repairs

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Podcast Highlight:

In Her Voice, By Kelly Covers

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I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle, Portland AND BOISE events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Eps 108: Meredith Masony is on Sharing Her Story of Humor and Growing Community

Meredith Masony is on the podcast today!!  She blogs at That’s Inappropriate and loves to share her stories about, life, marriage, motherhood, and her quest to be the best person she can be. Meredith has three kids ages 10, 7, 5. Her motto is “I’ll say it, so you don’t have to.” Life is messy, and it’s OK to talk about it. She invites all parents to join her on her search for sanity and hopefully you can have a few laughs along the way.

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What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The parenting struggle is real
  • Meredith opens up about the first few years with little ones
  • Feeling stuck, alone and eventually facing a difficult life event moved her to speak out
  • We are not alone, we all feel lost at some point
  • Sharing the hard parts of the journey is the first step in thriving though it
  • You deserve more than to survive
  • Parents deserve to thrive
  • Creating a like-experiencing community can support us through even the most mundane events, potty training anyone?
  • Humor is key! Sometimes the truth and humor are all you need to feel connected
  • How to handle overnight success and sticking with your purpose
  • The importance of modeling purpose
  • Why having our own goals outside of our kids is important
  • Balance is tough
  • Letting go of ‘mom-guilt’

Where to find Meredith:

Website l Facebook I Instagram l Twitter l You Tube

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage
PNW FALL TOUR!!

I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle, Portland AND BOISE events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Eps 107: Casey is Solo and Homework is on Fire

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Skills, skills skills! Mama Tanya shares with our community an incredible example of how meeting your child where they are at can shift the outcome of your experience. It is easy for us as parents to become presumptive about misguided behavior  Remember how curiosity is key? By becoming curious with our kids, we are able to recognize the skills they still need to develop, as well as see the reasons for certain choices, which are not always what they seem.

Mama Tanya shares:

“Sorry for the long post but I need some advice. “ school, and they gave him homework to do over the weekend. He said he didn't think it was fair to have homework on the weekends (which I agree), but on Saturday he set his homework on fire! Took the lighter when no one was watching, went outside like he was going to go play, and set it on fire burning half the page and dunking it in the pool.

When I found the half burned sheet of paper in the pool, I kept my cool but was obviously shocked that he would react that way to homework. I let him know that I thought it was a poor decision to 1. light something on fire (safety!) and 2. refuse to do his homework in such a permanent way. Internally I felt helpless and frantic to solve the problem, externally I let him know that I get it, homework sucks, and I reminded him that he could ask for help.

I asked him what made him set it on fire, was he feeling overwhelmed? Or angry? Or both?  He was visibly upset both about being caught and about homework so I didn't preach or press the issue until later that day. When he was calm I talked to him about how sometimes we have to do things we don't like (like washing dishes) but we can learn to do it anyway, it doesn't have to be perfect, and we can ask for help.

I also explained that between two extremes (setting homework on fire and staying up till midnight doing homework- neither which are healthy) he could find a happy medium. He said he had not done his best and that he would try to do his best this week. - I felt like it was handled positively all in all.

But, when he told his father and co-parent (who lives elsewhere) over the phone, his dad immediately started saying that he wasn't going to send him something previously promised, that he would take his computer and phone away if he ever did it again, and went into punishment mode.

So, what would you do? I thought about saying he couldn't do his electronic time until he completed his homework. Or I would give him extra electronic time every time he completed his homework. But I am super conflicted. I feel like homework issues should be dealt with by the teacher. Natural consequences. Of course I want to help the teacher, but not sure how...”

Bullet Point:

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  • How to approach the reasoning behind the behavior
  • Kids do more in response with how they feel
  • Getting off the emotional freight train
  • Getting curious so we can be solution minded, see where child has influence
  • Parents assume children make choices rationally, when in fact they have limited skills
  • Revisiting Dr. Siegel’s “Palm of the Hand” example
  • Assessing what else can be going on inside their body
  • How to identify lacking skills and helping kids deal with the discomfort
  • Letting go of our perspective as the only perspective
  • Letting go of “should” (ex. They should know better)

Links mentioned in the show:

Podcast Episode 75 – Marcilie Boyle
Podcast Episode 100 – Dr. Tina Payne Bryson
Dan Siegel's Brain Video
Casey's Teaches Kids about the Brain

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PNW FALL TOUR!!

