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Eps 84: Oh Crap Potty Trainer, Jamie Glowacki

Today’s guest is Jamie Glowacki, a social worker who worked with dual diagnosis moms, transitioned to owning a children’s store and then became a potty trainer. We are discussing potty training. Join us!

“I don’t really have a method. You have to take off the diapers.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The elimination communication movement
  • Timing of potty training readiness
  • “Pull-ups” and potty training – mixing old and new behaviors.
  • Potty training and instant gratification – the role of patience in the process
  • The myths of potty training
  • Gender and potty training
  • The role of social learning and praise
  • Potty location and using the tool for the task
  • The influence of Dr. Spock and the history of potty training
  • Developmental milestones – should they be child-led?
  • The myth of “readiness” - potty training as a skill that needs to be attended to rather than something that happens naturally in time without intervention
  • The “magic window” of potty training – prior to individuation
  • Potty training as a power struggle
  • “Fear of release” – how to overcome it
  • Managing expectations around developmental milestones and the danger of comparison
  • How potty training challenges vary based on the age of the child
  • Performance anxiety and potty training
  • The best potty and ergonomic angle for potty training specifically for encouraging poop
  • How to modify your potty or reposition your child to improve poop likelihood
  • Rewards and consequences – their role in potty training
  • Potty training power struggles as relationship challenges
  • Potty training regressions – change in routines, the honeymoon period
  • Using blocks of learning to solve regressions
  • “Baby love” as a tool to help kids adjust to new siblings
  • Location specific potty training challenges – how to unpack them
  • Night time training strategies
  • Developmental phases of bladder development

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage is a reminder we have to be courageous as parents, we have to be so brave and we have to be constantly evaluating ourselves. The joyful just reminds me to keep it light. This is all just so great. Even in our worst potty training nightmare it’s still so great. Keep our courage light!

 

Resources:

Squatty potty unicorn ice cream video

Is Night Training Really Necessary – blog post

Oh Crap Potty Training Book

Oh Crap Potty Training video conferences

 

 Where to find Jamie:

Website

Twitter

Facebook

 

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March GIVEAWAY!

The last few months I have been encouraging you all to share the shows by holding giveaways - everything from mantra bracelets to coaching has gone out to members of the community who have been willing to join in the work of #impact1millionkids - this month is no exception!!

Simply by posting a podcast link, and tagging me (Casey O'Roarty) or Joyful Courage, you are entered to win!!  This month I am giving away a spot in the Living Joyful Courage Membership program - WOOHOO!!  AND, you can enter as many times as you WANT! Yes!

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Weekly FB Lives are happening!!

Join me every Tuesday at 10am pst on the Joyful Courage FB page to hear about a new Positive Discipline tool that you can begin using ASAP.  Even if you are well versed in parenting with PD, you will take a way a renewed commitment and perhaps a deeper understanding of the tool.

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Eps 83: Finding our Inner Abundant Mama with Shawn Fink

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Today’s guest is Shawn Fink, also known as Abundant Mama. She is a mom of eleven-year-old twin girls. We are discussing living a life of abundance in our parenting. Join us!

“There is enough happiness, joy and love in the world for everybody.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

·      Moving from scarcity to abundance mindsets – from jealousy to gratitude

·      Abundance as a way to mother yourself, be authentic and be aware of what’s around and within you

·      Being awesomely awake: paying attention to your life, being mindful and living intentionally

·      Self-care vs Soul-care – what’s the difference and how can it change your life and the way you see it?

·      Being present and discomfort – learning to navigate it vs as being a way to eliminate it

·       How to exercise self-compassion when you haven’t showed up in the way that you’ve hoped to

·      Modelling asking for forgiveness for your kids

·       The joys and challenges of raising tweens

·      Motherhood as self-invention

·      Learning to connect with your children as they grow – navigating relationship change

·      The value in letting kids fail when they need to – leaving room for life lessons and learning how to handle discomfort

·      The power of injecting playfulness into your routine and how it can be productive

·      Finding joy in obligation

·      Building habits for effectiveness in your parenting life

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage is the joyful ability to completely show up as yourself and be you, as a mom, it’s really hard because we are trying so hard to keep everyone else happy. There is nothing better for our kids than for them to see us being fully ourselves.

Resources:

Insight timer

The Playful Family E-book

The Abundant Mama online program

10 Habits of Highly Effective Mamas

 

Where to find Shawn:

Facebook l Instagram l Twitter l Pinterest l Website

 

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Eps 82: A Conversation about Parenting in the Age of Smart Phones with Kim Muench

Today’s guest is Kim Muench, a mother of five, parenting writer, a certified parenting coach and lover of parents of adolescents. We are discussing navigating decisions around technology with our kids. Join us!

