Eps 176: Sid Garza-Hillman talking about small steps to a thriving family

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Today’s guest is Sid Garza-Hillman, who is a podcaster and youtuber. He's the author of Approaching the Natural: A Health Manifesto and Raising Healthy Parents, Small Steps, Less Stress and a Thriving Family. Sid graduated from UCLA with a BA in philosophy and is a public speaker, certified nutritionist and Small Steps Coach. He teaches people around the world his unique small steps approach to healthy living at www.smallsteppers.com. His latest podcast, What Sid Thinks is currently available on iTunes. Sid is the Wellness Programs Director at the Stanford Inn Eco Resort. He's an ultra runner and race director for the Mendocino coast 50k trail ultra marathon. Join us!

 

"However you want to parent, you can't pull that off unless you're feeling good in your life”

 

“If we can sort of tip the scales in our favor most of the time, then we win the day”

 

“We are not robots. Our kids aren't robots. We're humans with human emotions and experiences and lenses and it's just so messy.”

 

“If we can really focus on how we be and how we show up, that's going to inspire, inform, empower and influence what we do.”

 

“Maybe the perfect version of the human being is one that that is about self care and compassion and has a core of ethic that informs their actions most of the time. ”

 

“Who am I at my best?”

 

“You've been defining yourself by how you've been in the external world, when that's been in complete conflict with actually what you stand for and what you value.”

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

·       Breaking old patterns and habits - managing expectations

·       The knowledge and implementation gap

·       Small Stepping - what is it and what does

·       Are poor choices your problem or your solution?

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·       Finding ways to manage stress and making choices to increase the likelihood of success

·       Dissipating stress - making healthier choices to do so

·       Setting the stage for actual change vs relying on willpower

·       Identifying who you are as a parent

·       Reminding yourself of who you are

·       Change as a process of coming into alignment with who you really are

·       Mistakes as a way to model the human experience

·       Dealing with making mistakes with your kids

·       What is a small step?

·       The Goldilocks effect of stress - what is it and how do you find it??

·       The value of outside interests in parenting and relationships

·       The role of joy in how you show up as a parent

·       Finding 10 minute pockets of joy and what to fill it with

·       The role of self care in our attitude towards parenting

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I would say even people who listen to your podcast, I would say people who, who are even thinking about making improvements as a parent, there was a huge, to me, an inspiring level of courage there that we are saying in the midst of a very challenging world, that's all I'm sure has always been challenging, but we always think this is the most challenging, but for whatever reasons it seems challenging. Yet in spite of that and in spite of the things we read on the news about horrible things that happen in schools and all these kinds of things, in spite of that we're showing up and we're taking our kids and we're doing the best we can and we want to do better. And there's an amazing amount of courage in that simply that decision then to take that further and say, I not only want it, but I want to do it is again, it actually is courageous in the real true meaning of the word. Where I see joyful part of that is to me, my interpretation of that is that it is all to the end of joy, it is all to the end of we do this because we love our kids and we do this because we want to have a meaningful life. And that includes raising families, for many people. And you know, the most meaningful thing for me is raising my children and like we talked about before, you know, letting them see my flaws and letting and my wife letting them see her flaws and understanding there's a certain beauty in that and a joy in that and growing strong kids to be okay with their flaws is just awesome. So anyway, that's where I see joyful courage.

 

Resources:

Raising Healthy Parents: Small Steps, Less Stress and a Thriving Family

Approaching the Natural: A Health Manifesto

Small Steppers

 

Where to find Sid:

Website

What Sid Thinks Podcast

Youtube

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Eps 142: Collective Impact and Moving Past our Whiteness

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Today is a solo show…. I am getting vulnerable once again and shedding light on an area that I am not so proud of AND see as an opportunity for us all to grow as humans in relationship with each other.

The white bubble.

I know I am not the only person that lives a really homogenous life when it comes to diversity. AND, I know that many of you can celebrate LOTS of diversity in your life and relationships.

Today I just wanted to call myself and anyone else in the community out in an effort to DO BETTER. The world is made up of a variety of people, from a diverse pool of cultures, experiences, and backgrounds.

When I look out into the “positive parenting” world, I see lots of white faces. When I think about the people that listen to my show and participate in my community, I see a lot of white faces.

I love all those white faces AND, I am recognizing that I could do more to bring more diverse voices onto the show and into our community – and into MY personal life as well.  AND, because I get to speak from the platform of Joyful Courage, I get to be transparent and invite you all to join me.

Whew!

I am excited! We all get to take steps to shift the way the world is currently operating, and those of us with privilege, even if it is simply the color of our skin, have a part to play in that shift. I hope you will join me.

And for those of you in the community who ARE people of color, please feel free to reach out and let me know how I can do better! I value your voice. Help me find guests that can tell stories and give support from a POV that is different from my middle class white woman lens.