I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle and Portland events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.
www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Eps 106: Becoming Calm Responders with Alexandra Hughes

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World traveler, calm seeker, mom coach, multi-lingual speaker, Alexander Hughes, brings us her methods for supporting mamas in the chaos that is parenthood. The trials and tribulations of her own experience in motherhood would eventually fuel the passion of support she gives to other moms navigating the same road.  Alex has created a soft space for mamas feeling out of control to find their rhythm and calm. At her website inneressencecoaching.com one has access to her workshops, authentic words of wisdom and that much needed place to connect with someone who gets it.  With three kids and a handful of international moves Alex knows what it means to feel out of control in the mama chaos – which is why she has turned over every rock to find that much needed calm. We really should just make her wear a cape.

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What you will hear in this episode:

  • Alex’s journey into and out of chaos
  • An experience of transitions from a working professional to working mom to stay at home mom and back to working mom
  • Our vision vs. our reality
  • Why finding calm is so important as a mother
  • The importance of mother’s nurturing a relationship with self
  • Identifying patterns and models in current parenting
  • Understanding where patterns and models come from
  • Understanding the internal work necessary to tackle patterns & models
  • How we set ourselves up and why this can ultimately lead to chaos
  • Changing how we see the road – going from linear to cyclical
  • Understanding the cycles through life
  • Awareness of what we model for our kids
  • Access to tools 1) manage stress 2) manage anger 3) creating a life for yourself that are aligned with values and self loving
  • How our words create expectations for the inner child
  • Where courage lies
  • Summary of how Alex helps mamas on the road to calm - #1 Internal Work #2 External Work
  • Self Care – is about “doing stuff that lights you up”
  • Calm responding wisdom & tools

Quotes:

“When you have kids and you're a stay-at-home mom and you have stay-at-home parents, checking those boxes and feeling that sense of achievement doesn’t always happen”. 6:34

“Models and patterns live deep inside of me based on my own childhood and my own experiences”. 11:16

“Create a new best friend voice that is going to support us in the choices we are going to make”. 12:06

“If we can switch from that and seeing these mistakes, those blowups as opportunities to reconnect with your kid, teach your kid, learn yourself”. 20:28

“It’s your job to love yourself and to practice self care and self love because your children are watching you. AND you are a better everything when you do”. 43:04

What does Joyful Courage mean to you:

“I think that you need to be courageous to be a conscious mom, to practice positive parenting, or to take that journey toward calm responding. It’s about opening yourself up to feelings. It’s about treating those moments as learning opportunities when you do ‘make those mistakes’. When you open yourself up, you need to be courageous to be vulnerable. Once you do that it opens up this space for connection, which without there would be no joy”.

Where to find Alex:

Website
Facebook
Linkedin


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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle and Portland events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Eps 105: Solo Show, A Visit with my 11 Year Old, Shifting our Lens

Practice, practice, practice. There is no other way to really move into how we want to BE. Practice is the key. The beauty of choosing and moving through practice is we discover new ideas, concepts and understandings that make our practice more enjoyable AND dare I say magical. In this episode we dig a little deeper into the idea of using our lens to take us to where we want to go. When toddling through different lenses we can shift this practice even deeper.  We are joined by Ian O’Roarty, tween extraordinaire, into the lens of his practice through making amends. Listen and see how many fruitful lenses you discover.

What you will hear:

  • iTunes reviews – yay!! Thank you!!
  • Ian is my guest to talk about what making amends looks and feels like from an 11 year old perspective
  • Power of perception
  • Moving into the perception of being a new sibling
  • What might that look like to a toddler?
  • How we collect evidence to support our perception
  • What will we choose in the practice of collecting evidence?
  • Is our evidence creating our fears? OR is our evidence helping us move through how we want to be?

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Essential Oils

It’s all about the peppermint this week. I played with using this essential oil to increase my focus and concentration when it was time to WORK.