Conscious parenting: being mindful and walking the tight rope between giving them autonomy and knowing when to step in and help them see the potential consequences of choices”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Balancing your need for control and desire to protect your kids with providing access to benefits of smart phones
  • Building trust, letting go of our own experiences and not projecting our own mischief (which can lead to friction)
  • Navigating the tightrope: being honest, open and self-aware as you work through technology use with your kids
  • Negotiating smart phone boundaries within your family
  • Scaffolding social media communication – building progressively
  • Adolescent boundary pushing as learning
  • Falling off the tight rope – learning as a practice and getting back up
  • Creating an agreement around technology usage – a collaborative approach subject to revision as needed initiated by either party
  • Limits as helping
  • Why you need open conversation about social media including topics such as safeguards and kindness
  • Technology as distraction and disconnection
  • Reassessing agreements on technology without blame and shame
  • The value of eye contact and being fully present in resolving conflict
  • How to address reigning in technology use under the umbrella of conscious parenting – identifying the source
  • Working collaboratively vs exerting control – what are the outcomes of these approaches?

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage is embracing your authentic self with enthusiasm and being brave enough to share that with the world – it is an every day practice.

Resources:

Screenagers documentary

Where to find Kim:

Website l Twitter l Facebook l LinkedIn

Facebook Group Real Life Parenting Community

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FEED 3,000

LET'S FEED SOME PEOPLE!!

I would love to invite you to join me in making 3,000 snack sacks over the next three months and take them to organizations that serve the hungry!!

Not one of us can make all those lunches ourselves - BUT ALL OF US TOGETHER SURE CAN!!

So here is the plan, host a gathering at your house and invite other families over. Have each family bring some supplies and together make as many snack sacks as you can!!

Click here for the Feed 3,000 Facebook Event Link

Click her to go donate to the Feeding America page.

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Journey to Joy - a FREE mini ecourse
This month, I am offering you the chance to do the Journey to Joy mini-course as a way to honor all parents.  

Journey to joy is about shifting the dynamics of your being to shift the dynamics of your home.

For more information (did I mention it is FREE?) click here. If you already know you are a yes, simply scroll to the bottom of that page, enter your email, and get ready to elevate your life!

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Eps 81: Making room for empathy with Melissa Benaroya

Today's guest is Melissa Benaroya. Melissa is a licensed clinical social worker with 20 years of experience working with children and families. Melissa has a Masters degree in Social Work, is a Credentialed School Counselor and is trained in Positive Discipline. She is also a Certified Gottman Educator offering the Bringing Baby Home Program for families with young children and workshops on Emotion Coaching. Melissa practices as a parenting consultant, coach and speaker to groups and individuals by blending her clinical training with her knowledge of child development and discipline. In 2011 she co-authored the book The Childproof Parent.

Melissa lives in Seattle with her husband and two children and keeps her sanity with an active lifestyle of running and Crossfit!

“Empathy is the ability to feel and understand what another person may be feeling but ultimately … it means connection … and feeling understood.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

·      Learning to use empathy as a first response and a parenting tool

·      Empathy as reflecting your child’s feeling back to them versus owning their feelings or relating our own personal experiences

·      How using personal experiences in place of empathy can escalate conflict

·      How to use empathy to help your child build emotional resilience

·      Using empathy effectively to help your child feel heard

·      Empathy as a practice and a gradual learning process

·      Childhood developmental milestones in empathy

·      How to model empathy for your kids

·      Using the “Fake It Til You Become It” approach to empathy in your parenting

·      Being mindful of your physical self in how you demonstrate and model empathy

·      Parenting from the couch as a barrier to empathy

·      Echoing, mirroring and repetition as empathy

·      The power of validation in feeling heard – when looking on the bright side gets in the way

·      Empathy as a transferrable skill.

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

It takes courage to take risks and try new things and that’s where joy exists. It’s what parenting requires of us – taking risks and trying new things. Empathy might be taking a risk because it doesn’t feel natural and we are going to have to take lots of risks and try new things throughout our parenting journey. It not only makes us a better parent but it also helps us to grow as an individual and that’s where the joy exists.

Resources:

The Child-proof Parent
Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges

Where to find Melissa:

Website
Child-proof Parenting website
Facebook
Twitter

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FEED 3,000

LET'S FEED SOME PEOPLE!!

I would love to invite you to join me in making 3,000 snack sacks over the next three months and take them to organizations that serve the hungry!!

Not one of us can make all those lunches ourselves - BUT ALL OF US TOGETHER SURE CAN!!