I love you all!

Thank you for listening!!

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Eps 124: Conscious Communication with Lori Petro

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Content:

My guest today is Lori Petro.  Lori is passionate about conscious parenting and was a guest on Episode 62. She is an advocate for children and families, a parent educator, mama and founder of Teach Through Love.

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  • Lori’s journey began as being a misunderstood kid… Followed by HAVING a child and wanting to provide her with something different than what she experienced

  • Lori is a creator/artist at heart wanting to created compassion and understanding in our communication with each other

  • Inspired to create a better world for her kid and everyone else to live in

  • Conscious communication cards

    • Conscious communication – supporting parents in taking their understanding of conscious parenting into the language and way of being they bring to their relationships

    • Staying present and leaving the blame, shame, judgment and guilt behind

  • Communication includes messages we deliver with what we SAY, as well as what we DON’T say, our tone, our body language – we are always sending messages

  • Parents do TO the children to get them to be what we want them to be…. It’s about allowing our kids HAVE THE EXPERIENCE and learning from there

  • SEEING our children in their emotion/experience

  • They are there to provoke us in our own self awareness

  • Listening to understand…. Lean in to understanding our children’s experience and what it is like to BE them… (Lori shares lip gloss story) Otherwise we miss the fullness of what is their life (Casey shares crop top story)

  • Not about saying the perfect right thing, it’s about continuing the conversation with our kids around the places where we want a deeper understanding

    • Tell me more about that…

    • It’s bigger than the make-up and the crop top

    • Opens up conversation

  • Conversations to understand vs conversation that are ultimately begun to convince our kids that we are right and they are wrong

  • 20:40 Aware of when our agenda of fear is clouding their experience of growing into their own maturity

  • Conscious parenting is not one long negotiation

    • Being firm is a piece of it

    • Be ok when kids don’t like the boundary

  • Conscious communication cards

    • Came from ideas that Lori posted on line every week

    • Developed into a model for her parenting program

    • Stress/skills/support

      • Am I looking to help my child regulate? (stress)

      • Am I trying to help my child build and emerging skill? (skills)

      • Am I trying to mend/repair relationship? (support)

    • Divided into two section

      • Behaviors/words to avoid

      • Examples of what to say/directions to go in

    • Target cards

      • What you can look for to find the root cause of behavior

      • 5 steps for peaceful resolution

    • Parents use the cards in many different ways

      • Post them in their world

      • Sit with them at the end of the day and review them

    • IT’S A PRACTICE

      • Daily

      • Progress not perfection (even for Lori)

    • Our brains never stop developing and we can always learn new skills

      • We still have not great parenting moments but we OWN IT

    • Lori shares about her personal practices

      • Finding work/life balance

      • Meditation

      • DAILY mindfulness

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Not doing things that my heart doesn’t want to do – to not do anything because I was guilted into it, then I am not doing it because I want to , but because I feel less of myself. And I am trying to move out of any victim thinking, or less than thinking…  Up our self worth as parents then offer that to our kids.

Where to find Lori: 

Website l Facebook

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Eps 37: Dr. Laura Markham on holding space for siblings to get along

I am so excited to share this conversation with listeners...  Dr. Laura Markham is one of the leading voices in the parenting arena and full of easy to digest tips and tools for parents with kids of all ages!

I was BEYOND honored when she agreed to come on my show!

Listen in as we talk all about how to create space for our kids to get along, explore what keeps kids from connecting, and dig in to how one on one time with each of our children actually helps the sibling bond grow.

Dr. Laura's bio from her website:

Dr. Laura Markham trained as a Clinical Psychologist, earning her PhD from Columbia University.  But she's also a mom, so she translates proven science into the practical solutions you need for the family life you want.

The founding editor of AhaParenting.com, Dr. Laura also serves as a parenting expert for Mothering.com, Psychology Today, The Natural Parent Magazine, Pregnancy.org, Girlie Girl Army, SheKnows.com, and several other websites.  She makes frequent TV and radio appearances and has been interviewed for hundreds of articles by publications as diverse as The Wall Street Journal, Real Simple, Newsday, Men's Health, Redbook and Parents Magazine.

Dr. Laura's relationship-based parenting model has helped thousands of families across the U.S. and Canada find compassionate, common-sense solutions to everything from separation anxiety and sleep problems to sass talk and cell phones. She lives in Brooklyn, New York, with her husband and two terrific kids -- now 20 and 24!

Resources mentioned:
Peaceful Parents, Happy Kids
Peaceful Parents, Happy Siblings
John Gottman's work with couples and marriage

Where to find/follow Dr. Laura's work:
www.ahaparenting.com
Facebook
Twitter

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