** I am not an expert – I am learning and sharing with you as I go.  DO YOUR RESEARCH TO STAY SAFE!!

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PNW FALL TOUR!!

I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle and Portland events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Eps 104: Kristin Hovious is on talking about making amends and repairing relationships

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Kristin Hovious is a committed teacher with over a decade of experience in vocational, adult education, serving Chicago’s Cortiva Institute as both Education Director (2007-2008) and Adjunct Faculty Member (2006-2017.)  Her training as a massage therapist and yoga teacher provides a foundation and love for anatomy and science of human development.

As a Positive Discipline Certified Trainer, Kristin, combines a career of teaching and serving with her passion for creating mutually respectful environments for families, children, classrooms and schools. In her collaboration with teachers, administrations and families, Kristin’s goal is to help facilitate opportunities for adults and students to become compassionate leaders, with the hope that doing so will help build more peaceful communities. Kristin has served on the Positive Discipline Association Board of Directors as a Consultant since 2016.

What you will hear in this episode:

  • Kristin’s journey into Positive Discipline (PD)
  • How PD grew in the Hovious’ Home and the challenges that came with learning a new way
  • How teaching anatomy in her career paved the way for curiosity in neuroscience
  • Understanding how emotions and behaviors influence connection
  • Discussion on ‘kind and firm’ rephrasing as ‘connection and accountability’ and why
  • Why shifting society’s idea of mistakes and punishments lacks ability to repair
  • Understanding mistakes as opportunities to learn
  • How repairing is a practice and it has the power to transform our relationships
  • Mistakes lead to repairing opportunities
  • Kristin walks us through four steps in healthy repair
  • Relatable examples from Kristin’s own life help us empathize and feel supported in our own challenges
  • Modeling is key
  • Sticking to our agendas is a way we move away from connection
  • When we repair relationships we have the power to heal connections
  • Diving into our parenting pain so we can make amends
  • Discomfort is a place to get curious, not a place to get stuck

 “I don’t think repairing relationships comes naturally or easy to us. It is practice”.

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

What Joyful courage means to me is that there is a consistent opportunity to practice repair.  That is always worth it - it’s so important in the whole trajectory in our lives together as human beings.  If we can be joyful in repair then maybe we can also turn the corner and be joyful about mistakes”.

Where to find Kristin:

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle and Portland events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Eps 103: Solo Show Digging Under the Surface of Bedtime Challenges

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Who needs sleep? If you think about your best parenting moments vs. your more challenging ones I think we could venture to say that sleep OR lack of sleep would be a BIG contender.  We have all been there. We move fluidly through that familiar bedtime routine, finish that last Llama Llama page, kisses, lights out….. We are no further from the kitchen when we hear “Mooooooooooom”!!! or Daaaaaaadddddeeeeeeeeeeee”! Sigh.

Mama Christine posted this week about her daughter’s sleep struggles “oh, tribe, apologies for the long post, but I'm in dire need of some help. bedtime. dear lord, my daughter is 5, and it. is. brutal. her bedroom is on the first floor, mine is upstairs. she's often hungry before bedtime, so we usually do a snack like high fat yogurt and fruit. after bedtime jobs are done, i read to her, we sing, and say our goodnights...generally 20ish minutes. nearly every night, she's out of bed for any number of 'reasons': need to say goodnight to the dog, still hungry, thirsty, needs to say something to me, needs to ask me a question, needs another hug, says she can't sleep (within minutes of me leaving her bedroom) and the list goes on”. 

Christine is not alone here, otherwise there would not be a book called Go the F@ck to Sleep . Let’s break this struggle down, so Christine can get some sleep and her little one can feel peaceful slumber.

What you will hear:

·      Iceberg view – top of the iceberg; requests, getting our of bed, one last… Under the surface; belonging and significance, influence, connection

·      Mischief showing up when we have misguided ideas about belonging and significance

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·      Getting curious, noticing lack of skills to complete task (ie going to sleep)

·      Getting curious so we can be solution minded, see where child has influence

·      Children long for connection, they settle for attention

·      Creating routines that help kids know what is happening and allowing them to have influence

·      Making agreements to help kids create boundaries

·      What is my child’s perspective?

·      Asking how am I feeding this problem?