So here is the plan, host a gathering at your house and invite other families over. Have each family bring some supplies and together make as many snack sacks as you can!!

Click here for the Feed 3,000 Facebook Event Link

Click her to go donate to the Feeding America page.

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Eps 80: Rachel Macy Stafford encourages us to choose Only Love Today

Today’s guest is Rachel Macy Stafford, founder of Handsfree Mama, best selling author and special education teacher. We are discussing letting go of distractions so you can focus on what really matters. Join us!

“There is no space for perfection in parenting and living boldly. I want to live bravely, boldly, flawed and full of hope.”

What you’ll hear in this episode: 

  • Parenting and opportunities to choose to be mindful
  • Avoiding getting caught up in the moment as a practice
  • Making a “presence” pledge to yourself
  • Surrendering and learning to let go of control and expectations of mastery or of a certain outcome
  • Raising future adults and allowing space for practice
  • Self-care and the importance of “do nothing” moments
  • The value of physical self-care

Resources:

Only Love Today – pre-order until March 7

Where to find Rachel:

Website l Facebook l Twitter

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FEED 3,000

LET'S FEED SOME PEOPLE!!

I would love to invite you to join me in making 3,000 snack sacks over the next three months and take them to organizations that serve the hungry!!

Not one of us can make all those lunches ourselves - BUT ALL OF US TOGETHER SURE CAN!!

So here is the plan, host a gathering at your house and invite other families over. Have each family bring some supplies and together make as many snack sacks as you can!!

Click here for the Feed 3,000 Facebook Event Link

Click her to go donate to the Feeding America page.

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ParentMap is proud to present Dr. Laura Kastner for Tame the Tears: Parenting Positively on Tuesday, Feb. 28 at The Brockey Conference Center in West Seattle. Learn skills to help encourage positive behavior, manage those dreaded tantrums (yours and theirs!), teach emotional intelligence and strengthen the needed bond between child and parent.

Tickets on sale now.

https://www.parentmap.com/article/beat-the-tears-parenting-positively

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Eps 79: Mary Jo Lorei Helps us Bring Back the Romance

Today’s guest is Mary Jo Lorei, a coach who focuses on relationships and connections. We are discussing love, romance and intimacy after becoming parents. Join us!

“It’s less about the action you take. We look for the action. There’s so many different actions you can take, it doesn’t really matter. The experience is about the connection to your heart. It’s about being connected to what really matters. The actions won’t sustain you or your relationship. Listen to your heart and let that inspire you.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

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•    Finding time for intimacy
•    The importance of intimacy – finding your why
•    Intimacy as parenting: part of role modeling healthy relationships
•    Creating an invitation to intimacy: first steps
•    Masculine and feminine energy – what’s the difference and why they are both in all of us
•    Balancing energy to promote your child’s autonomy
•    Vulnerability, touch and exploring connection
•    Vulnerability as strength
•    Relationships take two people, but relating takes one.
•    Putting up a screen to filter inputs vs putting up a shield
•    Distinguishing sex and intimacy – moving beyond euphemism
•    Connecting to “adjust the volume” vs “turning from off to on” – making smooth transitions to intimacy through ongoing mindfulness and connection
•    Reminding our partner and ourselves of what we appreciate about each other
•    Resolving disconnection through self-celebration and self-care
•    How to be curious about identifying and problem solving barriers to intimacy
•    Engaging universal parenting skills that we practice with our kids
•    The power of “I’ve Missed You” and remembering the intention
•    Improving the likelihood of successful connection through celebration and reverence vs. complaint
•    Letting go of expectations to leave space for what comes naturally     

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

The fun in being courageous is getting on that super big rollercoaster. It’s not just about death defying acts of meeting demons. It’s really fun to be courageous because it brings amazing results. Connecting those two words is so important because it takes courage to be joyful and how amazing is courage when it has joy in it. It means to be inspired.

Where to find MaryJo:

Maryjolorei.com
Boldly embody life

 

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FEED 3,000

LET'S FEED SOME PEOPLE!!

I would love to invite you to join me in making 3,000 snack sacks over the next three months and take them to organizations that serve the hungry!!

Not one of us can make all those lunches ourselves - BUT ALL OF US TOGETHER SURE CAN!!

So here is the plan, host a gathering at your house and invite other families over. Have each family bring some supplies and together make as many snack sacks as you can!!

Click here for the Feed 3,000 Facebook Event Link

Click her to go donate to the Feeding America page.

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One on one coaching will take your parenting to the NEXT LEVEL :) Email me directly to book an exploratory call.

