Eps 175: A candid conversation with my kids about screen time

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  • It is coming up in the Joyful Courage Parents of Teens community, it is coming up in calls with clients, it is coming up in my own life and practice with my kids

  • FOR CERTAIN: it is a big pain in the ass

Today I am going to share and inquiry from my own experience – not because I know the way, or I have it all figured out, but because I am IN IT with you.

  • Remember last April when I had Dr. Delaney Runston on and we talked about her documentary, Screenagers? There are so many pearls of wisdom and research in my convo with her – be sure to listen or relisten - http://www.joyfulcourage.com/podcast/140

  • I also had a powerful conversation with one of my colleagues, a positive discipline Lead trainer, about this during the teen summit, which is available to invest in through the end of this month at joyfulcourage.com/teensummit

  • I spoke with Kim Muench about this back in episode 82 – Parenting in the Age of Smart phones…

  • Plus, it has come up in loads of other conversations


Here are some of the pain points I am hearing from the community AND experiencing myself:

  • Limits and boundaries

  • How much to monitor

  • Broken agreements

  • The arguing

  • The internet is forever

  • How will they develop real relationship skills when everything is over text/IM/Snaps

  • Online/SM bullying

  • Sexting/nudes

  • How much time is too much time to be on their phones

  • How to be the lone parents who waits to get their child a phone

  • How to support kids with friends when they don’t have SM/phones

  • Restricting what they do/see on their devices

  • Begin real and honest about our OWN (parents) phone use

  • Using devices as avoidance/escape

 Let’s check in with the kids:

  • How did you feel about making agreements about screens?

  • What is your experience with social media?

  • What do you not like about the phone and SM? What kinds of things do you see happening?

  • Where do you feel like it gets in the way of life? Or do you?

  • What do you like about it?

  • How do you feel about me when I am on your case about your phone use?

  • What do you see me modeling with my phone use?

  • You have some restrictions on your phone – is that helpful?


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Eps 31: Emily Roberts is on Talking Social Media and Kids

I love Emily Roberts!!  There is a good reason she is called "Guidance Girl" - this woman has so many gifts and wisdom to share...  She knows tweens and teens - she has an inside perspective and shares it on the show.

Listen in and broaden your perspective around the online social life of your children.

Emily and I have a candid conversation about what parents should be thinking about and how we can be building relationship through navigating this online social world with our kids....

This is a looooooong podcast because I just can't stop talking to Emily!!

Resources mentioned:

American Girls: How Social Media is Disrupting the Lives of Teenagers
Express Yourself: A Teen Girls Guide to Speaking up and Being Who You Are

Other articles and interview with Emily:

An interview about social media addiction
What Every Parent Needs to Know about Cyberbullying

Follow Emily's work:

One her website
On Facebook
On Twitter
On Pinterest
On Instagram
On YouTube

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Eps 14: Emily Roberts Digs Into Teaching our Daughters About Being Assertive

I was introduced to Emily Roberts on a Facebook group for parent educators that I belong to...  I knew right away that I wanted to know more about her when she introduced herself and shared about her work with tween and teen girls...

I bought her book, Express Yourself, and quickly realized that this woman is LEGIT!  This book, which I am currently reading out loud to me seventh grade daughter is PACKED with so many nuggets of wisdom for our girls...  Not only that, I am finding that I am learning so much from the tips and advice that Emily shares... 

In this podcast interview, Emily and I discuss her book, plus the importance of supporting our girls in growing their assertive muscles...  We touch on friend drama, social media dos and don'ts, as well as why knowing the outcome you want is the first step to actually getting there.

Emily is a dream.  I think you will enjoy the conversation as much as I did!  

Follow Emily:

On her website at theguidancegirl.com
On Facebook at Guidance Girl
On Twitter at @GuidanceGirlEm
On Instagram at @GuidanceGirlEm
On Pinterest at Guidance Girl
On You Tube at The Guidance Girl Channel

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Episode Five: Talking about tweens with Shannon Younger from Tween US

Show Notes:

It was my great pleasure to interview Shannon Younger from Tween US.  You can find her blog on the Chicago Now website.

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Shannon lives with her 12 year old in the suburbs of Chicago and has been blogging on Tween US for the past 3 years...

"When we are feeling pain in our own parenting practices, chances are, other parents are feeling the same way..."  - Casey

Tina Bryson Payne and Dan Siegel - brain development in teens

"Doesn't have to be us vs. them."  - Shannon

"Stand in your firmness within the context of being in relationship with your child."  - Casey

Tweens and Social Media

*  Take the out!  Kids must be 13 to participate

*  So much goes on that parents are unaware of.  Check out your child's friends pages....

*  Remember that internet isn't all bad - it can be a helpful/fun tool

    - Bethany Mota  You Tube Channel

*  Take time to train and develop skills

Smart Phones

*  Communications skills

*  Making agreements/setting boundaries together

*  Central "charging station" at night (Shannon's is in her bedroom)

Lauren Steinberg -  Author of The 10 Basic Principles of Goof Parenting

"My 12 was not the same as your 12, but my 12 was painful too." - Shannon

Stay connected by having fun, sharing laughs and reminding them they are a part of a family.

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