Link to Deborah MacNamara

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Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Eps 102: Learning How Tears Heal with Kate Orson, Hand in Hand Parenting Instructor

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Kate Orson is a Hand in Hand parenting instructor, and author of Tears Heal: How To Listen To Children is on the podcast today! Originally from the UK she now lives in Basel, Switzerland, with her husband, author Toni Davidson, and their four year old daughter Ruby.

You can find her work in parenting magazines including The Green Parent, Juno and Smallish.

What you’ll hear in this episode:
 

•           An introduction to Hand in Hand Parenting

•           Children’s natural healing abilities

•           Helping to attune to a child in a calm manner

•           The benefits of crying

•           Need for cortisol to be released from a stressful event

•           It’s crucial children have safe space to release stress

•           How to find ways to connect, special time

•           Learn to listen to your children’s emotions

•           Signs to look for in distressed children

•           Getting out of our need to “fix it” or “stop it” response

•           Children will release on their own terms

•           Be available and take an interest in them

 

Quotes:

“I think our entire culture has this mental block when it comes to crying."

“I came across this different way of listening to the emotions. It’s reframing the way we view tears. It’s about listening and allowing the feelings."

“Children need safety to let go of feelings."

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“I would say parenting is really really hard work. Sometimes we make mistakes and it may seem really hard to get up the next day and embrace it as a fresh day.  We should have the Joyful Courage to embrace the challenges of parenting”.

Where to find Kate:

website I Facebook I Twitter

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Eps 101: Casey is Solo with Wisdom from an 8 Year Old on the Power of Offers/Counter Offers

One of my favorite parenting tools, which fully connects our kids to significance and belonging, is the offer and the counter-offer.  Casey and her very special guest, Malaney, discuss the best way to use offers and counter-offers.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

·      My eight year old niece chimes in on why having the option to counter offer helps her feel happy
·      Imagine aligning your vision of boundaries and expectations with that of your child’s
·      Building life long skills in processing, communicating and self confidence
·      An effective tool that helps build feelings of belonging and significance
·      What are non-negotiables vs.negotiables
·      How opening up the opportunity for your child to have a voice will help them ease into non-negotiables with healthy cooperation

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Eps 100: Dr. Tina Bryson Supports Us With Brain Informed Parenting

Dr. Tina Payne Bryson is the co-author (with Dan Siegel) of two New York Times bestsellers:  The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline.  She is the Executive Director of the Center for Connection in Pasadena, CA and a pediatric and adolescent psychotherapist.  She keynotes conferences and conducts workshops for parents, educators, and clinicians all over the world.  Dr. Bryson earned her Ph.D. from the University of Southern California, where her research explored attachment science, childrearing theory, and the emerging field of interpersonal neurobiology.  You can learn more about her at TinaBryson.com, where you can subscribe to her blog and read her articles about kids and parenting.

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  • How Dr. Dan Siegal and Tina collaborated on THE WHOLE-BRAINED CHILD
  • How science can help guide parents in really profound ways
  • Programs, communities and in which Dr. Bryson’s work is taught
  • The importance of HOW are parent shows up to the nervous system of a developing child
  • How getting CURIOUS with your child creates gateways into building important life skills and self regulation
  • How making ASSUMPTIONS delays or stops tool building; ie, taking behavior personal, over explaining behavior, making character assumptions, if they did it once they should be able to consistently complete task/request
  • Paying attention to a developing nervous system
  • If the nervous system is not regulated the child cannot have choice over behavior
  • How to influence the nervous system in both self and child
  • Identification of Dr. Bryson and Dr. Siegals emotional “ZONES”; Red Zone, Blue Zone, Green Zone
  • The Frontal Cortex is not developed yet
  • Children do not have the architecture to control “reptilian brain” / “fight or flight” in red or blue zones – difficulty paying attention, learning, regulating
  • Tools/techniques to get in “green zone” – regulated, calm, empathetic, attune
  • Behavior is communicating child’s lack of skills
  • When to seek out professional help
  • Self regulation – be gentle and kind with ourselves (reference Kristin Neff, of self-compassion.org)
  • New techniques require time and PRACTICE
  • Calming strategy when child is disregulated- get BELOW eye level and use soothing words including “I’m right here with you”
  • Brain associates with physical state – floppy noodle technique
  • Body shift can help shift emotions
  • How discipline is teaching
  • We need to give children tools not take them away
  • Thoughts on consequences
  • Key actions of soothing, connection, problem-solving, playfulness and being pro-active build a “whole-brained” child
  • How to recognize our own “zones” and practice getting/staying into “green zone”

What does Joyful Courage mean to me?