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Eps 78: Jasen Frelot and I get real about race and racism

Today’s guest is Jason Frelot. Jasen is a community organizer, father, early childhood educator and social justice advocate based in Seattle, WA.  Along with directing Columbia City Preschool of Arts and Culture, he is the co-founder of Kids and Race Seattle, which has been featured in Parent Map Magazine and on NPRs Seattle Affiliate KUOW; the program has served over 500 people to date and rising every month.  His various actions around race and social justice have made front page news in Seattle and have been featured on local news numerous times. He has 15 years of working with children in various capacities.

“What we are going for here is real change. What we are going for here is a real conversation that is messy. That means diving deeper into that discomfort.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

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    Racial identity and the inherent problems with color blindness
     How we are teaching white children to be racist and brown/black children they don’t have value (even though we don’t mean to)
    How to respond to uncomfortable questions about race and social order
    Silence and it’s role in reinforcing the status quo
    The role of parenting in promoting diversity
    Equality vs equity – what’s the difference?
    Treating everyone the same and how it perpetuates inequity
    Acknowledging the reality of now: the problem with discussing racism as history and other’s people’s problem
    Achievement gaps vs opportunity gaps
    Fear of being labeled racist and how it detracts from race focused conversation.
    Acknowledging racism as a problem in order to address it
    Understanding white privilege – situational power, structural power and individual power.
    The relationship between privilege and struggle – how they can both be present
    Race as an ongoing conversation
    Impacts of opting out of race-focused conversations due to the magnitude of the issue and the responsibility to persevere
    Recognizing your role in the problem and in how to fix it
    The role of media in how our children view the world and the value of other people - what kids see and what they hear: which impacts children more in the conclusions they draw about the world
    Analogy and allegory vs. representation and conversation in media
    Role modeling respect in our relationships
    Consciously exposing children to diversity
    Equipping our teachers to have conversations about race
    How to be the squeaky wheel about promoting diversity
    Silence as violence: choosing to be uncomfortable and vocal to incite change
    Handling pushback and using criticism as an access point to empathy as an ally

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage is talking to your kids about race in a joyful way with a smile on your face. There’s a lot of negativity and rage, rightly so, around this conversation and I, in my workshops, really try to have people leave with a smile on their face. It’s never fun to learn we are unintentionally teaching our kids to be racists. No one wants to hear that but what is fun is having a role in solving a big problem – feeling like you have power, that’s fun. That’s good news! There’s a lot of joy in that! It takes courage to acknowledge we have a blind spot -that there’s something I can do better – to boldly go where very few white people have gone before. It takes courage and it takes joyful courage. I can’t say enough how important it is to be joyful in what it is that we are doing. Go forth, joyfully, be happy about it, have some fun, smile, laugh because this is a long haul. If we’re always miserable about it, we are never going to get where we need to be.

Resources:
Culturally responsive teaching and the brain
Kids and Race Resources

Where to find Jason:
Columbia City Preschool of Arts and Culture, a brand new, social justice based program. Now enrolling for this Spring, and the upcoming school year. for more information go to columbiacitypreschool.org

Kids and Race: Changing the Narrative. March 11th at Epiphany. Tickets available. Contact for future events and information kidsandrace@gmail.com.

Speaking opportunities:
kidsandrace@gmail.com
The Well Queen Anne

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FAMILY MEETING ECOURSE - STARTS FEBRUARY 20TH

The Family Meeting Ecourse is a six week program that will guide you in the process of creating space and excitement for Family Meetings.  You will receive emails every Monday that will inspire and motive you to create a routine that works for your unique family.

This will transform the climate of your home.

Click here for more information!

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FEED 3,000

LET'S FEED SOME PEOPLE!!

I would love to invite you to join me in making 3,000 snack sacks over the next three months and take them to organizations that serve the hungry!!

Not one of us can make all those lunches ourselves - BUT ALL OF US TOGETHER SURE CAN!!

So here is the plan, host a gathering at your house and invite other families over. Have each family bring some supplies and together make as many snack sacks as you can!!

Click here for the Feed 3,000 Facebook Event Link

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Eps 77: Carrie Anne Killeen talks about parenting for our soul

Carrie Anne Killeen is a Conscious Parent coach who specializes in assisting parents in increasing peace, love, joy, grace and ease in the home.  After living 20 years with a very critical view of herself and those around her, she realized how much love had been missing from her own childhood.  Using her children as her biggest teachers, she learned how to heal her own childhood wounds with love, compassion, forgiveness and inner truth.  She is deeply dedicated to creating a more peaceful world for children and parents. Carrie Anne inspires parents to see beyond their children’s behaviors to see the hidden truth and wisdom that lies inside their heart and soul.  Carrie Anne is a peaceful, single mom of three amazing and highly soulful daughters.  She is currently living her heart’s dream in Massachusetts.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

    Working through emotional triggers with forgiveness and loving your inner child.
    The need to exercising self-compassion as you process emotions
•    Emotional purging in a conscious way to move to an easier parenting journey
•    Moving passed mindfulness and consciousness to peacefulness
•    Functioning as a peaceful human being
•    Moving from “doing” to “being”
•    The value of peaceful presence, free of emotional trigger, for your kids
•    Modelling ownership of behavior for your kids
•    Peacefulness as a practice that takes time
    Parenting as an extension of nature: gradually forging new pathways in your relationships and being expansive, not staying “stuck”
    The healing power of authenticity with your kids
•    Aiming for perseverance and presence, not perfection
•    Exercising compassion for others and recognizing we don’t know their struggles
•    Learning how not to try to control others and focus on self to remain peaceful
•    Journalling as a practice to release emotions
•    Finding opportunities for stillness
•    Releasing others from the responsibility for reading your mind
•    Shifting to a solution focus to create momentum
•    Fear: being curious about it to avoid being driven by it
•    Showing up in your own home to make a difference in the world
•    Practical ways to nourish yourself
•    Unconditional love – what does that look like?

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful to me is about being present in the moment, choosing to look on the positive side of it. To that actually takes courage. We have a lot of stuff that we have to overcome to be joyful, more joyful. Courage is such an amazing word. I think people have a lot of courage but I don’t think people really know how much courage they can have. To harmonize both of them, and what I feel in your community, is that you can have both of them and be in balance and that’s a beautiful recipe for having a successful and happy life which I feel is available for everybody.

 Where to find Carrie Ann:  Facebook l Website

3 part webinar series on emotional triggers (link coming!)

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Family Meeting Ecourse - Starts February 20th

The Family Meeting Ecourse is a six week program that will guide you in the process of creating space and excitement for Family Meetings.  You will receive emails every Monday that will inspire and motive you to create a routine that works for your unique family.

This will transform the climate of your home.

Click here for more information!

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Feed 3,000

LET'S FEED SOME PEOPLE!!

I would love to invite you to join me in making 3,000 snack sacks over the next three months and take them to organizations that serve the hungry!!

Not one of us can make all those lunches ourselves - BUT ALL OF US TOGETHER SURE CAN!!

So here is the plan, host a gathering at your house and invite other families over. Have each family bring some supplies and together make as many snack sacks as you can!!

Click here for the Feed 3,000 Facebook Event Link

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Join the Joyful CourageTribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage.  Raising our children while growing ourselves...

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January World Changers: Natalie Christensen and Nathan M McTague, Creators of Feeleez

Full-time parents Natalie Christensen and Nathan M McTague are the founders of the Center for Emotional Education, with the mission to neurally empower individuals and families through emotional and strategic support.  They offer a comprehensive line-up of courses, one-to-one coaching support, and Feeleez - a full set of emotional education tools.  Natalie and Nathan have been working for over a decade helping families and individuals feel better, do better, and become the best possible versions of themselves. Their next mini-course – Forget Everything Else: The 5 Do-or-Die Parenting Concepts, starts February 13th.

websites:

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Eps 76: Patty Wipfler, Founder of Hand in Hand Parenting, Teaches us how to Listen

Patty Wipfler is the Hand in Hand Parenting Founder and Program Director. Her 40 years of work with parents and children has given rise to Parenting by Connection, a simple but powerful parenting approach that nurtures the parent-child connection. Her Hand in Hand team trains parent leaders in the US and 10 other countries, and offers accessible support for the vital work of parenting. With co-author Tosha Schore, she has written the book, Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. And Her Listening to Children booklets have sold over 800,000 copies in English, Spanish, and 10 other languages. She is the mother of two sons, and grandmother to three.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

    Active listening and how it helps people notice how they feel about their own experiences

     How being listened to and being able to sort through feelings can help activate problem solving.

    The impact of our own childhood experiences on how we perceive challenges in our children’s lives

    Parenting by connection and its relationship with positive discipline.

    Influencing and using presence, setting limits to encourage better behavior.