“Joyful Courage to me means having the courage to reflect on our own areas of growth and also having the courage to trust development to unfold. Trusting that we are doing a good enough job.”

Where to find Dr. Tina Bryson:

tinabryson.com – infinite resources to put into practice!
Facebook l Twitter

What to watch for:

New books by Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson
The YES Brain -  January 2018
Showing Up – TBD 

Info from the Show:

Lantern Camps
Kristin Neff, of self-compassion.org
Camp Chippewa  http://campchippewa.com/

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Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Eps 99: Casey is Solo Exploring Boundaries, Agreements and Screen Time

Welcome back to the show!

Let me share my own story from the trenches… You aren’t the only one who has kids who act like you are ruining their lives when you ask them to help our around the house…  AND, it is a beautiful thing when your kids turn it around and own their behavior, right? It is a good thing, yes, but I am getting curious about if I am inadvertently raising a people pleaser….?? 

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A question from the community

Mama Denise shares “Literally losing my mind on first day of summer vacation over iPads. I don't have an ounce of energy for a single tool. I'm the worst mom ever, according to my daughter (5y 10mos). And my 7 1/2 yo son "needs this mower" on a farm simulator game. Literally feel like pitching these machines in the dumpster. Thank you for listening.”

These are the struggles where we can release most of the load and pull our kids into co-creation. Casey takes Denise’s familiar scenario and leads us through the practice of intention, presence and solution.

  • Showing up intentionally, rather than reactively
  • Creating intention and applying it to our lens and presence
  • Noticing the ease of intention when the ride is smooth and the rockiness when things fall apart
  • Creating routines that help kids know what is happening and allowing them to have influence
  • Making agreements to help kids create boundaries
  • Identifying needs vs. privileges. ex. Screen time – it is a privilege
  • Privilege comes after contributions
  • Difference between contribution vs. chores
  • A privilege differs from a reward
  • It’s not about “earning”, it’s about “management”
  • Guiding kids to have a voice in solutions when they feel an agreement or routine is not working
  • Seeing the tip of the iceberg and KNOW that beneath the surface is a request for boundaries
  • Allowing children a voice means we hold them as contributors to the cause
  • Children are more likely to follow through when they have a voice in the creation of the agreement
  • Introducing offer and counter offer tool – teaches parent how to let go of agenda, control and rigidity
  • Sharing power when stakes are low

Resources:

Routine Handout
Agreement Handout

Stay Tuned:

Coming up is our 100th Episode!!! I am so pleased and honored to have Tina Payne Bryson PhD, co-author of the Whole Brained Child, on our 100th Episode. 100 y’all! Can you believe it!? Tell your friends, co-workers and neighbors. Remember to subscribe for instant access to new podcasts and automatic access to scrumptious listening from pasts guests!

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Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Eps 98: Kerry Foreman is on Supporting us in What it Means to be Grounded

Kerry Foreman is a Registered Psychotherapist, with her Masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. She is passionate about Mindfulness and has been practicing and teaching for 4 years. Kerry lives in Monument, Colorado with her patient husband, a teenager, a tween and two rescue dogs, Norman and Fern.  Through using Mindfulness to increase her self awareness, she realized that during her childhood she had learned and practiced faulty coping skills. She targeted them one by one, and slowly changed the cycles of her family, learned new behaviors, and worked to create new, positive habits for life. She did this in order to have a successful marriage and to be the kind of Mom she wanted to be. She is passionate about her ability to create change. Change your thinking and it changes your life.