    How to hold space for your child who is emotionally elevated and let them deal with big feelings

    Letting your child feel the feelings and its impact on the healing process

    The size of the trigger relative to the depth of hurt – helping your child navigate big feelings

    Emotional upset as efficiently releasing tension

    Listening partnerships and how they can alleviate parenting stress and facilitate better parenting

    Emotional projects: ongoing parenting challenges and how to address them

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage is a human being’s birthright to be joyfully courageous. Joyful courage means to me what a one year old will sometimes do to pull themselves up so they can stand up next to a table or as a toddler is trying to walk across the room it’s like they don’t care what happens, they are just going to try it and they are proud of themselves as they do it. I think it’s the attitude towards life that we are born with, that we get to keep if we aren’t hurt too badly. Sometimes you have to work on hurt to get your birthright back.

Resources:

Listen: 5 simple tools for meeting your every day parenting challenges 

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Hand in Hand Parenting  i Instagram l Facebook l Twitter l Youtube

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Eps 75: Marcilie Smith Boyle Shares Research and Brain Science Behind Positive Discipline

Today’s guest is Marcilie Smith Boyle, a Certified Positive Discipline Trainer and Certified Life and Leadership Coach who teaches Positive Discipline courses live and online, coaches individuals and groups on transitions and parenting, as well as life coaching and executive leadership coaching. We are discussing the science and research of Positive Discipline. Join us!

“ The tip of the iceberg is what you can see – that’s your child’s behavior, but underneath the surface so much more is going on.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

    Emerging neuro-scientific research about social psychology informed by function MRIs and PET scans.
     Principles of Positive Discipline – looking underneath behavior to build skills for long term better behavior.
    Adlerian theory, the foundation of Positive Discipline
•    The connection between behavior and a sense of belonging
•    How mutual respect informs better behavior
•    The right to dignity and the value of solutions relative to rewards and punishments
•    Intrinsic motivation, what it is and why it matters long term.
•    The social nature of humans and how that relates to theories of the hierarchy of needs
•    The link between physical and social pain and the connection between learning and belonging
    The impact of fight or flight on empathy, learning and problem solving skills
•    Relatedness, competence and autonomy and the way they influence behavior and feed intrinsic motivation
    The positive outcomes of met psychological needs in relation to health, creativity, persistence, flexibility, adjustment, well-being, enjoyment, cooperation, engagement and interest.
    Why rewards and praise sometimes backfire: the relationship between contingent rewards, autonomy and behavior
    Baby steps to deepen your positive parenting practice
•   The difference made when we get eye to eye with our kids

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Courage is about being brave, about feeling some fear but doing it anyways. That takes determination and focus. Courage has a feeling of seriousness. When you add Joyful to it, it adds some fun and lightness. Joyful Courage is about being courageous in a fun way. It’s a choice about how you want to practice your bravery.

Resources:

Positive Discipline
Social by Matthew Lieberman
Hidden Costs of Reward – Mark R. Lepper
 

Upcoming Offers from Marcilie:
February 8th:: 6 Obstacles to Peaceful, Positive Parenting – Free tele-class
Starting March 1st: Peaceful Parents, Cooperative Kids Interactive Virtual Workshop Series – 8 week series 

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Eps 74: Talking to Melissa Brown About Blended Families

Today’s guest is Melissa Brown, a blended family podcaster who works with stepfamilies. We are going to talk about blended families and the challenges they face. Join us!

 “Raising children is the biggest rollercoaster ride of your life.”

What you’ll hear in this episode: 

  • The biggest challenge facing blended families today
  • Dealing with drama while protecting kids from triangulation
  • The value of a child-centered approach when navigating difficult relationships with exes
  • The importance of self-awareness, love and patience in creating a positive environment for kids.
  • How to use problem solving tools you use with your kids with your exes to improve relationships
  • Learning to identify what you can’t control and how to deal with that
  • The mixed blessing and additional pressure of sibling rivalry on blended families and how to handle it
  • How to empower your kids for conflict resolution in blended families and learning to stay out of it, resisting the temptation to “fix” things
  • Protecting your relationship from blended family drama
  • Bonding with step kids – particularly teenagers – keeping an open mind.
  • Finding an entry point for building connection
  • Flexibility and scheduling in blended families
  • Routines and rituals – creating a sense of belonging
  • Consistency between houses, managing energy and big feelings.
  • Leveraging patterns in your blended family – approaching problems with curiosity
  • Dealing with (and expecting) setbacks and recovering when things don’t go as planned

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

It takes a lot of courage to blend a family – it’s not always an easy journey. Joyful courage to me means understanding the importance of finding joy even through the pain in life. Our biggest growth and our biggest lessons always come from hard times.

Where to find Melissa:

Blended family podcast l Facebook l Twitter

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Eps 73: Dr. Ross Greene Schools us in Effective Problem Solving

Today’s guest is Ross Greene, an acclaimed author and parenting educator who works with kids with behavioral challenges. We are discussing how collaborative, proactive problem solving can reduce parenting challenges. Join us!

“Kids have information we badly need. If we don’t get that information we are at risk of plunging forward with uninformed solutions based on what we think is going on. Our theories and assumptions are often wrong. If you get what’s the matter wrong, your solution won’t work. The least fallible source of information is the kid.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The role of problem solving in managing challenging behaviors 
  • Why sticker charts and rationing of privileges doesn’t work for this demographic
  • Making collaborative and proactive solutions work for your family
  • Changing your mission: finding out what is getting in your kid’s way
  • The benefit of a skills based approach – coaching skills improvement through problem solving
  • The difference between control and influence
  • Parenting and education as partnering and helping
  • Collaborative vs unilateral problem solving
  • Prioritizing unmet expectations to plan proactive problem solving
  • Getting out of the heat of the moment in your parenting 
  • Three steps to proactive problem solving
  • The need for realistic, mutually satisfying solutions
  • The danger of too many solutions
  • Differentiating between a failure and a solution that wasn’t mutually beneficial, realistic or incomplete
  • The messy but crucial nature of problem solving
  • Perfection vs improvement over time – being realistic about goals
  • Focusing on the right thing: learning to focus on the root cause of behavior vs the behavior itself. 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you? 

There is courage that comes along with being a parent, a teacher and a staff member and doing something different because what you are finding is that what you are doing now isn’t working. I’m delighted to say that there are many many parents, educators and facilities who have had that courage and they have been remarkably helpful to their children, their students and the children in their care and that should bring them a great deal of joy as well. It takes courage to take a look at what you are doing, think about it, and try to do something differently.

Resources:

The explosive child
Lost at School
Lost and Found
Raising Human Beings
The Drilling Cheat Sheet
The B Team – Facebook Group
Elevate Your Parenting – Facebook Group
Lost & Found – Facebook Group for Educators
Lives in the Balance – Facebook Group for Clinicians

 Where to find Dr. Greene:

Lives In the Balance
Facebook
Twitter
Centre for Collaborative Problem Solving
Dr. Ross Greene

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December World Changer: Lauren Gamble shares her organization, Bibs for Kids

Today’s guest is Lauren Gamble of Bibs for Kids. She helps kids struggling with illness, impoverishment and prematurity by selling bibs and donating 10% of proceeds to causes. Her son was born premature and she was inspired to help others after spending time in the NICU with her new baby. Join us in learning about how to give back to kids in need this holiday season (and every day)!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

    Life in the NICU – the challenges of prematurity with even a healthy baby, infant health challenges, bonding with other parents facing the same circumstances and 12 long days where time seemed to stand still

    Causes Bibs For Kids supports: premature birth, pediatric HIV, pediatric cerebral palsy, childhood hunger, childhood cancer, and autism

    Prematurity awareness –  the selection of this cause was influenced by her own experiences with her son (who is now 4 months old) and the ongoing relationships she’s had with fellow NICU families from their stay

    Pediatric cerebral palsy – the family connection to this challenging disease and how her relationship with her cousin and aunt led her to want to give back in this way

    Pediatric HIV – the family Lauren knows who adopted an HIV positive child and how their life experiences impacted her decision to support this important cause

    Autism – Awareness of early detection and the need for education and intervention are so key to positive outcomes for children living with Autism

    Childhood cancer – 720 kids diagnosed every day in America – why research and awareness is so important

    Childhood hunger – a cause that’s closer to home than we think and not just an overseas problem

    Customer response to Bibs for Kids, donations and partnerships

    The holiday season: thankfulness for good health and a reason to give

    Ways to help when you don’t have kids who wear bibs or don’t have babies in your life– donate $5 and have a bib sent to a child in need

Where to find Lauren:

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Eps 72: Denise LaRosa shares her children's book, her podcast, building community, and OPRAH!

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DENISE LAROSA is the founder, host and CEO of Mom Talk with Denise LaRosa, LLC, a multimedia platform designed to motivate, inspire and inform mothers along their journey in motherhood. Denise utilizes her parenting experiences and background as an elementary educator to bring mothers invaluable information and resources on parenting through her podcast, blog and workshops. 

A devoted wife and mother of two precious girls, Denise is also an elementary school teacher. She earned her Bachelor of Arts degree in dance (Magna cum Laude) from Radford University in 2003 and graduated from Carlow University in 2008 with a Master of Education degree in elementary education.

Empty Shoes is Denise's first children's book. She plans to write many more for you to enjoy.