 

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What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Recognition of FOO (Family of Origin) patterns and the call to make changes
  • Psychological/verbal/emotional abuse trains us react rather than respond
  • Noticing patterns such as shame, guilt and anger – where do they originate?
  • Becoming a parent can bring these to the surface. How do we recognize where we need to change?
  • Learning to respond instead if react
  • Understand and reflect on our own parents’ experience
  • Creating change and becoming aware of our own inner state of being
  • Mindfulness practice influences the shift into better relationships
  • How do we become grounded in order to stay balanced and present in mind no matter what is happening around us?
  • Where control plays a role in mindfulness and the contrast in anxiety
  • What do we chose to believe – what is the story we play in our minds?
  • Self talk of being a victim – recognizing the language
  • Expectations of others and how to stay mindful and in control while at the same time releasing what we are not in control of.

What does Joyful Courage mean to me?

“Joyful Courage is finding the joy in being brave enough to parent differently. Finding a new path in order to allow our kids to be who they were meant to be.”

Where to find Kerry:

YouTube l Facebook l Twitter l BLOG

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“Being a part of the Living Joyful Courage Membership Program has encouraged me to continue practicing to be parent and person that I want to be. I choose my experience to situations. There's no easy answer to fix my kids behavior… It is more about how I be with my kids that creates a good experience versus what I do to make them listen to me.

Since starting this practice I feel stronger connection with my kinds, I feel a shift in myself,  and I believe I am the perfect mom for my kids…

Other should consider program because the parenting journey is not easy, and it's an ongoing practice. The support and information Casey provides, with emails, webinars, and coaching calls is so beneficial, and she provides it in a way that is easy to understand and put directly in the practice I have also found there is so much value in a tribe of parents sharing experiences, willing to listen, and offering encouragement and it reminds me that I am not alone on this journey.”

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Eps 97: Casey is solo! Connecting before Correcting, Problem Solving and Empowering our Kids

Living Joyful Courage Membership Program

REGISTRATION OFFICIAL OPENS SATURDAY (but if you are seeing this now and are ready to sign up, YOU CAN!). Woohhooo --- so happy to be opening the doors again to the membership program!  Now is the time – join us!

Casey takes listeners through real scenarios shared by our parenting community. She takes us through the process of connecting before correcting, so that we can create solutions with our kids. She invites listeners to recognize the tools we are using that aren't helpful, and shares how to replace them with tools that help us connect. while also guiding them to work together and find solutions that empower them.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • How to show up and hold space for problem solving with your kids
  • Becoming aware of the rigidity and resistance  when disciplining their kids
  • Recognize that often the best solutions come directly from our kids
  • Becoming aware of non-judgment and non-attachment and understand how this can positively influence the parent/child relationships
  • What does it look like to surrender and how this can become a practice of modeling
  • Understanding their developmentally appropriate behavior is not against parents – it’s their developmental phase.
  • Brain development plays a major role in behaviors. 

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Register for the Living Joyful Courage Membership Program

“Being a part of the Living Joyful Courage Membership Program has encouraged me to continue practicing to be parent and person that I want to be. I choose my experience to situations. There's no easy answer to fix my kids behavior… It is more about how I be with my kids that creates a good experience versus what I do to make them listen to me.

Since starting this practice I feel stronger connection with my kinds, I feel a shift in myself,  and I believe I am the perfect mom for my kids…

Other should consider program because the parenting journey is not easy, and it's an ongoing practice. The support and information Casey provides, with emails, webinars, and coaching calls is so beneficial, and she provides it in a way that is easy to understand and put directly in the practice I have also found there is so much value in a tribe of parents sharing experiences, willing to listen, and offering encouragement and it reminds me that I am not alone on this journey.”

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Eps 96: Melissa Benaroya talks Summer Routines and Structures

Casey invites fellow Positive Discipline Coach, Melissa Benaroya, to discuss surviving Summer Break. In this episode they offer practical tools and solutions to set you and your family up for a successful summer. Two to three months is a long time to keep your kids occupied and stimulated.  Get an insight into the importance of boredom and why you don’t have to plan every single second of your children’s vacation. Tune in and learn how routine and summer coexist to help you have fun too! 