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Eps71: Rosalind Wiseman is on talking about friendship roles and teaching dignity for all

Today’s guest is Rosalind Wiseman, a mom of boys and political scientist who works with teenagers in a professional capacity through an organization called Cultures of Dignity. We are going to talk about the social lives of teenagers. Join us!

“Look for your champion moment and step in.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

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    The struggle to balance maintaining friendships and handle power imbalances and how that flows into abusive romantic relationships later on
    Media depictions of relationships and how they impact teenage perceptions of acceptable and normal behaviors
•    Impacts of the election cycle on teenage behavior and normalization of racism and bad behavior and the resulting need for parents to promote inclusion
•    How to promote diversity and equal dignity for all by helping your children recognize the difference between healthy curiosity and put-downs
•     The importance of coaching your child on how to participate in respectful dialogue and redirecting conversations without reinforcing stigma
•    How to support teachers in a changing political climate while they deal with teens struggling with uncertainty
•    The role of education in supporting problem solving and critical thinking
•    Common roles in teen social groups and the associated challenges of raising: queen bees, side kicks, banker, mastermind, associate, bouncer, entertainer, conscience, champion, victim/target, pleaser, the messenger
•    Helping your kids practice for their champion moment
•    Backstabbing and the role of the messenger
•    How to teach your kids that a disagreement isn’t the end of the relationship
•    How to use and coach the SEAL formula – how to speak when you are angry
•    The similarities between conflict in teen relationships and videogames battles
•    The difference between bullying and lack of relationship skills
•    Giving space and listening to boys during puberty
•    Relationship repair following insights acquired during parenting education

Resources

Queen Bees and Wannabes
Masterminds and Wingmen
Owning Up

Where to find Rosalind:

Her Website
Facebook
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Instagram
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Eps 70: Luna Leverett Helps Us get Real About the Holidays

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Today’s guest is Luna Leverett, a mom to 12 and 11 year old, and a public speaker who helps overwhelmed women find peace in life by simplifying things. We are going to talk about getting real with the holidays. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

    Being the magic makers: doing all the things
    Creating happy memories not just of the holidays and of parents for your kids
    Christmas cards – do you really need to send them?
    Managing expectations – fantasy vs reality
    Avoiding resentment
    How to design the holiday you want to have – focus on the 3 Ms
    What is YOUR mission? Separating that from expectations of others
    Minutae –picking activities and details that support your mission
    Move it – assess which activities that you can enjoy at another time of the year to focus on your mission
    Elf on a Shelf – effectiveness as a behavior modification tool, another thing on your to do list
    Giving yourself permission not to do the same things as everyone else – peer pressure
    Focusing on the things that bring you joy
    Taking the “shoulds” out of the season

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“Courage to me is head down, get it done, life is going to be hard at times and you might doubt yourself or feel other people doubting you and you’re just going to have to go out and do it regardless. But joyful courage to me is a picture of having chin up, smile on your face, and for me, parenting. It takes a lot of courage to take on the responsibility of raising what needs to grow up to be responsible adults and those little lives are in your hands for such a young age. But you can do it scared, or you can do it with joy even in the arguments and even in the hard times, that there’s always joy to be found. If it’s just the sweet relationship you have with each of these people in your family that gives you what you need to go out and do the courageous job of parenting with your chin up, with a smile on your face.”

Where to find Luna:

Website

Facebook

Podcast: Confessions Behind the Minivan

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Eps 69: Laurie Prusso Hatch Helps us Understand Hurtful Behavior in Young Kids

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Today’s guest is Laurie Hatch, a “radical grandma” with strong ideas and opinions about how children who can be raised. She has eleven kids, 44 grandkids and has worked in education, now consulting and training. We are going to talk about kids under 5 and how to handle aggressive behavior. Join us!

“If I could teach parents one thing it would be: never expect kids to share. Kids do not share until the ages of 4 and 5 when it becomes important to them to have a playmate who stays with them and collaborates”

“Sharing is one of the most inappropriate expectations we have in childhood and a huge trigger. We were taught to be nice and share and that if you don’t share you aren’t nice.”

“About the time we start to figure out parenting, we are done”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

    Exploring the language we use to describe behaviors our kids engage in
*    How separating ourselves from our children’s behavior changes how we describe and perceive it
*     Sibling rivalry and how we help create it
*    The role of supervision in mitigating sibling conflict
*    What is scaffolding and how does it relate to correcting behavior?
*    Setting reasonable expectations around kid’s ability to self-regulate: improvement vs. mastery
*    Child development and how that impacts how sibling conflict plays out
*    Resolving conflict through curiosity
*    Naturalist observational report: talking to kids about what happened absent of judgment and assumption
*    Sharing