Melissa is a neighbor here in the Pacific Northwest. In addition to being a mother of two, Melissa has a Masters degree in Social Work, is a Credentialed School Counselor and a Certified Gottman Educator. You can find more about Melissa at melissabenaroya.com.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The value in creating a summer consistency so your family knows what to expect.
  • Why routines are not confining but an invitation to freedom.
  • How consistency helps encourages children to manage themselves.
  • Why moments of boredom are necessary and the benefits it offers growing kids!
  • How to use mindfulness when creating a summer schedule.
  • Tools are discussed to set up family agreements on everything from daily schedules to screen time use!
  • You’ll learn how to involve your kids in creating a fun summer everyone will enjoy! 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I think when I hear those two words side by side I think of having the courage to take risks and the joy that can result. Take some risks this summer and encourage your kids to do the same!

Where to find Melissa:

Facebook l Twitter

Her book, “The Childproof Parent” is available on Amazon 

Blog Post - Managing Screens, Devices and Apps.. Oh My! 

Link to Download Device Use Contract  

MELISSA'S WRITING HAS BEEN FEATURED IN: HUFFINGTON POST, PARENTMAP MAGAZINE, & NORTH STATE PARENT MAGAZINE

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THANK YOU TALKSPACE!!

Today’s show is sponsored by Talkspace – the online therapy company. For as little as $32 a week, you can work with an experienced, licensed, therapist, hand-picked just for you. On Talkspace, you can send text, audio and video messages to your therapist, and talk about your life, work through what’s keeping you up at night, or just work on feeling a bit happier. To sign up or to learn more, go to Talkspace.com/joyful  . And to show your support for this podcast, use code JOYFUL to get $30 off your first month.

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#JoyfulCourage10 Summer Time

Come be a part of this FUN and FREE event! Join the community for 10 days of email inspiration, FB Live groundings, and tools for setting yourself up for a fabulous summer season. Click here to register now.

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Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage.  Raising our children while growing ourselves...

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

Ep 95: Jeanne-Marie Paynel talks Montessori and Positive Discipline

#JoyfulCourage10 is back!

Just in time for summer – we will be deep diving into creating an intentional vision for how we want to BE for the season ahead. Join the community for 10 days of email inspiration, FB Live groundings, and tools for setting yourself up for a fabulous summer season. Click here to register now.

The first thing that stuck out about our next guest, Jeanne-Marie Paynel is her passion for lifelong learning. In addition to raising two beautiful children, Jeanne-Marie holds a Masters in Education, is the founder and CEO of Voila Montessori and is a Positive Discipline trainer.  After reading Dr. Montessori’s work “The Secret of Childhood” she discovered a passion for guiding children and families in healthy parenting approaches. She wanted parents to appreciate the true importance of their role – not as servants or teachers, but as supporters and guides of their children’s natural development.  This need in the global community prompted her to launch Voila Montessori, an accessible resources to guide parents in the Montesorri tradition and the Positive Discipline approach.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • It’s important to empower our children not enable them
  • Setting up a prepared environment for your children’s learning
  • The Montessori philosophy and how it helps children and families today
  • Ways Positive Discipline and the Montessori method merge to provide support
  • The benefits of a child’s freedom of movement and choice in their own environment
  • Tools to help families nurture their child’s potential
  • How to access Montessori methods and find an appropriate educational environment for your child.

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage – to me for one what comes to mind is being aware of how lucky we are – the practice of gratitude is what brings me great joy. In the context of Montessori, being in awe of what your children are going through, their evolution, their adaptation to the world. Courage is speaking up for what is, and accepting at times that we might be wrong. That we might of not interacted with our child the way that would’ve felt better and to be okay with going to your child and saying “I didn’t like the way I did that” “I’m going to better next time”- It’s courageous for adults to say to a child that “I did something wrong”.  Being aware that we are not perfect and we are learning next to them.

Where to find Jeanne-Marie:

Voila Montessori - http://www.voilamontessori.com/en/

Pinterest l Facebook l YouTube l

21 Positive Discipline Tools

Ebooks and Resources mentioned by Jeanne-Marie

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Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage.  Raising our children while growing ourselves...

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#JoyfulCourage10 Summer Time

Come be a part of this FUN and FREE event! Join the community for 10 days of email inspiration, FB Live groundings, and tools for setting yourself up for a fabulous summer season. Click here to register now.

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!